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I got it bad......

Frigid_Aztec

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I REALLY like this one girl. So much so that almost everything that I liked before is now just boring to me. I just can't concentrate on it. I already failed horribly on my test today (3/22, ouch) because I couldn't think about it last night.

I'm friends with the girl, but she is way better friends with some other guy (not going out yet thank God). But what makes it soooooo bad, is that the guy she likes is one of my best ****ing friends........

WTF am I supposed to do?
 

Falco&Victory

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Um, man the hell up. Jesus, I've liked girls I couldn't have. The girl I like wants to hook up with an older football player, and guess what? I'm helping her. Maybe you should be friends with her.
/flames

sucks for you, but I'd say just be nice to her, and above all else be funny. Don't embarrass yourself in the process though
Oh, and I really am trying to hook up the girl I like with another guy lol
 

Frigid_Aztec

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Um, man the hell up. Jesus, I've liked girls I couldn't have. The girl I like wants to hook up with an older football player, and guess what? I'm helping her. Maybe you should be friends with her.
/flames

sucks for you, but I'd say just be nice to her, and above all else be funny. Don't embarrass yourself in the process though
Oh, and I really am trying to hook up the girl I like with another guy lol
Bieng funny is all I got (I aint that good lookin :laugh: )

and I am friends with her...
 

Kirby knight

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Ask her out. ( If that's to direct ask her to go to the movies with a few friends; not the guy who likes her).

If she denies you can your going to have to face the reality of the situation and move on. Otherwise if you don't ask her out and she ends up going out with that guy you were talking about; your going to regret not asking her out in the first place.

-Knight
 

Falco&Victory

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Hmm... well if she's a teenager, and she likes your best friend, then just be nice and help her out, even if you don't want to. You'll feel better, but it doesn't look like there's much else you can do. Life isn't always fair, I've been dealing with it my whole life.

EDIT: Oh, yeah, definitely go to the movies with her an a few friends. Great idea, just don't try to let on that you like her too much.
Great story, me and the girl I like were at the movies with my friend who feel asleep on her shoulder. Of course, it was hard to put my arm around her(which seems to annoy her) after that, but it was worth it
 

brawlpro

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eh, to hell wit your friend, since they aren't goin out and such right now, just ask her out before that other ***** does...lol, i'm just playin round...srsly, if she slows you down THAT much...ask her, then get responce, then move on...
 

Frigid_Aztec

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Well, its not a movie, but tomorrow me and a bunch of friends (including her) are going to the florida football game. I'm setting next to her, but of course so is my friend that she likes (he gave me the ticket:laugh: )

Yeah, maybe I should just accept it. I'll still try and get her to like me, but I won't be an *** if she does go out with my frined.
 

Kirby knight

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Well, its not a movie, but tomorrow me and a bunch of friends (including her) are going to the florida football game. I'm setting next to her, but of course so is my friend that she likes (he gave me the ticket:laugh: )

Yeah, maybe I should just accept it. I'll still try and get her to like me, but I won't be an *** if she does go out with my frined.
That sounds like a reasonable response to the situation. I'm glad your not one of those people " Get the girl at any cost; screw your friends". At least you know you gave it your best shot if she chooses not to go out with you.

-Knight
 

Frigid_Aztec

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That sounds like a reasonable response to the situation. I'm glad your not one of those people " Get the girl at any cost; screw your friends". At least you know you gave it your best shot if she chooses not to go out with you.

-Knight
Bieng a jerk to my friend would be the worst thing to do. Always a chance that it won't work out between them of course.........
 

Falco&Victory

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Bros before hoes, bros before hoes.

I just realized, I'm helping at least 4 people get into a relationship. Where the hell is my help?

And don't wish ill on your friends, just tell the girl that you're happy for her and so on.
And girls like it when you flirt with them, just don't act like you're serious too long, or they panic(some girls carry this stuff called 'mace')
 

Blackadder

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Wow, I thought I would never see any threads on this kinda thing on the boards! Frankley, I suggest you either ask her out or wait 3 or so months. You'll get over her, seriously. Actually, it all depends. How old are you? The younger you are the faster the crush will vanish. Trust me, eventually she will seem just as "Ehh" as the next girl. Of course, you could ask her out, and so how long that lasts.

Just do whatever seems most reasonable. :p
 

Blackadder

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I'm 15 and I've had a crush on my same friend for 6 months O:

Do I get a medal?

Just make sure she isn't obsessed completely with your friend.
Yeah, I'm 15 too, and I went out with someone for 8 months.
It's over now, and I don't cryevery night for her.

When I say 3 months I kinda guessed that may be average time.
I dunno how it is for individuals, but I'm pretty sure you should just ask her out. Just go for it. If she says "no" whoopdi-doo, you're still friends with her.
Alternativly, you could just wait till you get over her.
That's the aprouch I have to say I take most of the time.

Edit:
@Brawlpro

Yeah, it is a pain, which is why I also suggested just asking her out.
It's not as hard as it seems, in my experiance.
 

