So how's life?

[Sporkman]

@Eor: She's my second girlfriend. =)

Though I respect your opinion, I'm not as blind-sighted as you may believe. Believe it or not, I've gone over all the crap people keep telling me to look over and I've done so several times. No need to be depressive over it. If it doesn't work out then I was sorely mistaken but I'll live and if it does work out (and it will) then all's well that ends well.

Tell Sporkman the story of your first girlfriend. And nothing about wipers, wanna hear good part!

 

[JrdnS]

i just started 10th grade which sucks. but we get some days off school because of hurricane fay. and im doing marching band which also sucks and cheerleading which is ok. its hard to balance the two and they are both completely different worlds. me and my friends are working on our own band , i play guitar. thats about it.

 

[OmegaXXII]

well Kenny, It's good that you want to live with your girlfriend and all in the next 3 years orm so, so what I suggest you do is satrt saving up early such as getting a job, then by the time your girlfrind graduates from high school, you'll be somewhat financially secured maybe just at least to have your own place and such, it worked wonders with me, although now I'm not living with my girlfrind at least not yet since she's going back to school next week, I'm just renting out with my other roommate which at times is a hassle but due to my last yrear of savings i've managed to financially get by.

 

[Smash G 0 D]

Believe it or not, I'm actually about to start my freshman year of Highschool. I'll be attending Thomas Jefferson High School for Science and Technology, which was, this year, rated the number 1 public highschool in the U.S.

I'm looking forward to finding some decent Smash competition there if possible, and it being a nerd school, I think it's likely that I will.

 

[NintendoMan07]

Well, I'm not sure if you want a good-for-nothing n00b invading your topic, but here goes nothing anyway:

Life for me is... confusing, at best. I'm struggling with a lot of issues at the moment, but after glancing through the topic, I'm thinking I really need to get a LIFE, because the issues seem to be incredibly minor by comparison to other people's problems.

First... I just recently found this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

I... think I have that. It seems to describe me word for word. And that might be the root of all that's evil and unholy in my life right now. I'll state that I'm a guy, but I'm WAY too sensitive to stuff and WAY too likely to stress myself out. That's NOT a good combination of traits, IMO. And then being a disorder doesn't help.

Second, and somewhat related to the above (and should probably stay out of this topic, right, since it's Brawl-related?), I fail disasterously at Brawl. I wanna fix that, but I'm kinda to the point where I'm not sure if it CAN be fixed. And it's not so much that I wanna fix it for competitive reasons... it's that I fail in casual settings. It didn't take me but one online match to figure that out. I'm not even sure I came to the right place.

Third, and yet again related to my first point, I have NO idea how I'm gonna fare in college for my second year. I already have no idea who my roommates are (I live in a four bedroom apartment), and I'm actually moved into the apartments WITH them. So... to be embarrasingly honest, I'm SCARED. But it doesn't matter, I guess, since it's hard to perform reputation suicide when I don't HAVE anything to my name. This situation isn't helped by the fact that some of my roommates are moving out part of the way through the semester.

So overall... life for me is, at the moment... frighteningly lonely.

 

[Pas]

Firstly, Nintendo, don't sweat being bad at Brawl. Just have some fun with it. This forum is full of useful information, but also a thousand people who'll constantly remind you how little you know and berate you for that. Ignore them; there's room for the level 4 comp players and pros alike, no matter how many "How to not be a noob at brawl" threads you come across. Alternatively, if you want to get better then you're at the right place. Practice helps.

Secondly, on off days I feel like that too, avoidant personality disorder. I really don't think it's something that can't be overcome though. It's just a matter of confidence. I don't know for sure, but I think if you work on your social skills, throw yourself into situations where you have to talk to people and start walking a little taller, you'll start feeling better. Just relax and don't sweat the little stuff, you'll be fine.

 

[.:~*Momo*~:.]

Well, I'm not sure if you want a good-for-nothing n00b invading your topic, but here goes nothing anyway:

Life for me is... confusing, at best. I'm struggling with a lot of issues at the moment, but after glancing through the topic, I'm thinking I really need to get a LIFE, because the issues seem to be incredibly minor by comparison to other people's problems.

First... I just recently found this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

I... think I have that. It seems to describe me word for word. And that might be the root of all that's evil and unholy in my life right now. I'll state that I'm a guy, but I'm WAY too sensitive to stuff and WAY too likely to stress myself out. That's NOT a good combination of traits, IMO. And then being a disorder doesn't help.

I read that article a while ago and I think I have it too... so you're not alone. It pretty much described me word for word as well...

 

[Kinzer]

Oh this one is gonig to be great...

I don't know how to put life, but I can tell you if I could give it a grading on a scale of 1-10, it would be at a 3...

