The Relationship Topic

[McCloud]

Whatever is cool that you want to go to as well. Don't pull that "hey do you want to go see The Notebook (or other lovey dovey)" unless you REALLY REALLY want to see it and she already knows you're a bit of a nancy anyways.

Movies out to see:

Forgetting Sarah Marshall
Narnia
Iron Man
Speed
Indy

And you better make it clear when you ask her out that you're asking her out.
It's not a "go to the movies with my friend" situation, it's a "you're hot and i'm secretly pining for you because you have a boyfriend but now you don't have a boyfriend so let's do it" situation.

 

[orintemple]

Whatever is cool that you want to go to as well. Don't pull that "hey do you want to go see The Notebook (or other lovey dovey)" unless you REALLY REALLY want to see it and she already knows you're a bit of a nancy anyways.

Movies out to see:

Forgetting Sarah Marshall
Narnia
Iron Man
Speed
Indy

And you better make it clear when you ask her out that you're asking her out.
It's not a "go to the movies with my friend" situation, it's a "you're hot and i'm secretly pining for you because you have a boyfriend but now you don't have a boyfriend so let's do it" situation.

From what I have been told by various people, watching "The Notebook" with a girl is a near sure-fire way to get laid, but if you find a theater that still show that I will give you mad props.

Anyway, the type of movie doesn't really matter. She is your friend anyway so its not like it needs to be all formal and whatnot. You probably already know if she wants to see a certain movie coming out, and if not, just ask her like you would any other time. Then just tell her to see the movie with you. Also, depending on how much she likes(or doesn't like) her current relationship, she may be willing to dump the guy for a more "superior" one(you).

 

[Crimson King]

Scary movies aren't for all girls. My girlfriend took me YEARS of conditioning on J-Horror movies to get her to even watch a horror movie. One of my best friends will literally not even come if the trailer looks scary. She gets horrible nightmares and just can't stand them.

Comedy movies are risky because if they have obscure humor or grossout humor she may hate it. A LOT of people I know took girls to see Good Luck Chuck, because it had that massive tool, Dane Cook, in it. Two of my friends said never see it with a girl because it's essentially a porno. One guy had the girl never call him again, and the other his girlfriend doesn't let him pick movies anymore.

 

[McCloud]

From what I have been told by various people, watching "The Notebook" with a girl is a near sure-fire way to get laid, but if you find a theater that still show that I will give you mad props.

Note the parentheses in the previous post.


And yes, Dane Cook is mediocre.

 

[Kitten]

From what I have been told by various people, watching "The Notebook" with a girl is a near sure-fire way to get laid, but if you find a theater that still show that I will give you mad props.

Don't watch The Notebook. She will instantly suspect you of just trying to get with her or being up to no good.

 

[Leahdybug]

DO people actually think that with women thats so lame.....

 

[Kitten]

DO people actually coherent sentence writings.

 

[Leahdybug]

Whine somemore, people can stand dark peaches typing you can stand mine too or you can continue to be an ***. Happy Days to you either way. I still stand by the movie thing as being lame and will continue to ask the question does it really work for guys?

 

[orintemple]

Whine somemore, people can stand dark peaches typing you can stand mine too or you can continue to be an ***. Happy Days to you either way. I still stand by the movie thing as being lame and will continue to ask the question does it really work for guys?

No idea I have never tried it, but I assume very shallow women would fall for it. And the guys who told me this are kind of the type who would get with shallow women.

 

[Leahdybug]

Hmm well more power to ya then.

 

[The Masked Z]

It's not a "go to the movies with my friend" situation, it's a "you're hot and I am a chode and I am pathetic enough to ask you out on a date to a movie which every other guy in the world has done to you and since I missed my chance of getting you, I finally mustered up what little courage I have and want to capitalize the timing of you breaking up with your boyfriend because you are the only girl for me and I think there is no other girl than you and I think if I don't get you in my bed, I will never get laid in my life ever again so please accept my needy, pathetic self since you are a goddess and no one else will accept me because I will never find the courage to ask another girl out, and if you reject me, which I know you will, I will think all women are *****es and are mean and my life will be over, so let's do it" situation.

Fixed for you.

Dude, whoever the kid is that has this problem with this girl, Kilut, you gotta realize that there are plenty of other women out there.