SantaClaus

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dont help her at all that is ridiculously counter productive, if anything stay out of her relationship problems. Don't be a nice guy, girls befriend nice guys they dont date them, be interesting funny and make her feel like she needs to get YOU dont be/look desperate, be confident.
 

Frigid_Aztec

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Well, thanks to everyone who helped. I do feel better now, guessI just needed to talk about it some (all my friends seemed to have vanished today >.> )
 

plasmawisp6633

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Ask your friend if he likes her. No? Then ask her out. If she says yes then just tell him she likes him as well.

Simple.
Along those same lines, just admit to your friend that you like her. If he isn't that interested in her, then ask for help. If he is interested, then consider it a contest, and may the best man win. Just make sure you don't sit back and do nothing because you feel helpless. Girls are difficult, so you gatta take the initiative to make her yours.
 

Blackadder

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Note: This quote is from the link that guy put up:

No, no no no. You're LJBF'ed. It's over. You need to build attraction from day 1 and escalate with kino and playing it cocky/funny. You don't love her, you just really want to **** her. You're also a romantic at heart, so this is your psychological way of constructing it. Search for a book called Magic Bullets or The Juggler Method and buy some pheromone spray. androticsdirect is a great place for the latter.

The thing is she isn't attracted to you. That's your fault. Attraction isn't a choice, but not as much as you think. Put some MAJOR distance between you and her right now. Why are you keeping around her right now? Because you want to take things to the next step but are too much of an AFC to do it?

Don't call her, don't talk to her, don't send her emails or hang out with her or any of that stuff you do. Just live your life, and improve it. Get a new hairstyle, some new, nice clothes from a trendy place(or ask some other chick friend who seems to know what she's doing, if she doesn't JUMP at the chance to help you out there then she is pretty strange), make sure you've got superb hygiene, and take up activities or hobbies or a lifestyle that would set you up to display higher value to others. This is one of the most important things that attract women. Higher value men. Men who know they are the prize. If you're in high school, go play football or some sport. That's pretty much the easiest way to do it. But it doesn't have to be physical- choir is another sweet way to do it. But you better be **** passionate about whatever it is you are going to do. Are you a good actor? Rower? Writer? Chemist? Something that would impress people and yourself.

Start lifting weights and running. Get your body in great shape. And after you've done all of this stuff, take the improved you out to a club or somewhere you can go sarging. Have fun with random women. Women are also attracted to pre-selection, and they can smell the other girls on you. Pheromones.

You do all this, and when your chick friend starts missing having an orbiter like the old you on hand to compensate for her LSE or whatever the **** she's doing, she will be blown away and instantly attracted to you.

There's obviously a lot more to it than just this. If anyone ever needs help with girl ****, I know female psychology like the back of my hand, and I hate seeing guys get ****ed over like I used to in my early years of high school.
I gotta say, to me, you really sound like a walking romance book blurb.
And a lot of it goes against what I would say you should do to get a girlfriend, or just shag her then and now. I would say the idea of "Ignoring" her and changing your lifestyle is pretty whack. I mean, al of of that stuff to "improve" your life sounds like pretending to be someone else, and that will hardly work. Also, a lot of this stuff sounds VERY much like it came out of...well, the movie Grease!:laugh:

I would say the best way is very different to this, as women aren't just ONE big mind or personality. I know many girls coulden't care less about a guy with big abs, plays hard to get, and taking up a hobby in one day while being passionate about it. Wha? I would recommend just getting in there, making the girl laugh a lot, and building up a friendship with her. Then, when you feel the time is right, ask her out. Not try to be something your not, simply because eventually she will find out your not who you pretend to be.

I'm not flamming, just saying I think you sound a little like Dr. Phil, only more pushy and know-it-all. (And he's pretty pushy know-it-all!)

I would, however, agree with the point about hygeine. :p
Though I have had girlfriends and I'm pretty scruffy long haired/laid back type of guy, and I don't make sure I look awesome everyday.

Just my opionion guys, I just wanted to say.
 

Blackadder

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Blackadder thanks for helping me get my point. I was arguing in another topic with him about this.

Blackadder + Silent_Jester's ideas and realizations ftw
Yeah, I just found that topic, and posted the same thing I did here there.
What's with all the dating threads suddenly? Weird stuff. :laugh:
 

Blackadder

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School starting?
Actually, that's a valid point, I forgot about that.
I actually never thought SWF would ever have any threads on "I luv dis chick" or "help! I'm in love!" I have to say, I think that the word "Love" is tossed around to much, and they all only have a mild crush.

Of course, I only think that because everyone here is hormonel and 14. :p
 

joshisrad

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If you guys want to be major tools about double teaming me, you can keep it in the other thread. I only hope the thread creator for this topic doesn't listen to your advice and follows mine wisely(or inquires further about it if he's confused).
 

joshisrad

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What the hell are you talking about? I NEVER told him to not care about love and not to follow his heart. You're being seriously naive and narrow-minded.

And oh, yes.
Instead of the people with the common sense and experence?
Ad hominem and bandwagon fallacy. That sounds great.
 
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