I am going to keep this as short as possible because I know most people have better things to do but...

my real father is an idiot, 4 years after he made me he moves down to Mexico, giving up the lfie he had in america and a good lfie he could've had later in the same country. My step-father isn't a really good replacement, he constantly teases me for my problems which I find really hard to fix. Physically I am weak (Even if I worked out my strength would be questionable). My Step-father also constantly points the same things over and over again which gets me annoyed/saddened/angry, and I have to hear the same **** day in day out. He doesn't understand that thing's were different when he was living his first 15 years of his life. If you tried to socialize in this era chances are people are crazy/drug addicts/persons who carry guns, so it isn't as easy to make friends as he thinks it is. I really have no real friends, I rely on the internet for that kind of stuff. It feels as if there is a void, but trying to make friends when I was younger ended in failure, people always had to move to a new school/city, so I don't even bother trying anymore. I have been pressured to do a lot of things, learn Spanish, and my stepfather makes it sound so easy but for me it is really hard to, and this sucks because 1/2 my family is hispanic which english isn't their best language. I feel that I have to repay my parents because they have supported me and at least tried to do the job that is parenting, but nothing I can really do there I guess. Life seems to repeat constantly, it's always the same thing, there is nothing new. In school I do this and that, learn some things here and then, blah blah. This summer vacation I wake up, I browse teh forums and see where I can post, I play Brawl/World of Warcraft because without it, I would have nothing else to do in the day, maybe watch T.V. but commercials/reruns only further proves that nothing changes in life. My mother constantly takes me EVERYWHERE, I mean this literally, the only reason I haven't been to the god **** moon is because she doesn't have the money to do that, but yeah, I always tell her I never want to go but she takes me anyway, I feel like I have absolutely no opinion/power. I have been to Europe, and everybody tells me how they wished they could go there, you know what, why the hell couldn't you have taken my place?! I told mother for MONTHES I DID NOT want TO GO, I could not give a bloody rat's *** what goes on over there, and let me tell you something, I went to the Netherlands, yes the Red Light District if any of you know what I am talking about, she takes me there ebcause she thinks it was funny, but as much as a normal man would KILL to come here, I was so embarrassed and ashamed of this. I was all over Europe for two weeks, again there wasn't much to do here, because it always rained every other day, but hey not liek I really cared to go see any monuments in the first place. Oh finally here's the best part, trying to get a girlfriend? That's more impossible than actually keeping a friend longer than a school year. I am gonig to be 16 in October, and I have yet to gotten even close to a silly relationship, yet I hear about little 12 year old kids out there having sex and all the girls getting pregnant at that age?! What the ****ing hell is wrong with society?! but not just on that, believe me I have tried, I have seen a couple of decent women out there, I asked lots of times, I have been turned down. It's either " I am kind of seeing somebody else", this I understand, and the more heartbreaking "sure", woohoo, do I get a date? NO! when they say they can, I ask them where and when can we talk about this? they say some place and sometime, because you can't talk about this type of stuff in the classroom in session, I am here at this place at the specified time, and yeah...I don't know if they were directing me to have a meeting with a ghost, but I am pretty sure that's a big "screw you" when they hold you up like that. So moral behind my current life? People suck, and if you can't do everything, you can't do nothing, also you have no control of what you can do/say.

Somebody give me a reason why I should keep on living life, and no this isn't a suicide threat. Life stinks, but I am still sane in my mind.

 

[NintendoMan07]

Firstly, Nintendo, don't sweat being bad at Brawl. Just have some fun with it. This forum is full of useful information, but also a thousand people who'll constantly remind you how little you know and berate you for that. Ignore them; there's room for the level 4 comp players and pros alike, no matter how many "How to not be a noob at brawl" threads you come across. Alternatively, if you want to get better then you're at the right place. Practice helps.

Secondly, on off days I feel like that too, avoidant personality disorder. I really don't think it's something that can't be overcome though. It's just a matter of confidence. I don't know for sure, but I think if you work on your social skills, throw yourself into situations where you have to talk to people and start walking a little taller, you'll start feeling better. Just relax and don't sweat the little stuff, you'll be fine.

I've had fun with Brawl. And... for me, fun has only made the game worth so much. If I just followed that piece of advice, I'll do just precisely what I DON'T want to do: let my skill degrade to the point where Lvl 1 free-for-alls become ridiculous, meaningless SD-fests, which is what happened to me with Melee. I was fine with that in Melee, although it's a really sad and embarrassing thing looking back at it, but Brawl has online features. What I want from Brawl is... complicated to explain, I guess.

On another subject... I think my avoidant personality disorder comes with a touch of misanthropy. So it's not like I can just stick myself in those situations. That lack of faith in people is making me wonder why I'm HERE of all places.