I don't understand why don't you just move on. You've already been Friendz-owned, you talk about relationship problems, stuff that girlfriends talk with each other, not men and women in a romantic context. I'm not saying it's impossible, but dude, you are wasting your time. From the looks of it, it's much better just to chill out, have this girl still be your friend, go out and meet new women or women from your social circle.

Who knows, she may be in a relationship until a year later, so would you be single for a year just for one girl? I know for hell I won't.

But hey, if it works out, good for you. Just honestly, cut the bullsh*t.

 

[Leahdybug]

Fixed for you.

Dude, whoever the kid is that has this problem with this girl, Kilut, you gotta realize that there are plenty of other women out there.

I don't understand why don't you just move on. You've already been Friendz-owned, you talk about relationship problems, stuff that girlfriends talk with each other, not men and women in a romantic context. I'm not saying it's impossible, but dude, you are wasting your time. From the looks of it, it's much better just to chill out, have this girl still be your friend, go out and meet new women or women from your social circle.

Who knows, she may be in a relationship until a year later, so would you be single for a year just for one girl? I know for hell I won't.

But hey, if it works out, good for you. Just honestly, cut the bullsh*t.

I like this post ^

 

[Reyairia]

I like this post ^

As do I. Especially this part;

and if you reject me, which I know you will, I will think all women are *****es and are mean and only like jerks, which I consider your boyfriend to be just because I'm jealous even if he'd of course be an *** to me once he found out I was hitting on his girlfriend, and my life will be over, so let's do it" situation.

Added a bit though.

 

[McCloud]

Subtleties gentlemen, subtleties...

 

[Kilut]

Lol, this isn't the only girl I like, I do like other girls, and seriously we're all in high school so their relaionship won't be to long anyway, I know other girls, just like her the most. And mo, I won't be single for a year because of her.

 

[MarthIsMyHero]

I don't get this friendz-owned crap.

My turn!

My friend changed her mind a while ago, but she had a lot of friend stress and still has no idea what she wants in a guy. Known her for 5 years, and she's quite the strange one. She gets mad when I look at her for long periods of time, gets mad when I do anything beyond hug her in public (even grab her arm for attention, or holding (prom)). It's not a friendz-owned situation for me, although for 4 years it seemed that way. Very indecisive, but I really don't want to bond with many people like I do with her, so I really never wanna give up on her. Most people are somehow agitating on an aspect. The only thing she bothers me with is her indecisiveness, everything else is very very tolerable for me. I kinda grew into it, I guess.

Prom... was weird. She didn't care if I danced at all with her, she literally said she had NO expectations. It's because we discussed stuff like it a long time ago, and I said I'd never dance. Guess what? I felt so ashamed I actually got up and danced slow dances. She was surprised, but she still got mad at me for looking at her the whole time... It's not that she doesn't like me, she just really doesn't like being the center of attention.

EDIT: No, being with her alone is NOT awkward. It's actually rather calm.

 

[Jam Stunna]

^What's the question?

 

[McCloud]

Marth: Sounds like... you got friend zoned.

 

[Tom]

heres some advice...

dont let your ex try to ruin your life =/

 

[McCloud]

Or have your friend's ex try to ruin your friend's life by calling all his friends and his mother.

 

[MarthIsMyHero]

Yeah, same answer as always. I don't really enjoy most females, they are intolerable, impatient, and demand too much attention. I give them attention when I want to. If they are nice enough, they get a lot. If they are whiny and *itchy, then yeah, I'm ignoring you. I don't see a lot of good in most women today. Can't find my way out of the selfishness they tend to bear. I try being conscious of them, so I can't deal with a girl that is totally selfish, and overdemanding. I'm just gonna enjoy my time being single, I'll just stumble across a girl at some point, I guess. I'm not looking, nor am I going to start conversations. I prefer not dealing with more people than I have to, since I'm at home (will be in my dorm room) most of the time.

Women are confusing. I'm going to live without them until a good one shows up. I don't care if I don't find one, I'll just chill out.

 

[KevinM]

It will always confuse me how some guys place women on an unreachable plane.

 

[McCloud]

You're moving towards having the right attitude.

You find it when you stop looking for it.

For serious though, every other interest you can think of you should pursue other than relationships.

However, instead of "not starting conversations", you should focus on just talking to girls as friends and strictly as friends. Take your time and spend it with people that you find interesting, not necessarily who you are attracted to.

