I will say, smashchu, that asking which gamers you know in careers sounds pretty stereotypical of the world's view of competitive gamers lol. It's not like we spend our lives doing nothing but training in gaming and even if we did, it's no different than an athlete training every day for an upcoming race.
But I digress (and NCIS is awesome stop bashing it you guys!
). I'm only gonna put this in terms of how I feel it: Compeitive gaming never took the fun out of smash for me and it increased my love for it. That said, I get the feel that competitive smash, or competitive -insert game here- might not be the thing for some people and may cause them to dislike the game, especially if it makes their life stressful or has an attachment to stress (easy example of this: Do you hate the ringtone that wakes you up in the morning?).
Anyway, that's still off point. My situation is, i'm a competitive gamer and yes, sometimes I find it frustrating to lose. But the common mistake to make is saying this is simply because I want to win. It's not as simple as that, although that obviously comes in to it and is a goal. It's the feeling that after so long, you feel like you haven't improved. I can take losing to someone knowing i've improved and that makes me incredibly happy.
Lets make it even more basic than that: I don't find it frustrating to lose in many cases because I found the events of the game far more enjoyable than the outcome. This happens to me all the time and I know it happens to other people, even competitive gamers. A good example of this is one of the tournaments I've been to. At this tournament were two people that my brother and I are especially fond of. Their tag names are 'Moxie' (in game she calls herself 'rockn') and 'Enemy' (in game he calls himself 'rolln'). These two are really good friends in RL and both play pikachu. They team in doubles. My brother and I love playing them because in game the experience is so much more fun than the outcome. The whole game is made up of jokes and witty remarks and cute little outbursts of 'Noooo!' or 'Mwahahaha!' or things like that. These are two really nice people who play competitively and want to get better but have a heck of a load of fun whether they win or lose.
To add to this, we've played them both in friendlies and in tournament and the result is exactly the same: We make jokes, we laugh, we talk about our strategies, it's like we're just playing another friendly! Playing these two especially is one of my favourite parts of tournaments (as well as the friend that introduced me to them, invisi, who I love versing and consider a 'rival' of mine!
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Basically, what i'm trying to say is, it's possible to play competitively and enjoy it and the inverse is also true. I don't think you can generalize a competitive gamer in this regard because we're all different and we all have different experiences. It's like talking about people and eating. Some love the exercise and find the love in taste but there are people out there who find it more of a chore than anything else. You just can't generalize on it.
Also Frostwraith, I will admit you're coming off a little harsh there. I know you and I know you're a nice guy, so I know you're just trying to highlight what you think is a pretty silly argument. But if the people are interested in it, I think let them be interested and move on. It won't do any harm and it will probably do more good. :D
But look it's up to you and i'm not gonna tell you what to do or anything, you're an intelligent guy and you make good use of english for a second language, especially when you claim to use google translate for some of it!
Oh, one other thing at signia: I am gonna totally reject that everything we do is just a means to gain power, especially social interaction. If anything, social interaction puts us in place and underlines the fact that we're just one part in a series of things that lead to any significant change. I've never fully explored it but I think love and compassion are different from power in the regard that i think you're using it in. Feeling 'powerful' through social interaction sounds like the 'power' of being loved and feeling like you fit in and have a place amongst people.
Care to elaborate on what you mean? The more I think on it the more i'm confused. But basically I don't consider everything I do as a means to make myself more powerful. That sounds like taking selflessness out of the equation.