 

[Pluvia's other account]

Oh this one is gonig to be great...

You're too negative, you're picking out all these small things that don't really matter that much. You shouldn't worry about these things.

 

[Bowser King]

You're too negative, you're picking out all these small things that don't really matter that much. You shouldn't worry about these things.

That basically sums it up.
Not wanting to go on a holiday to Europe? That doesn't seem "bad".
Not getting a girlfriend? Move on, You'll get your time sooner or later. Until then focus on the things that do matter.

Those little things aren't worth stressing over.

 

[1048576]

The purpose of life is to be happy. If you can't be happy, then you shouldn't live. On the other hand, most commercially available methods of suicide hurt like crazy, so the marginal cost of living is less than the marginal cost of dying.

As far as your stepfather is concerned, you can always berate him every day for the things he can't control.

My best friend died when we were 10 years old, so I know where you are coming from. The best way to make friends is to join a group in which you know you have something in common. I play bridge. I joined a bridge club. Now I'm friends with three other people who also play bridge. You like Smash? Find a tournament in your local area. Get ***** (if you haven't been before, that's probably what'll happen), then get someone to show you the ropes. Ask relevant questions (why do you waste your double jump when you do an aerial attack against a grounded opponent?) People like to feel superior to others, so by teaching you things, they will gain a smug sense of self-satisfaction. Before leaving, ask if you can meet up again sometime. If they live close-by, voila, instant friend. Hopefully they don't pack heat, but if they do, blow them off and try again.

 

[.:~*Momo*~:.]

On another subject... I think my avoidant personality disorder comes with a touch of misanthropy. So it's not like I can just stick myself in those situations. That lack of faith in people is making me wonder why I'm HERE of all places.

Once again, same here. I can't really stick myself in those situations either.

My life... well school starts soon, I can't go back to school shopping because of how poor everybody is, and I'm really dreading the work I'll have to do, finding a part time job, looking for colleges, and all that good stuff. Right now though things are peachy because I'm not worrying about that stuff yet, even though I should. ^^;

>.>

<.<

... nyaa...

 

[Jazzy Jinx]

Well, I'm not sure if you want a good-for-nothing n00b invading your topic, but here goes nothing anyway:

Life for me is... confusing, at best. I'm struggling with a lot of issues at the moment, but after glancing through the topic, I'm thinking I really need to get a LIFE, because the issues seem to be incredibly minor by comparison to other people's problems.

First... I just recently found this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

I... think I have that. It seems to describe me word for word. And that might be the root of all that's evil and unholy in my life right now. I'll state that I'm a guy, but I'm WAY too sensitive to stuff and WAY too likely to stress myself out. That's NOT a good combination of traits, IMO. And then being a disorder doesn't help.

Second, and somewhat related to the above (and should probably stay out of this topic, right, since it's Brawl-related?), I fail disasterously at Brawl. I wanna fix that, but I'm kinda to the point where I'm not sure if it CAN be fixed. And it's not so much that I wanna fix it for competitive reasons... it's that I fail in casual settings. It didn't take me but one online match to figure that out. I'm not even sure I came to the right place.

Third, and yet again related to my first point, I have NO idea how I'm gonna fare in college for my second year. I already have no idea who my roommates are (I live in a four bedroom apartment), and I'm actually moved into the apartments WITH them. So... to be embarrasingly honest, I'm SCARED. But it doesn't matter, I guess, since it's hard to perform reputation suicide when I don't HAVE anything to my name. This situation isn't helped by the fact that some of my roommates are moving out part of the way through the semester.

So overall... life for me is, at the moment... frighteningly lonely.

Don't sweat it. And don't call yourself a good for nothing n00b. Adding insult to injury will hardly improve your state of mind. If you insult yourself then who should praise you? If you don't even like yourself then how can anyone else? You have to be able to appreciate yourself at least to a margin.

As someone else on here stated you just need to hold your head higher and be more confident. Just remember not to let a**holes get to you because there will ALWAYS be a**holes. Brush it off and move on.

I, myself, find it hard to break the ice but if you have at least one friend with you nearby then it becomes significantly easier to do so. Nobody is truly alone, either...

If you need someone to talk to online then you can always drop me a PM. I don't mind talking about whatever and I don't judge people unfairly. I usually take the bee approach and treat you the way I'm treated. But if you'd rather not share your problems or want to talk with a random guy on the internet that's totally understandable... =P

Either way, buck up. =)

Oh this one is gonig to be great...

I don't know how to put life, but I can tell you if I could give it a grading on a scale of 1-10, it would be at a 3...