 

[Leahdybug]

Stop putting the ***** on a pedistile (if that bothers you its a movie quote) as for the dude with women sounds like attract crappy women, and at the same time it doesnt sound like you want to be in a realtionship. Doesnt seem like you flexible enough for give and take.

 

[Leahdybug]

I don't get this friendz-owned crap.

My turn!

My friend changed her mind a while ago, but she had a lot of friend stress and still has no idea what she wants in a guy. Known her for 5 years, and she's quite the strange one. She gets mad when I look at her for long periods of time, gets mad when I do anything beyond hug her in public (even grab her arm for attention, or holding (prom)). It's not a friendz-owned situation for me, although for 4 years it seemed that way. Very indecisive, but I really don't want to bond with many people like I do with her, so I really never wanna give up on her. Most people are somehow agitating on an aspect. The only thing she bothers me with is her indecisiveness, everything else is very very tolerable for me. I kinda grew into it, I guess.

Prom... was weird. She didn't care if I danced at all with her, she literally said she had NO expectations. It's because we discussed stuff like it a long time ago, and I said I'd never dance. Guess what? I felt so ashamed I actually got up and danced slow dances. She was surprised, but she still got mad at me for looking at her the whole time... It's not that she doesn't like me, she just really doesn't like being the center of attention.



EDIT: No, being with her alone is NOT awkward. It's actually rather calm.

She obviously isnt comfortable, Ive seen this kinda attitude and younger sexually abused girls not saying she was but there is obviously a reason weather it be shes not into you or she just not comfortable with the actual attention for what ever reason. thats just imo.

 

[Reyairia]

Yeah, same answer as always. I don't really enjoy most females, they are intolerable, impatient, and demand too much attention. I give them attention when I want to. If they are nice enough, they get a lot. If they are whiny and *itchy, then yeah, I'm ignoring you. I don't see a lot of good in most women today. Can't find my way out of the selfishness they tend to bear. I try being conscious of them, so I can't deal with a girl that is totally selfish, and overdemanding. I'm just gonna enjoy my time being single, I'll just stumble across a girl at some point, I guess. I'm not looking, nor am I going to start conversations. I prefer not dealing with more people than I have to, since I'm at home (will be in my dorm room) most of the time.

Women are confusing. I'm going to live without them until a good one shows up. I don't care if I don't find one, I'll just chill out.

*snortlaugh*
It's copypasta tiem

Yeah, same answer as always. I don't really enjoy most males, they are intolerable, impatient, and constantly demand sex. I give into their demands when I want to. If they are nice enough, I do what they say. If they are bossy and *itchy, then yeah, I'm ignoring you. I don't see a lot of good in most men today. Can't find my way out of the selfishness they tend to bear. I try being conscious of them, so I can't deal with a guy that is totally selfish, and overdemanding. I'm just gonna enjoy my time being single, I'll just stumble across a guy at some point, I guess. I'm not looking, nor am I going to start conversations. I prefer not dealing with more people than I have to, since I'm at home (will be in my dorm room) most of the time.

Men are confusing; they ignore you completely one moment and go on a jealous rampage the next. I'm going to live without them until a good one shows up. I don't care if I don't find one, I'll just chill out.

 

[Leahdybug]

LOL oh thankyou so much

 

[Reyairia]

LOL oh thankyou so much

My pleasure.

 

[MarthIsMyHero]

I'm not one to want to get hurt. But if I get really mad, I can do some serious damage to the person if things go wrong, and I really regret doing that to some already. I'm looking to avoid hurting another person, that's my thing. Either hit the jackpot, or go home. That's all I wanna do. I wanna avoid temporary people. It seems in bad taste, and is awkward in the end.

 

[Grand Mango]

I'm not one to want to get hurt. But if I get really mad, I can do some serious damage to the person if things go wrong, and I really regret doing that to some already. I'm looking to avoid hurting another person, that's my thing. Either hit the jackpot, or go home. That's all I wanna do. I wanna avoid temporary people. It seems in bad taste, and is awkward in the end.

You again? Hurry and go cure your one-itis. Also the relationship you described with that woman is not congruent with your opinion on women. Sounds like to me you are tolerating too much out of this one girl. Drop her like a ton of bricks from your dating world and find someone else.

Can you honestly see yourself dating this one? Been nearly 5 years. I think it should've happened already.

