I learned something about myself. The more miserable my friends are, the happier I am

[The_Altrox]

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It sounds terrible, but it's true. Now I'm not the guy who gets straight joy out of peoples' misfortune, and I would never want to cause somebody pain for my own gain, but...

Back in December, this girl I was friends with was going through a rough patch with her friends and her family. Being an outside party in the situation, she turned to me as a crying shoulder. Over the next few months, we spent a lot of time together, and I even began to like her a little bit (that's another story if anybody cares.) But it was weird. With her confiding in me for everything, despite the sadness of the whole situation, it made me feel... good.
When things started to get better though, everything changed. She started talking with me less. While I was happy she was happy, it was really bittersweet that I was left behind. And I began to fall back into my normal demeanor (I'm semi-emo irl, but only a few people actually know this.)
Along with her, other friends would talk with me about problems, though not to as great an extent. BUt when they did, I felt as though their pain empowered me.
It's really weird. I guess I just feel like I'm needed when people are sad. It's a great feeling, but it consequently leaves me sadder when they don't need me anymore and I just become "that guy" again.
Just me rambling. I just leech off emotions I guess.

 

[Apollo$]

She used you as a crutch so she could feel better

Don't be that guy

 

[The_Altrox]

She used you as a crutch so she could feel better

Don't be that guy

Captain Obvious strikes again!

 

[#HBC | Gorf]

Emo. From this blog, I agree.

You gotta make friends that like you for who you are. That share common interest. And put yourself in the spotlight more. It's not fair to your self esteem to stay in your mind, isolated from everybody else. You have to make friends, instead of waiting for people to come to you. I'm not trying to put you down, but I'm kind of the same way. I'm a kind of fat kid. And I tend to make friends through making fun of myself. It's not fair, and I'm trying to change that. Ultimately, don't let people use you. It's not fair to you.

 

[The_Altrox]

Emo. From this blog, I agree.

You gotta make friends that like you for who you are. That share common interest. And put yourself in the spotlight more. It's not fair to your self esteem to stay in your mind, isolated from everybody else. You have to make friends, instead of waiting for people to come to you. I'm not trying to put you down, but I'm kind of the same way. I'm a kind of fat kid. And I tend to make friends through making fun of myself. It's not fair, and I'm trying to change that. Ultimately, don't let people use you. It's not fair to you.

I have a lot of friends who like me for who I am or at least for what I show. It's not about making friends. I already have a good number. It's just my want to feel like somebody needs me.

and I didn't wait for her to come to me. When I talked with her the first time, I confronted her because I could tell she was upset about something. and I didnt like her at the time. I was just being a good friend because if a friend is sad, you should see what's up. I didn't expect it to escalate.

and yeah, I figured out she was using me after several events. I didn't want to believe it, but I could tell

 

[Death Arcana]

we all carry these things inside that no one else can see, they hold us down like anchors they drown us out at see.

 

[Mota]

Made you feel needed, like you were important and apart of someones life.

Maybe it's not people being miserable that makes you happy, but actually developing connections and talking heart to heart with others that brings you happiness.

 

[#HBC | Acrostic]

we all carry these things inside that no one else can see, they hold us down like anchors they drown us out at see.

How is Bring Me the Horizon relevant to this topic?

 

[RyuReiatsu]

Next step is finding a maniaco depressive girlfriend with affection dependence issues.
You'll love it.

Made you feel needed, like you were important and apart of someones life.

Maybe it's not people being miserable that makes you happy, but actually developing connections and talking heart to heart with others that brings you happiness.

^ This. I went through it too.

 

[cookieM0Nster]

Just get a dominatrix girlfriend and have her hurt her self. That'll keep you happy

 

[El Nino]

Just get a dominatrix girlfriend and have her hurt her self.

That's not what a dominatrix does.

Just an FYI.

 

[P.C. Jona]

girls suck

imo

i have a girlfriend tho

almost 3 years together

but yea

girls = trouble/money/fights/nonsense

its worth it if you plan on getting married

if not

girls suck

thats what were talking about right

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

Well I get some enjoyment from others' suffering, but to a much lesser extent.

i.e., if they're moaning or complaining over something stupid, or if they've been insulted, or if they get mad, then I laugh.

But if they're actually hurt, physically or emotionally, then either I help them or I let someone else help them.
Or I try to avoid them, either one.



But no you're just demented.

 

[Sucumbio]

That's a little harsh, in fact I'd say its not dementia at all, its an astute observation of the human psyche; understanding that one may benefit from others' suffering on some level especially if said person is normally a loner.

This kinda ties into the argument that some people only do nice things to be rewarded. A simple holding of a door for someone leads to a thank you, etc. Having someone emotionally depend on you is gratifying, especially if your own emotional stability is either lacking, or void. I hesitate to say completely lacking, the OP is admittedly only semi-emo, but that's like saying you're only half-gay.

 

[#HBC | Mac]

girls suck

imo

i have a girlfriend tho

almost 3 years together

but yea

girls = trouble/money/fights/nonsense

its worth it if you plan on getting married

if not

girls suck

thats what were talking about right

homie...


yu gettin married?

is DJ the best man?

 

[P.C. Jona]

yea ima marry that snitch

my best man is definitely gonna be the one who gives me the most money lol

nah idk who