I am going to keep this as short as possible because I know most people have better things to do but...

my real father is an idiot, 4 years after he made me he moves down to Mexico, giving up the lfie he had in america and a good lfie he could've had later in the same country. My step-father isn't a really good replacement, he constantly teases me for my problems which I find really hard to fix. Physically I am weak (Even if I worked out my strength would be questionable). My Step-father also constantly points the same things over and over again which gets me annoyed/saddened/angry, and I have to hear the same **** day in day out. He doesn't understand that thing's were different when he was living his first 15 years of his life. If you tried to socialize in this era chances are people are crazy/drug addicts/persons who carry guns, so it isn't as easy to make friends as he thinks it is. I really have no real friends, I rely on the internet for that kind of stuff. It feels as if there is a void, but trying to make friends when I was younger ended in failure, people always had to move to a new school/city, so I don't even bother trying anymore. I have been pressured to do a lot of things, learn Spanish, and my stepfather makes it sound so easy but for me it is really hard to, and this sucks because 1/2 my family is hispanic which english isn't their best language. I feel that I have to repay my parents because they have supported me and at least tried to do the job that is parenting, but nothing I can really do there I guess. Life seems to repeat constantly, it's always the same thing, there is nothing new. In school I do this and that, learn some things here and then, blah blah. This summer vacation I wake up, I browse teh forums and see where I can post, I play Brawl/World of Warcraft because without it, I would have nothing else to do in the day, maybe watch T.V. but commercials/reruns only further proves that nothing changes in life. My mother constantly takes me EVERYWHERE, I mean this literally, the only reason I haven't been to the god **** moon is because she doesn't have the money to do that, but yeah, I always tell her I never want to go but she takes me anyway, I feel like I have absolutely no opinion/power. I have been to Europe, and everybody tells me how they wished they could go there, you know what, why the hell couldn't you have taken my place?! I told mother for MONTHES I DID NOT want TO GO, I could not give a bloody rat's *** what goes on over there, and let me tell you something, I went to the Netherlands, yes the Red Light District if any of you know what I am talking about, she takes me there ebcause she thinks it was funny, but as much as a normal man would KILL to come here, I was so embarrassed and ashamed of this. I was all over Europe for two weeks, again there wasn't much to do here, because it always rained every other day, but hey not liek I really cared to go see any monuments in the first place. Oh finally here's the best part, trying to get a girlfriend? That's more impossible than actually keeping a friend longer than a school year. I am gonig to be 16 in October, and I have yet to gotten even close to a silly relationship, yet I hear about little 12 year old kids out there having sex and all the girls getting pregnant at that age?! What the ****ing hell is wrong with society?! but not just on that, believe me I have tried, I have seen a couple of decent women out there, I asked lots of times, I have been turned down. It's either " I am kind of seeing somebody else", this I understand, and the more heartbreaking "sure", woohoo, do I get a date? NO! when they say they can, I ask them where and when can we talk about this? they say some place and sometime, because you can't talk about this type of stuff in the classroom in session, I am here at this place at the specified time, and yeah...I don't know if they were directing me to have a meeting with a ghost, but I am pretty sure that's a big "screw you" when they hold you up like that. So moral behind my current life? People suck, and if you can't do everything, you can't do nothing, also you have no control of what you can do/say.

Somebody give me a reason why I should keep on living life, and no this isn't a suicide threat. Life stinks, but I am still sane in my mind.

Ah... Here's were me and you are similiar. I went through this phase before. The, "everything is static and unchanging so why does it all matter?" stage. I solved this by developing goals for the future. Spend your time working towards these goals because when the time comes when you turn 18, control will be thrown into your hands. Nobody else can change what happens to your future but you (unless they kill you or kidnap you or something that forcibly removes you from society...) and you dictate the outcome of the rest of your life.

Even if you're shackled now it's merely for a few more years. You get like... 60 years of control if you're smart... And people do suck... Or at least, most people suck. In my entire school I've managed to find only a handful of people that are somewhat descent and only three of the people I've befriended are really close to me.

My friend Chris (one of those three close friends) rants all the time about how society sucks and people suck and blah blah blah... And you know what? He brings up some really good points and can even convince me a little that society really is s***y because I certainly don't doubt it is. But it's these select few people with descent hearts that you can look out for and value above all the trash.

I've actually made it my goal to become a novelist that inspires people and helps them through tough times with words that can paint a path of hope... It's to this end that I aspire to become a respectable author but not for the fame or fortune... I want people to become inspired and less bitter towards society... This is going to be one HELL of a task and I believe I'll fail miserably but there's no harm in trying, eh? =P

And my future wife is going to be a counselor for pregnant teenagers and is also going to try and mend society's wounds... I doubt either of us will leave a major impact but if we can help at least someone... Well... My life will be fullfilled as far as goals go...

