Sup dudes. I have a bit of a story to tell, and it's all real stuff.
The Story
In January of last year, my mom lost her job as an AutoCAD surveyer and has not been able to find employment since. April of that same year, I quit my minimum-wage job at Subway with promise of going to college that Fall and a very part-time, "work when you want" job until then. I had saved up about $2,500 for random expenses I would have to make and just in case something happened to my car, I'd be able to make the full repair.
My mother was having to pay bills every month while living off of unemployment, and would talk of not being able to afford them, so I would take bit by bit out of my savings to help her pay for them, but not without a promise of getting it paid back to me whenever Mom ended up getting a job (which I was hopeful would be soon).
The end of the summer came, around July, and the worst possible scenario happens: My car breaks down. Something to do with water pumps and breaklines being destroyed, but it was about a $1,500 repair. A loud expression of "God **** It!" followed, but I wasn't really concerned because I had quit my job at Subway prepared for this. I get an estimate, and look at my saving's account. My horror was realized when I had only $700 left to my name. I had kept tabs of what I had lent my mother, which totaled to around $900, but I should still have the money left that I need, right? Wrong. Turns out my mother "borrowed" about $800 more without asking me to pay off a mortgage payment that month (of which we were already 4 months behind). Realizing I can't afford the repair, and school was fast approaching (I had to buy textbooks), my car has decided to chill at the bottom of my driveway to collect mold (it leaks) and run its battery power down for the past 7 months or so.
So, I commute to school with mom's car for my semester, and my mom welcomes me one day with a, "You need to find a JOB! You owe me about $500 in insurance/phone bills and I need that money NOW!"
Needless to say, I was a little peeved about this statement.
I had not brought up the money my mother owed me at all, assuming it was a safe understanding between the two of us that she did, in fact, owe me about $1,700 when she got a job and we were stable on money again. I had not been paying insurance for about 3 months because I didn't have a job, so I could understand where she was coming from. However, she seemed to simply ignore the fact that I had dipped into my savings tremendously to help her. I brought up the money she owed me, and I got the response mothers/fathers will eventually use to make their argument unbeatable:
"I brought you into this world. Do you know how much I spent on you up to this point? And plus, since you're 18 now, you don't pay RENT, you don't pay BILLS, all of this **** is stuff I give you for FREE and you don't appreciate it one ****ing bit! /cry"
I just said, "I didn't ask to be borned, mom. I was your mistake and you're blaming me. You can go to someone else with your sob story of how much of a burden I've been on you my whole life." I went to my room and contemplated suicide while she wallowed in her own despair watching MSNBC and Fox News so she can yell at Republicans about how "****ing ********" they are and how much Republicans want to ruin the country.
The Decision
So, it's April of 2010 now. Mom stopped getting unemployment around February, so don't ask me how everything's been getting paid for in terms of bills and stuff. All I know is we're about $10,000 behind in mortgage payments and we ain't got that much dollars to pay. March was supposed to be the month that our house got foreclosed and we were gonna have to find some new place to live, but I guess our "case" is being reviewed by the mortgage company and mom's bought enough time to last until July.
She still does not have a job.
I start my census job in 7 days, the 27th. This job will last for about 12 weeks, and I'll be getting as many hours as I can possibly get to fuel -MY- own agenda, and pay back insurance/phone bills debts I owe my mom (I told her to forget everything she owed me simply because I'm a nice guy like that. Plus, I don't have any way to prove that she owes me money if I were to take her to court...>.>). That means I'll have a job until the end of July or so.
So, mom's about 80/20 on going back to North Carolina to live, where we have family and friends to help her if she needs it. I am not going out of state; I can't afford OoS tuition for any college. Therefore,
I'm going to the military
Once I'm done with my job, this is what I'll be doing and I'll finally be able to part ways with my mother. My decision for doing this has been weighed a thousand times in my head, and I just refuse to let school loans and debt surround and control my life like it does my mother. Entering the military will solve many of those problems for me in exchange for a few meager years of my life. I honestly believe it is a fair trade.
Too Long, Didn't Read
My family is broke and I'm joining the military when she moves back to NC around August or so.
I can't get to any tournaments this weekend because of a lack of vehicular transportation, so I guess I'm just saying "I'll see you guys around."
Hopefully I'll get to go to APEX, but yeah. That's what's goin' on and I felt like my brothers needed to know.
P.S.
This isn't a thread asking for alternate suggestions, it's a thread telling people I'm leaving in a few months.