 

[Steck]

It will always confuse me how some guys place women on an unreachable plane.

It's usually because if you lack the confidence to actually pursue her, you get used to the idea that you are never going to have her. And then she becomes a dream. A distraction from any problems in life.
Not a healthy way to think and it gets old after a year. But the feeling is intense.

 

[KoreanDJ111]

It's usually because if you lack the confidence to actually pursue her, you get used to the idea that you are never going to have her. And then she becomes a dream. A distraction from any problems in life.
Not a healthy way to think and it gets old after a year. But the feeling is intense.

This thread is upsetting. Close it.

 

[Steck]

I'm not justifying it, I'm saying why this is done. I'm not denying its stupidity.

 

[Jam Stunna]

There are far too many women in the world to focus on just one. If she's extremely difficult or she doesn't want you, just move on. You'll fall in love again, don't believe in that romanticized "This is the only girl for me" BS. There are many women out there with which you could have a very happy and successful relationship.

 

[Dexter Morgan]

I really need some advice. You see there's a girl I like that goes to my college and I want to go out with her but I want to become better friends first. Does anyone have any advice on what move I should make first?

 

[KevinM]

Stop justifying this concept. Just stop.

It puzzles me why some guys just don't learn from their mistakes.

This !

 

[Jam Stunna]

I really need some advice. You see there's a girl I like that goes to my college and I want to go out with her but I want to become better friends first. Does anyone have any advice on what move I should make first?

I would honestly avoid becoming friends with her first. Friendship can come after you've made it clear that you're interested in her in a romantic way. It is much easier to become friends after you've started dating than it is to start dating after you become friends.

 

[SamuraiPanda]

Hm... I'm gonna open up a bit because I'm bored right now and I'm avoiding studying. I'm going to be a college senior next year and I've never had a girlfriend before. I have a strange tendency to push away women who get too close to me, with horrible reasons behind doing it. Its not that no woman has ever been interested in me, far from it actually. Every new semester/school year there are always 1-2 girls, usually in my classes, that I know are interested but I always dodge their advances and convince myself that I don't really have the time to get involved with someone that I only minimally feel attracted to. I lack the self-confidence to actually get a girl that I consider is "worth" giving up my free time for, and I always make some excuse as to why some other girl that is interested in me isn't actually "worth" giving my free time up.

Its taken me years to realize that I've been forcibly pushing away all the women that get close to me while simultaneously lamenting my lack of a relationship. Now that I've realized that, I still have one girl interested in me that I communicate with on and off. But there is yet another problem with that. I'm looking for a relationship that is encompassing, meaning emotional and physical. But this girl is the saving-for-marriage religious type (which is often the type interested in me) so I know that I can't get everything I'm looking for in a relationship if I start something with her. So I guess my question is, should I just bite the bullet and date this girl despite me knowing its not going to become what I'm looking for, or should I wait and just see if I can find someone else in my other classes coming up?

I don't know whether its more important right now to rid myself of this "pushing women away" mentality as soon as possible by getting a relationship or if I should take the risk and try to wait it out for something "better" down the line (which, btw, is one of the biggest justifications I've used for pushing women away in the past, thus my hesitation of doing it again). Its kinda complicated for me, and I'm sure it makes me come off as an *** (trust me, I'm not trying to be), but I'm just not sure what I should do at this point.

 

[Leahdybug]

Yes, get rid of that mentality . You gonna have trail and error (what im learning right now so i completely understand). You'll learn something get to know a potentially awesome person and get a lil experience under you. It will boost your confidence as well and simply make you feel good for a bit.

Hopefully she istn teh type that think she going to marry everyone she dates so she should be understandable if there come a time when you feel you want mroe things from a relationship ie going further in a relationship. Sex is apart of a realtionship maybe not with everyone. Its all about your personal ideals I dont liek saying morals because I love it personally i like it being apart of the relationship. So your alloud to have what you want to it not just about her its about you too. ^^

 

[Jam Stunna]

Well, you've identified the problem, which is the step that 90% of people don't get past without professional help. The easy part is implementing it. But you're right, why settle? Don't make up reasons why you can't date a girl that aren't valid, but don't jump on anything just because it's there. It does you no good to get into a relationship that you know is going to fail from the beginning. Find someone that at least shares your views on such a huge part of your adult relationship.