Just try looking at all the positives instead of the negatives...

You're too negative, you're picking out all these small things that don't really matter that much. You shouldn't worry about these things.

I say this with as much respect as possible but could you please refrain from being so blunt? People that are struggling against problems severe or minor feel grades worse when they're told that what they're worrying over doesn't matter. It makes them feel worthless and truly doesn't help them at all. Now... I'm all for blunt truth when the situation calls for it because I refuse to sugar coat things... Lying to people isn't going to solve their problems but telling them their problems are miniscule altogether is wrong.

Once again, same here. I can't really stick myself in those situations either.

My life... well school starts soon, I can't go back to school shopping because of how poor everybody is, and I'm really dreading the work I'll have to do, finding a part time job, looking for colleges, and all that good stuff. Right now though things are peachy because I'm not worrying about that stuff yet, even though I should. ^^;

>.>

<.<

... nyaa...

Well, as long as you're cool right now. When the time comes to start stressing out try to keep a cool head on your shoulders and you should do fine.

@Sporkman: She was pretty cool at first but then she went crazy and dyed her hair all the colors of the rainbow and starting smoking so I ditched that... People are funny sometimes...





Anyway, if anyone on here is dreading sharing their problems but need an outlet to get it off their chest then you can always feel free to PM me. Hell, you can talk to me one day and then disappear altogether. Don't think you have to be tied into me by friendship or something though if you desire to be friends we could work something out if you're not a **** or something... =P

Also, I apologize for any grammatical errors or misspellings because I'm sick right now and not really paying attention to that stuff...

 

[Kinzer]

Alright everybody, thank you for your feedback, bottom line of all the advice the way I interpreted it was "be patient, every dog will have his day". It all just seemed hopeless because it has been going on for so long but yeah, there ya go, you just got to wait.

oh and Uncle Kenny, since you were the one who opened up this thread, I want to wish you for the best, in whatever you do.

 

[1048576]

No, don't wait for stuff to change. It won't. You need to find a way to cope with the status quo, which I outlined in my previous post.

 

[Kinzer]

^ That's what I am doing right now, just going with the flow, and when I turn 18 I'll be on my own way. I know it would be hard out in the cold on your own, I see it as anything would be better than the crap I have to put up with right now, and when I do have the power I will change my life. Rest assured I got it now.

 

[NintendoMan07]

Don't sweat it. And don't call yourself a good for nothing n00b. Adding insult to injury will hardly improve your state of mind. If you insult yourself then who should praise you? If you don't even like yourself then how can anyone else? You have to be able to appreciate yourself at least to a margin.

As someone else on here stated you just need to hold your head higher and be more confident. Just remember not to let a**holes get to you because there will ALWAYS be a**holes. Brush it off and move on.

I, myself, find it hard to break the ice but if you have at least one friend with you nearby then it becomes significantly easier to do so. Nobody is truly alone, either...

If you need someone to talk to online then you can always drop me a PM. I don't mind talking about whatever and I don't judge people unfairly. I usually take the bee approach and treat you the way I'm treated. But if you'd rather not share your problems or want to talk with a random guy on the internet that's totally understandable... =P

Either way, buck up. =)

Well, I think I'm already branded on someone's sig here, so good-for-nothing seems to sum it up. Besides, like I said, I fail at Brawl. I'm surprised I'm not exiled from here already.

And I really don't have any friends here (I'm speaking of SWF and of where I'm at as well), so yeah, I've got an uphill slope to climb.

 

[Smash G 0 D]

The entire point of this website is to help people improve at the Smash games, so there is no reason for you to be exiled.

Who put what in their sig? If it's something bad, hopefully you won't take it personally. Most people on this website are actually really nice.

 

[DMG]

My Life: Looking back, it's been a frustration journey for me to take. Sometimes I don't know what to do, sometimes I don't know how to accomplish what I need to do, and the rest is me living life.

I've been the advice giver everyone has gone to over the years. Recently that "hobby" has been recently focused on relationships, love, etc. People ask me questions, I give them the right answers. Now whether it's good or not for people to know the truth on certain things is debatable; knowledge comes at a price.

Somewhat recently, my girlfriend, who I have been with for a bit more than a year, decided to call it quits. We were in love, there's no doubt about that, and I think she just couldn't handle something serious. She was one of those girls that was used to the whole "Date a guy for a week and dump him" thing. I came along and I know I threw her for a loop when I proved myself to be more than just some guy who wants her for status/power/whatever. She knew we should have lasted, but her friends convinced her to just "live life while she was young", and I guess she felt that she would be tied down with me around.

