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[Nausicaa]

Giving up some of yourself is more than okay in a relationship, but not if the other individual isn't willing to give any ground.
This was basically the story of my last relationship. What started off as an actually very good relationship for maybe two years just went quickly downhill when things started to turn into me making sacrifices with her giving nothing in return. It started off small, but I feel like me being willing to give up one thing without any give and take just put things on a slippery slope and it set the tone for the remainder of the relationship.

Classic 'she expects him to do something, and expects to be expected to do nothing' and/or 'he expects her to do something, and expects that he's expected to do something' combo/mis-communication/lack of telepathy/different pages?

Nice. What did we learn today kids?

i can do this

That would be great in a special place...
I want you.

 

[Veishi336]

This is why I usually avoid bars and just meet women during the day. I go about my errands like usual, and if I see a woman I think is attractive, I go up to them, tell them I think they're attractive (or least an honest compliment) and introduce myself. From there, charming small talk, I propose a time to meet up (usually for coffee, something not too expensive), they comply, I get their number, I make my leave. If they don't comply, I get their number anyway. If none of those two happen, I move on. Set up date, we meet up, talk for hours, get her back to my or her place, then fade to black. Once you and the girl have done the nasty, you have options. You can choose if you wanna keep seeing her then turn her into your potential gf, or you can keep it casual and just have her around for fun (make sure you set the proper frame and not mislead her before-hand).

If that sounds too fast, trust me, it works much better than trying to go through the whole wine-and-dine process, and it's broadens your options outside of women who go to bars (because EVERY woman has stuff to do during the day). You'll probably fail the first few times you do it, but practice makes perfect. If you're gay like Strong Bad, obviously this probably won't apply well, but you still need to get out and practice outside of bars.

We should probably change the thread title now.

Since you mentioned about the gay part in reference to StrongBad .....in all honesty at times you can liberally apply some of that logic of yours in the gay life too. I dont do all of that myself buuut ive seen it happen to some of my close friends. Not a good ending most of the time if only a "fling" is involved gay or straight.

 

[CORY]

pfft, just get one of your best friends to invite an old college friend of his to your weekly game nights, hang out playing board games with her for a few months, then start dating after an anime convention.

worked for me and it's real simple.

 

[Trinsic]

Trinsic you need to come more often. ;(

:3

My experience from bars is that people with many social issues tend to flock to them.

SOUNDS LIKE I'D FIT RIGHT IN

Plus they tend to call highschool "the best time of their lives".

Nevermind.

It's weird, I went to a few bars when I was 19-20, but turned 21 a few months ago and haven't gone to one bar since. I should get drunk more often.

 

[| Kailex |]

My experience is that I dislike women

 

[Plum]

Classic 'she expects him to do something, and expects to be expected to do nothing' and/or 'he expects her to do something, and expects that he's expected to do something' combo/mis-communication/lack of telepathy/different pages?

Nice. What did we learn today kids?

Oh no. I was verbal about my frustrations.
She just was unwilling. I would basically get "THIS is too important to me" kind of stuff, and my "but THAT was important to me" response was just met by girl logic. AKA **** that made no sense.
Worst part of it though was that we were a couple years into our relationship when this stuff started to happen. So my feelings for her were strong enough that I would just eventually give in.
Was not the bee's knees.

 

[Strong Badam]

Once you and the girl have done the nasty,

I just can't take the rest of this post seriously because of this section.

And if I wanted to, I would just compliment any guy I saw. If they're gay, cool. If not, I don't care about them, so if they get offended I don't give a ****. Most would just go "thanks but I don't swing that way" or whatever unless you're in a really ****ty region. I enjoy the single life and plan to do so for at least a few more years, not really into dating.

 

[Vashimus]

You're right Strong Bad. It's a beautiful thing. Editing.

 

[metroid1117]

Metaphorically-speaking, having 88 kids makes me too busy to chase after women. Haven't really done so in 4 years, so I don't plan on starting now lol.

 

[Veishi336]

Metaphorically-speaking, having 88 kids makes me too busy to chase after women. Haven't really done so in 4 years, so I don't plan on starting now lol.

having....88...........kids......yeesh lol even if its metaphoric

 

[Plum]

It's weird, I went to a few bars when I was 19-20, but turned 21 a few months ago and haven't gone to one bar since. I should get drunk more often.

