The whole deal where people think her getting a romantic subplot in AoU is sexist is kinda stupid. They complain that it's sexist that she gets a love story, as if being a female superhero immediately prohibits you from having a love story because you stop being cool if you fall in love, apparently. Someone even went to the extent of saying that now that she's in love with a guy "she obviously belongs to him and is dominated." I was like what. Since when does falling in love equals being someone's possession. I mean I know where that comment comes from, but where in the movie is it suggested that Banner now owns her? Nothing like that is ever mentioned at any point. It's even worse because this time around Black Widow was literally the character that got the most development in the whole movie.
And in the end, even though yeah, she gets this romantic subplot, she ends up putting it aside in favor of superheroic ass-kicking anyways, and goes so far as to push banner off a cliff so that he can transport her into the city battle. She's also the only one, save for Captain America, that stays in the team by the end, even though she had a good reason to leave to try and search for Hulk. I dunno about you but to me this means she's more committed to superheroics than to "her man."
I've also heard complaints about when she says she's a monster because she was sterilized, but I think that's just putting that scene out of context. She was just mind-***** by the Witch, and she's also referring to how she was raised to be an assassin and nothing else. She's literally trying to humanize herself and people don't cut her some slack, man. Although I agree that the word "monster" is probably not the best choice in the context of that particular scene, it's also a narrative tool because Hulk and monsters and etc.
It's also ironic that people are complaning that "OF COURSE THE WOMAN HAS A LOVE STORY" because literally everyone else on the team has a love story of some sort that was central to their movies, with Captain and Carter, Iron Man and Peggy, Thor with Jane, and Hulk I dunno, I don't care about Hulk much tbh
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