Sad to imagine that our relationship was strained just because she felt some obligation to live a lifestyle that fit her age instead of acting mature or taking things a bit more seriously. Instead of living life young and growing up after you learn from your mistakes, she chose to live life young and to make those mistakes anyways when she was fully capable of being a bit more mature and avoiding the painful part of life lessons/morals.

The feelings people tried to describe to me when they asked me for advice, I felt those feelings too. I told them what to do for relationships, and yet I find myself unable to use the same tools I gave them to do something. I tell myself the same thing those people have told me, that I love her and that we were meant to be, and even though I told them it wasn't gonna work, I just have a feeling that my situation is different for some reason, even when on the surface it is similar.

Edit: Basically life is going pretty good but sometimes I wish I could have planned ahead better.

 

[TheTomNookster]

@ Uncle Kenny:
I agree, stick with Tom's advice. It's the right way to go.

As for me, well, I'm struggling to find a second job in order to have enough of an income flow. I'll never make it under the wire with the one I currently have. My main goal right now is to move out of my parents' house. My buddies and I are going to move out together since they will need a place to stay as well. With the way things are going now, we won't be able to do so for another several months. Education is postponed until I truly get settled. I won't sign up for college classes for probably another year or so.

Overall, things are slowly getting better, one day at a time. Because everyday I try just a little bit harder in what I'm doing.

 

[Pluvia's other account]

I say this with as much respect as possible but could you please refrain from being so blunt? People that are struggling against problems severe or minor feel grades worse when they're told that what they're worrying over doesn't matter. It makes them feel worthless and truly doesn't help them at all. Now... I'm all for blunt truth when the situation calls for it because I refuse to sugar coat things... Lying to people isn't going to solve their problems but telling them their problems are miniscule altogether is wrong.

To word it better, what I was saying is that he's worrying about all these things that he shouldn't worry about, as no good will come of it. There's no point in thinking that there's problems when there is none.

After reading through your post Kinzer, it seems you're low on self-confidence. You should work towards having less negative thoughts, just don't get worked up about everyday life. Just relax a bit more, take things easy, don't let stuff get to you.

 

[1048576]

You can't just change your personality. If you are an anxious, nervous, critical person you will always be that way (barring a lobotomy, which is very rarely performed and never in the US.) You can, however, follow a series of specific instructions which may make you happier despite these shortcomings. Asking someone to "relax" doesn't help. Don't you think he's thought of that already?

 

[Vect0r]

I just wonder what Vect0r's up to?

I'm usually playing video games -_-b

 

[Amide]

No they don't. I'm actually worried that I'm not good enough for her... =P

What grade are you going into?

9th. The past several years I have had an easy foreign language (Spanish) class. Easy, but I haven't really learned anything either. In the upcoming year, it's very difficult, and I don't know any Spanish.

 

[~ Gheb ~]

Ok here's some (Serious) stuff about my life:

I'm living in europe at the @$$h0l3 of this world but my life is kinda nice. I finished scool last year and doing a job right now to get some money before going to university. My plans? Well 'm only 19 so it's ok for me to be immature. Thus I'll have as much secks as possible, get drunk on weekends and smoke loads of pot. I know, you might think I shouldn't be like that but I really know what I am doing and why. I used to work in a nusery home during my civilian service and I can tell ya, there's nothing sadder, than to hear old people complain about their missed opportunities. That's why I want to have fun right now and just have fun without looking back. There'll be plenty of time to become mature anyways.

 

[Pluvia's other account]

You can't just change your personality. If you are an anxious, nervous, critical person you will always be that way (barring a lobotomy, which is very rarely performed and never in the US.) You can, however, follow a series of specific instructions which may make you happier despite these shortcomings. Asking someone to "relax" doesn't help. Don't you think he's thought of that already?

It's advice. It's not even bad advice either. Don't you think it's better than saying that if you can't be happy, then you shouldn't live.

The purpose of life is to be happy. If you can't be happy, then you shouldn't live. On the other hand, most commercially available methods of suicide hurt like crazy, so the marginal cost of living is less than the marginal cost of dying.

 

[1048576]

No, that's good advice. What good is living if dying would make you happier?

 

[Pluvia's other account]

No, that's good advice. What good is living if dying would make you happier?

That's not good advice, if someone's suicidal you don't tell them "Oh go kill yourself, if it'll make you happier then off you go". People don't kill themselves to be happier, they kill themselves to escape. They've obviously gotten to the point in their life where they think the only alternative to all their problems is to kill themselves. Probably about the only thing that'd make it worse is if people told them "Yeah actually that is your only option, why are you even living if you're not happy, you shouldn't live."

If someone's suicidal, you try to talk them out of it, give them a reason to live, show them that it's not their only option. They don't try to purposely spend their time being morbidly depressed, all everyone really wants is to be happy.