I think it just totally depends on why you are going to a bar, and definitely the overall feel of the bar.
Like, I'll avoid bars that blast top 40 whatever music so loud that you feel the sound, bars that attract your stereotypical "bro" and/or "jock" crowd, and clubs are definitely a big nono for me. I basically have know the local bar scene, and there are a select few that are just downright chill, and maybe 7 or 8/10 of the people there are genuinely cool people.
I go to bars with a few close friends, because frankly always spending the night in playing video games or what have you can get old if you don't mix it up. We can just hang out somewhere that isn't a small apartment, dorm room, basement, etc. and have some fun together doing something different. Sure, if I have a couple drinks in me and I see a girl that really catches my eye I'll go up to her, but in general I don't go out with something like that in mind. I just want to have a good time with friends and if something else happens it happens, if not then whatever because I did what I wanted to do in the first place.

 

[DMG]

Oh I'm sorry, I didn't know this was the FEELS EVERYWHERE thread. I figured this was the "Worship Eli" thread, but I guess there are a lot of WEENIES in here.

Plum: You're not nerdy enough. You need Urkel glasses and suspenders, and a shirt that says "Mom thinks I'm the best DM ever". And a Kirby hat. Yes that should complete the ensemble. <3 you though bro it's k. Next time, play it off smooth. She asks about D&D, tell her "Yeah, and roleplay isn't the only thing I'm good at... IF YA CATCH MY DRIFT!" If she does not catch your drift, please explain to this ignorant woman that you are a PROUD level 65 High Elf Wizard who *correctly if I might add* knew what spells to prepare for the legendary "Mcbadass Dragon" encounter back at level 62. She will have to take you immediately.


Everyone else: Skip bars, go play miniature golf. Nothing better to cool the rage, and catch the ladies at the same time, than by trying desperately to GET THE GOD DAMN BALL PAST THE WINDMILL MY GOD WHO DESIGNED THESE THINGS, THESE COURSE DESIGNERS ARE MANIACS

 

[DrinkingFood]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFrHxuN4lcA
jim jeffries speaks my mind for me on relationships
it's fairly vulgar get the **** over it 'cause it's funny

 

[Smooth Criminal]

I ****ing love you, DMG. That post was legendary.

Smooth Criminal

 

[GHNeko]

And I'm just sitting here married to a nerdy woman.

 

[Sluigi123]

What you see Plum's post is true, for most people.

Everyone wants to have a variety of things to do than just sitting on anything you can sit on and play Black Ops 2, or Super Street Fighter 4 (both games are just examples). People would like to watch a movie, go outside and play football, go skateboarding, ride down a snowy hill, have a blind date, play Magic, make dinner, or anything non-video game related. I at least play Yu-Gi-Oh (no criticism, please), Poker, and play soccer with the soccer team of the closest high school that I'd know of playing with and still have fun altogether.

 

[Nausicaa]

The Social is strong in this thread.

 

[Plum]

Oh I'm sorry, I didn't know this was the FEELS EVERYWHERE thread. I figured this was the "Worship Eli" thread, but I guess there are a lot of WEENIES in here.

Plum: You're not nerdy enough. You need Urkel glasses and suspenders, and a shirt that says "Mom thinks I'm the best DM ever". And a Kirby hat. Yes that should complete the ensemble. <3 you though bro it's k. Next time, play it off smooth. She asks about D&D, tell her "Yeah, and roleplay isn't the only thing I'm good at... IF YA CATCH MY DRIFT!" If she does not catch your drift, please explain to this ignorant woman that you are a PROUD level 65 High Elf Wizard who *correctly if I might add* knew what spells to prepare for the legendary "Mcbadass Dragon" encounter back at level 62. She will have to take you immediately.


Everyone else: Skip bars, go play miniature golf. Nothing better to cool the rage, and catch the ladies at the same time, than by trying desperately to GET THE GOD DAMN BALL PAST THE WINDMILL MY GOD WHO DESIGNED THESE THINGS, THESE COURSE DESIGNERS ARE MANIACS

TLDR:

 

[9bit]

SO HOW ABOUT THOSE SMASH BROTHERS

 

[9bit]

PERSONALLY I THINK THE "BROTHERS" IN QUESTION ARE MARIO AND LUIGI

 

[9bit]

SUPER SMASH MARIO AND LUIGI

 

[Plum]

I mean, this IS the social thread. AKA the thread for Project M players to talk about things that aren't Smash related.
So... you know...
gtfo with that Smash talk.
Or I might have to goof you up.

