Advice about Frustration and Anger

[Divinokage]

I'm sorry, sometimes I'm not perfectly clear at what I'm trying to imply.. or is it that people can't know what I'm implying because they can't understand? Probably both. lol.

 

[danieljosebatista]

Good advice kage, thanks

 

[hungrybox]

I kicked a hole in my wall when i was 14 because of this game

 

[Divinokage]

Hm.. kids these days. *shakes head*

 

[P-99]

I kicked a hole in my wall when i was 14 because of this game

I don't want to know how many people kicked holes in their walls because of your puff


But OT you can only get angry and frustrated if you have expectations. That means even if you go into your matches with a winning mindset (which is a good thing) you should see the situations you get owned in as an oppurtunity to learn. That's why you see good players nod their heads when they made a mistake because they understood why they got owned and they won't do the same mistake next time.

 

[standardtoaster]

only game worth raging at is the game of life on the console of earth.
edit: unless than your an astronaut then you have extra console options.

One of the silliest posts in this thread. lol

 

[Jim Morrison]

When I get frustrated in video games such as Melee or TF2, I yell at my opponents, calling them cheaters and ******s and saying they suck at this game and are just having luck.

Then I feel better.

 

[Massive]

It's OK to get mad sometimes, people put a lot of effort into improving themselves and losing despite that can make you feel like you have wasted your time and effort. Getting frustrated is a perfectly valid emotional response to have to losing or getting ****ed up.

The easiest way I've found to deal with it is to stop playing for a little bit and relax. The location you are in effects your mood and outlook more than most people are aware of. Simply taking a short walk, getting some food, or even sometimes changing gaming stations can reboot your whole emotional state and make you feel a lot better.

 

[Youngling]

Realize that you're playing super smash brothers.

 

[PGH Carroll]

2 holes in the wall.
1 snapped disc
1 controller out the window.

 

[Krynxe]

2 holes in the wall.
1 snapped disc
1 controller out the window.

*Looks at name*
Oh okay, makes sense. :3

 

[CloneHat]

When I get frustrated in video games such as Melee or TF2, I yell at my opponents, calling them cheaters and ******s and saying they suck at this game and are just having luck.

Then I feel better.

Well, in TF2 it's usually true.

 

[Divinokage]

And then there's games like SC and Dota.. or pretty much any FPS.

 

[HT F8]

Spacies frustrate me. So not fair sometimes lol.

Getting grabbed a lot does, as well.

I've found the best way to deal with it in friendlies is to try to laugh at it. Have fun, call your friend gay and go back to playing.

I end up playing annoyed more often then I'd like, and it's obvious how worse it makes you. Try to keep from getting to that point.

 

[knightpraetor]

raging deters growth and learning

...i've seen the people who rage...and they also tend to be the players who stink at this game...as for improving....how can they possibly improve...every player who has ever raged on me after getting wrecked (aka 3/4 of the players in NC) has always made the lamest excuses and blamed their loss on things that had no relevance to the real reasons they were getting wrecked.

but yeah, if you rage, you should quit it...one, it's rude, and two, it prevents growth.

I've never raged because I'm too busy thinking about all the reasons that i lost, making a mental note of what things I need to fix in my game..what my opponent punished me with too often. Which moves I missed and why.

If you're not taking note of that, then how can you possibly fix what you were doing wrong?

 

[rawrimamonster]

Play 64 against good players, until you get better at 64 being controlled so easily can be rage inducing. When you learn to keep your calm and analyze your situation better you can apply that to other smash games quite easily despite 64 being quite different.

When I was new to 64 back in 2004 I think I actually broke a controller over it lmao. As time went on and I got better I learned control over my emotions and learned that when ppl bait anger, you just react and/or counter troll. When you can frustrate just as well as them gettin mad seems kinda silly when you think about it.

tl;dr version

dont get mad, get even.

 

[Kal]

raging deters growth and learning

...i've seen the people who rage...and they also tend to be the players who stink at this game...as for improving....how can they possibly improve...every player who has ever raged on me after getting wrecked (aka 3/4 of the players in NC) has always made the lamest excuses and blamed their loss on things that had no relevance to the real reasons they were getting wrecked.

but yeah, if you rage, you should quit it...one, it's rude, and two, it prevents growth.

I've never raged because I'm too busy thinking about all the reasons that i lost, making a mental note of what things I need to fix in my game..what my opponent punished me with too often. Which moves I missed and why.

If you're not taking note of that, then how can you possibly fix what you were doing wrong?

It's easy for you to take this sanctimonious stance, but it's not like the people who are raging see a decision tree with "anger" and "inner peace" and decide to choose the former. It's usually a knee-jerk reaction.

Some people are better at controlling it than others, but it's obnoxious to judge people when it's clearly not something that seems to come up for you in the first place. It's not much different than criticizing and alcoholic for getting drunk. He's prone to it in the first place, and if you're not afflicted with it, of course you're going to have a hard time empathizing.

The best thing, in my opinion, for a person with issues like this is to try and take regular breaks, as well as to simply breathe and to try his best to avoid any vocal reaction. If something doesn't go right, and this causes anger, just stand up, say "excuse me" (or make an excuse like "I have to go to the bathroom"), and take a breath. But telling people "just don't get mad," is like telling an alcoholic "just don't drink too much." It's not constructive or useful advice.

 

[Fuss]

Punch opponent in face.

 

[Shade]

I'd personally say that raging isn't worth it only hinders your game, and it clouds your ability to process things clearly. Now being frustrated is something else, what you should do is channel that frustration and use it as way to advance your game. In the end frustration is a sign that you actually care about what your doing, which means you actually want to learn how to play the game it's a healthy and normal thing.

 

[CloneHat]

Don't give in to anger until you lose your second match.