 

[1048576]

Escape what? Sadness? Situations that make them sad? That's the same thing as wanting to be as happy as possible.

For some people, in fact, for most people, life is like a movie. If you've sat through half of it and it sucked, it might get really good at the end and make it all worthwhile, but it probably will continue to suck.

In this particular situation, I've already stated that living will be an improvement over dying, but you can't deny that some people should want to die. I'd probably want to die if I was blind, deaf, and had no limbs, and I sure wouldn't want someone to tell me I could be happy with these shortcomings, because I already know I can't.

In most cases, there is no way to resolve a problem that does not cause significant damage to the parties involved (otherwise it wouldn't be called a problem), and so the situation really boils down to two options: deal with it or kill yourself.

When I was sad, (like after my brother died) I didn't want people telling me to relax and be happy; I wanted people to tell me that life is bad and I should feel bad. Sympathy is good, IMO.

 

[Pluvia's other account]

Escape what? Sadness? Situations that make them sad? That's the same thing as wanting to be as happy as possible.

Basically yes, but suicide isn't the only option.

In this particular situation, I've already stated that living will be an improvement over dying, but you can't deny that some people should want to die. I'd probably want to die if I was blind, deaf, and had no limbs, and I sure wouldn't want someone to tell me I could be happy with these shortcomings, because I already know I can't.

Those are rare cases though. These cases are an exception and aren't really what we're talking about right now.

In most cases, there is no way to resolve a problem that does not cause significant damage to the parties involved (otherwise it wouldn't be called a problem), and so the situation really boils down to two options: deal with it or kill yourself.

No, and this is annoying me now, you're trying to make it seem like there's only ever two options 100% of the time. "Deal with it" is a very broad term, it's not taking into consideration other options. Say you had a lot of debt, your advice would be:

"Deal with it or kill yourself"

Whereas my advice would be:

"You should seek help, killing yourself isn't the only option here"

When I was sad, (like after my brother died) I didn't want people telling me to relax and be happy; I wanted people to tell me that life is bad and I should feel bad. Sympathy is good, IMO.

Whereas if there was someone there to talk to you or to help guide you through your situation, you would feel better. People telling you that you should feel bad is not the way to go.

 

[thesage]

I used to be all sad and depressed that I wasn't popular, that I didn't have 50 friends, that I had no "life", **** like that. Then I read this book, which wasn't that great of a book. It just said something that really got to me "almost everybody that's sane has these worries," and then I read a comment on youtube "everybody's a little ****ed up inside." Nobody is perfect. Trying to pretend you're from the OC or something just leads to fail usually. Look how much you think those "popular" kids are. They have just as many problems as you do.

You have to realize that you do have fun in life first I think. Before I used to be so bored, then I realized I am kinda busy. I practice piano/smash, hang with friends, boy scouts (which is really fun, the religous stuff is an overstatement), clubs I do afterschool, reading (more people should do it), and actually enjoying my time with my family (of which there are 1 member(s) besides me) instead of thinking, "Oh, this is sooo lame."

Also, if you hate hanging out with someone, don't continue hanging with them. I learned this in middle school.

Always be thankful for what you have. People who you may want to be, may actually want to be you.

 

[NintendoMan07]

Sorry for double-posting... my internet fails as much as I do.

 

[NintendoMan07]

The entire point of this website is to help people improve at the Smash games, so there is no reason for you to be exiled.

Who put what in their sig? If it's something bad, hopefully you won't take it personally. Most people on this website are actually really nice.

Well, to name the "who" part would already be suicide, and the "what"... well, I'm guessing I'm the only one comp sci major who doesn't know a thing about internet connections and setting them up and stuff? Looks like I'm already miles behind the SWF community already (and not JUST in Smash).

I've seen certain topics that... I probably would've been torched and had my head ripped off had I contributed my opinion to them, so I can't be certain that most people would be "nice" to me after seeing what the general consensus is about certain parts of Brawl...

 

[Pluvia's other account]

Well, to name the "who" part would already be suicide, and the "what"... well, I'm guessing I'm the only one comp sci major who doesn't know a thing about internet connections and setting them up and stuff? Looks like I'm already miles behind the SWF community already (and not JUST in Smash).

I've seen certain topics that... I probably would've been torched and had my head ripped off had I contributed my opinion to them, so I can't be certain that most people would be "nice" to me after seeing what the general consensus is about certain parts of Brawl...

You're just new here, don't worry about that, eveyone has to be new at some point. Don't be afraid to say your opinion on some things, that's basically the point of this forum.

 

[1048576]

I always make myself sad. I make friends with people who are better than me because that will benefit me more, which causes me to have low self-esteem.