 

[Hylian]

I love tabletop gaming, I love competitive gaming and esports in general, and all that jazz, but oh man can it be weird to tell somebody that.
A few weeks ago I was at a bar with my friends and talking with a chick. When she asked me what I do in my free time I kind of just answered "a lot of nerdy things" and tried to just move on... She prodded a little further with, "what, are you one of those Dungeons and Dragons guys?"
And I'm not the type to lie... and the look on her face when I said that I was...
She followed that up with a, "I should probably find my friend." I think that was just a dealbreaker for her.
And like, I do what I can to keep myself in decent shape, and try my best to look good especially if I'm going out, but BAM the nerd card drops and a lot of people will just jump to stereotypes.

Spoiler

Yeah... it can be a buzz kill at times. But would I ever think about going back in time and changing the things I got into as a kid? Never. I love my hobbies, and the friends I've made from them are better than the friends I have from other things.

If you are looking for a girl to date then you should certainly not be ashamed of your hobbies, if you confidently say you are into nerdy things(or whatever) most girls won't care that much. I find they care a lot more when you try to beat around the bush with the subject like you are ashamed of it(not saying you did that). I've never had problems with girls and the ones that have rejected me because of my hobbies I don't mind either because I have certainly rejected girls because of their hobbies before so I understand. It's important to realize that some people just aren't into certain things and it can be a huge turn-off for them and that doesn't necessarily make them stuck up. For example I hate smoking and couldn't date a girl who smokes cigarettes, but that doesn't mean I necessarily think any less of them. Knowing you aren't going to be compatible with someone is something girls are a lot better at then most guys I feel, though it can't hurt to give people chances in most cases.

 

[Vashimus]

And who knows, you might end up with a girl who paints custom controllers for you like Hylian.

 

[KayB]

Apparently the PMBR are really good at programming cpus. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=908qIQi__1o&feature=youtu.be

 

[Nausicaa]

Was not the bee's knees.

Bee's communicate through dance.
Did you dance it to her at least?

 

[Plum]

I definitely beat around the bush with it.
I'm a fairly introverted person with a poor self image and depression issues.
I do what I can for my self image; for the first time in years I've been able to get out of the shower, look at myself in the mirror, and tell myself I'm a good looking dude and that's pretty huge for me. But man, as soon as I have to talk about myself I just get cold feet, so to speak. I just tell myself that I'm not interesting. And I know that's full of ****. That's the worst part. Knowing that what I'm telling myself is a crock, but still listening to myself. I've got plenty of interesting hobbies and it's not all just nerd ****. I play the basically any form of percussion, and used to play out in the local scene, love bikeriding and skiing, blah blah blah. I've got plenty to talk about. Buuuuut naaah. Let's just be ashamed of what I enjoy doing.
#firstworldproblems

 

[Nausicaa]

#classic
Percussion is fun. You still play these days? Or not as much but 'it's like riding a bike' so it's all good?
#Bikeforlife

 

[Plum]

I don't have the room to set up my kit anymore, so I definitely don't play as much as I used to back when I was actively in a band. So sadly my kit is in storage. I'll play whenever I get the chance to use somebody else's kit, but there's definitely rust that needs to be shaken off from not being able to play every day anymore. Most of what I get the chance to play these days is your standard rock stuff, but my real passion when playing is blues, and folk.
I still have a couple hand drums that I keep around for those "around the campfire" times but that's all I really have at my place.

 

[Hylian]

I definitely beat around the bush with it.
I'm a fairly introverted person with a poor self image and depression issues.
I do what I can for my self image; for the first time in years I've been able to get out of the shower, look at myself in the mirror, and tell myself I'm a good looking dude and that's pretty huge for me. But man, as soon as I have to talk about myself I just get cold feet, so to speak. I just tell myself that I'm not interesting. And I know that's full of ****. That's the worst part. Knowing that what I'm telling myself is a crock, but still listening to myself. I've got plenty of interesting hobbies and it's not all just nerd ****. I play the basically any form of percussion, and used to play out in the local scene, love bikeriding and skiing, blah blah blah. I've got plenty to talk about. Buuuuut naaah. Let's just be ashamed of what I enjoy doing.
#firstworldproblems