The Story
In January of last year, my mom lost her job as an AutoCAD surveyer and has not been able to find employment since. April of that same year, I quit my minimum-wage job at Subway with promise of going to college that Fall and a very part-time, "work when you want" job until then. I had saved up about $2,500 for random expenses I would have to make and just in case something happened to my car, I'd be able to make the full repair.
My mother was having to pay bills every month while living off of unemployment, and would talk of not being able to afford them, so I would take bit by bit out of my savings to help her pay for them, but not without a promise of getting it paid back to me whenever Mom ended up getting a job (which I was hopeful would be soon).
The end of the summer came, around July, and the worst possible scenario happens: My car breaks down. Something to do with water pumps and breaklines being destroyed, but it was about a $1,500 repair. A loud expression of "God **** It!" followed, but I wasn't really concerned because I had quit my job at Subway prepared for this. I get an estimate, and look at my saving's account. My horror was realized when I had only $700 left to my name. I had kept tabs of what I had lent my mother, which totaled to around $900, but I should still have the money left that I need, right? Wrong. Turns out my mother "borrowed" about $800 more without asking me to pay off a mortgage payment that month (of which we were already 4 months behind). Realizing I can't afford the repair, and school was fast approaching (I had to buy textbooks), my car has decided to chill at the bottom of my driveway to collect mold (it leaks) and run its battery power down for the past 7 months or so.
So, I commute to school with mom's car for my semester, and my mom welcomes me one day with a, "You need to find a JOB! You owe me about $500 in insurance/phone bills and I need that money NOW!"
Needless to say, I was a little peeved about this statement.
I had not brought up the money my mother owed me at all, assuming it was a safe understanding between the two of us that she did, in fact, owe me about $1,700 when she got a job and we were stable on money again. I had not been paying insurance for about 3 months because I didn't have a job, so I could understand where she was coming from. However, she seemed to simply ignore the fact that I had dipped into my savings tremendously to help her. I brought up the money she owed me, and I got the response mothers/fathers will eventually use to make their argument unbeatable:
"I brought you into this world. Do you know how much I spent on you up to this point? And plus, since you're 18 now, you don't pay RENT, you don't pay BILLS, all of this **** is stuff I give you for FREE and you don't appreciate it one ****ing bit! /cry"
I just said, "I didn't ask to be borned, mom. I was your mistake and you're blaming me. You can go to someone else with your sob story of how much of a burden I've been on you my whole life." I went to my room and contemplated suicide while she wallowed in her own despair watching MSNBC and Fox News so she can yell at Republicans about how "****ing ********" they are and how much Republicans want to ruin the country.
The Decision
So, it's April of 2010 now. Mom stopped getting unemployment around February, so don't ask me how everything's been getting paid for in terms of bills and stuff. All I know is we're about $10,000 behind in mortgage payments and we ain't got that much dollars to pay. March was supposed to be the month that our house got foreclosed and we were gonna have to find some new place to live, but I guess our "case" is being reviewed by the mortgage company and mom's bought enough time to last until July.
She still does not have a job.
I start my census job in 7 days, the 27th. This job will last for about 12 weeks, and I'll be getting as many hours as I can possibly get to fuel -MY- own agenda, and pay back insurance/phone bills debts I owe my mom (I told her to forget everything she owed me simply because I'm a nice guy like that. Plus, I don't have any way to prove that she owes me money if I were to take her to court...>.>). That means I'll have a job until the end of July or so.
So, mom's about 80/20 on going back to North Carolina to live, where we have family and friends to help her if she needs it. I am not going out of state; I can't afford OoS tuition for any college. Therefore,
I'm going to the military
Once I'm done with my job, this is what I'll be doing and I'll finally be able to part ways with my mother. My decision for doing this has been weighed a thousand times in my head, and I just refuse to let school loans and debt surround and control my life like it does my mother. Entering the military will solve many of those problems for me in exchange for a few meager years of my life. I honestly believe it is a fair trade.
Too Long, Didn't Read
My family is broke and I'm joining the military when she moves back to NC around August or so.
I can't get to any tournaments this weekend because of a lack of vehicular transportation, so I guess I'm just saying "I'll see you guys around."
Hopefully I'll get to go to APEX, but yeah. That's what's goin' on and I felt like my brothers needed to know.
P.S.
This isn't a thread asking for alternate suggestions, it's a thread telling people I'm leaving in a few months.