My best friend learned how to solve a Rubik's cube in four hours, learned how to play the guitar (really well, too) in a week and three days, is extremely athletically gifted, and has gotten straight A's now beginning his second year at software engineering at UF. And he ***** me at Melee and Brawl as well.

My other friend Aced Multivariable Calculus without opening his textbook.

Pluvia: You're saying the same thing as me, only with more sugarcoating. You say I'm only naming one option, then you acknowledge that I'm naming the other option in the same post. Obviously suicide isn't the answer for most people, but it is sometimes the answer. Deal with it obviously means attempt to render the cost to yourself as low as possible. Obviously this rendering can take many forms, and every situation is different, so I tried to outline what "deal with it" would mean in the above situation. Sometimes the cost of dying is less than the cost of living.

Did you just tell me what made me feel better? I know what made me feel better. "Help guide me through my situation," what does that mean? Are you in some kind of cult? Oh, do you mean sympathize with me? Willikers, what a novel idea!

 

[Smash G 0 D]

@Nintendo Man: Brighten up! We want to hear your opinions on things. And it makes perfect sense that you'd be a little bit behind people who have had at least a couple more years experience, all you have to do is take advantage of the fact that we're here to relay our knowledge to you.

Also, people that are mean on smashboards are noobs. Usually they're joking, but if they aren't, then sthey should probably get off the forums.

 

[Pluvia's other account]

Pluvia: You're saying the same thing as me, only with more sugarcoating. You say I'm only naming one option, then you acknowledge that I'm naming the other option in the same post.

I'm not sure I said that, if I did then I can't find it just now. I think you're meaning this part: "..you're trying to make it seem like there's only ever two options.."

Obviously suicide isn't the answer for most people, but it is sometimes the answer. Deal with it obviously means attempt to render the cost to yourself as low as possible. Obviously this rendering can take many forms, and every situation is different, so I tried to outline what "deal with it" would mean in the above situation. Sometimes the cost of dying is less than the cost of living.

Yes, emphases on the "sometimes".

Did you just tell me what made me feel better?

No.

I know what made me feel better. "Help guide me through my situation," what does that mean? Are you in some kind of cult? Oh, do you mean sympathize with me? Willikers, what a novel idea!

I'm not sure what you're getting at here. I think you're taking this too personally.

 

[1048576]

Nope, just pointing out your logical inconsistencies. It's kind of the goal of every argument.

"Basically, yes, but suicide isn't the only option" strongly implies that I am taking the position that it is.

"You're trying to make it seem like there's only ever two options" is where you acknowledge that I'm not trying to make it seem like suicide is the only option.

 

[Aleol]

104576, I understand what you're going through, but treating people who are trying to help badly by arguing isn't the best way to cope. Arguing just makes you feel worse, and I should know, my parents have seen no end of arguments until recently. I feel loads better because my mind isn't thinking only belligerent, negative thoughts and I have almost completely stopped arguing.

Think positively. If you feel your friends are better than you, then talk to them and ask them to teach you some of the things they've mastered. Pick up something they haven't heard about, master it then teach them. Ask them to train you. Train them in something you're better at than them. No matter who you are, there will always be something you're better at than someone else, but you just have to find it.

I have the same disorder as nintendoman, and I have only recently been able to come out of my shell. It is entirely possible for someone to change their point of view, and even their personality if they have the support of their friends, and mentors.

I understand that you lost a friend. I did, too, when I was 5 and had a hard time accepting it. and that's why I'm so shy and don't want to meet new people. I'm afraid of getting hurt. But you really shouldn't be... It's no use. eventually it's going to eat you and spit you out.

Don't be intimidated by your friends. Ask them for help, let them teach you, you teach them. Trust me, you will find something that you can teach them. Ask them how to solve a rubix cube, ask them how to play guitar, ask them to tutor you on calculus, ask for help, and find that thing you can teach them.

Wow, I just realized how utterly useless this post was.

Oh, well, my life is going pretty well. I've got a pretty good job, go to a very good school, and make decent enough grades. I have a hard time maintaining a social life due to my ADHD and OCD and that other one that described me word for word. I'm doing a pretty good job of making new friends, but I still have trouble with interaction due to my fear of being rejected and losing them. And please don't take this as sympathy bait, I hate it when people feel sorry for me.

I'm working out, and trying to quit drinking soda, and It feels great! But my job kindof makes the last thing null. we get free soda during breaks. It's hard to resist.

My friends are nice, but there's still the fear. It seems they'd rather hang out than share what they have in common, and the ones that do share, are into music, which I'm not that into. I like listening to it, but not bothering with bands and stuff.

I hope you guys understand this, but because this is a forum, I don't mind sharing my life. but I don't like posting other stuff (such as video games, even opinions on brawl) because of the fear of being flamed... I can't stand it

Man, do I sound insincere....