That's a perfectly normal thing. It can be a lot easier to not be ashamed of your hobbies if you include them into other things as well, it's the people who literally have no hobbies but gaming that usually perpetuate the stereotype. I just find there are too many fun things in life to be interested in one particular type of thing, but to each their own. Also, a good comeback line to a girl saying "what are you one of those dungeons and dragons type guys" would be something like "what, you don't have any guilty pleasures? *smile in a non creepy way disclaimer*. Teasing girls jokingly with witty comments without being too cheesy makes you seem incredibly attractive for whatever reason as long as you don't overdo it. Eventually you'll run into actually open-minded girls and you'll find them far more enjoyable to talk to/hang out with then the boring ones who get offended by you having a hobby lmao. No reason to think worse of yourself over shallow people .

 

[Nausicaa]

Like riding a bike, no biggy, lack-of-kit is impermanent.
I don't have one set-up right now either. My bro moved in and uses our music room as a study-room, so it's torn down, and I gave my smaller beginner kit (from a decade ago that was stored in my closet for ages) to a friend in exchange for some cooking stuff.
Screw kits!

 

[Plum]

Definitely don't need a kit to feel like a drummer though. I'll be mid conversation, and suddenly a song pops in my head, and I can't help but tap out the beat with my hands/feet. Or there's driving with my knees while airdrumming a solo that just came on the radio.

 

[#HBC | Joker]

That's why I like being a vocalist. I can jam out to the radio, or play music on my phone, and sing along with my "instrument", because I've always got it on hand.

 

[SunJester]

Its a fine line between caring about what people think of you, and not caring.

You should care to the extent that you should be nice to people and not be a ****, but if someone thinks they're better than you because of something you like/do, then **** 'em. You are your whole world, and you, before anyone else, deserves your love and respect.


My instrument doesn't exactly cause much noise unless plugged in (bass), that's why when we do the whole campfire thing I bought an acoustic guitar to do the whole sing-along thing (i suck at acoustic though)

 

[#HBC | Joker]

The thing that sucks about being a vocalist is that if you tell people, they go "Omg, you sing?! Sing us a song right now!" and there's no music playing, and I'm just supposed to pick a song off the top of my head.

 

[Trinsic]

I just find there are too many fun things in life to be interested in one particular type of thing, but to each their own.

Thinking like this actually prevents me from forming any new hobbies, at least long term. There's a lot of stuff out there I want to try out, so I almost never stick to one thing long enough for it to really be considered a hobby. Also, the hobbies I do get into almost always involve learning about stuff instead of learning how to do something. Like I'll read up about stuff I think is interesting, but the idea of learning to draw or play an instrument or sport just doesn't appeal to me. So I don't know if the stuff I like even counts as hobbies since I don't really DO stuff, maybe they're just interests. But that's semantics.

I should probably just find something and force myself to stick with it, but is it really worth spending time on something if I don't enjoy doing it just so I can say I have a hobby? Past experiences tell me I'd just end up resenting and hating whatever it is I'm forcing myself to do. So I guess for now I'll just stick to the triumvirate of videogames, internet and anime, since those are the only things I consistently want to come back to.

Definitely don't need a kit to feel like a drummer though. I'll be mid conversation, and suddenly a song pops in my head, and I can't help but tap out the beat with my hands/feet. Or there's driving with my knees while airdrumming a solo that just came on the radio.

Ha, I used to know a drummer and he did stuff like that all the time.

 

[Spiffykins]

The thing that sucks about being a vocalist is that if you tell people, they go "Omg, you sing?! Sing us a song right now!" and there's no music playing, and I'm just supposed to pick a song off the top of my head.

Every musician has this problem to some extent.

 

[#HBC | Joker]

Every musician has this problem to some extent.

But they won't expect you to play a song unless you have your guitar/drums/bass/wutever with you. I never don't have mine.

 

[Spiffykins]

But they won't expect you to play a song unless you have your guitar/drums/bass/wutever with you. I never don't have mine.

Hence the "to some extent" part.

Maybe I should drop guitar to play some weird obscure instrument nobody else owns or knows about. Bass guitar, for example. No, no, that one won't do, I only know how to play 8 string bass guitars, sorry.

 

[#HBC | Joker]

The worst thing is when girls tell me to sing a song for them, and then I start singing a love song directly to them, and they get super embarrassed and try to make me stop.

Did I say "worst thing"? I meant "best thing ever".