no, saying that _____ is fate means nothing more than an excuse of your own inability to stand up for it
every person, and every thing follows a pattern, those patterns have their own probabilities and outcomes, those in turns create events, afterwards those events happen creating our everyday situations.
those events don't just happen, they are made by what you and everyone does, not some bloodied hand reaching down to determine peoples lives
if you want to change how things are going, you have to take the first act, change a pattern, come up with a plan, do something different, believe on the change.
not your firends, not the strangers, not the "gods" of destiny, you
there is not such thing as fate, only a persons belief and outcomes