How Should One Handle An Addiction?

[dinoneil]

In need of some advice...and I know there are some enlightening minds here on the SWF.

 

[Jazzy Jinx]

What kind of addiction?

Otherwise I would recommend regular beatings with a stick filled with broken glass.

But seriously, just find something better to do and take your mind off of it. If that doesn't help, get counseling or take some pills or something. Most people I know were able to break their addictions to some "drugs" that I won't mention by occupying their hands.

But like I said, I have to know what in particular you are addicted to since some drugs are stronger than others and you may not even be talking about a drug.

 

[AHotGreasedUpJigglyPuff 4 Luvin']

Just don't put yourself in the position where your addiction is apparent.
EX: If you smoke, stay away when people are smoking and toss your cigs.
Too much chocolate? Stay out of the candy section.

 

[m3gav01t]

just ignore it, dude. it'll probably go away. at least, that worked with my girlfriend.

 

[Xsyven]

Supposedly, it takes eighteen days to form a habit. It should take about eighteen days to break one, too.

But if it's a serious addiction, they have 12 step programs for that sort of thing.

 

[h2ownage]

Throw away your GC controllers and hide all your games. See what I did there?

If it's smoking then I don't know, they're are groups and stuff.

 

[RyokoYaksa]

Not all addictions are equal.

Advice for dealing with a heroin addiction might not so applicable to, say, an addiction to an MMO game. Elaborate, please.

 

[Ensee]

The first step is admitting you have a problem.

 

[dinoneil]

My addiction isn't life threatening at all. It has no health risks or anything like that and I'm 100% nothing will harm me physically. It probably affects me mentally more than physically. My addiction is something that is morally bad

It's more of a bad habit that I've had for about 3 years and I really need to stop. My girlfriend has already confronted me about it, and though I've told her that I will stop, it's just not as easy as I thought to go cold turkey on it. My relationship is at stake as I said I will stop but have failed to for so long thus losing some of her trust over a period of time.

I'm really not comfortable to talk about this with anyone I know, so I've decided to ask people I don't know.

 

[Tom]

My addiction isn't life threatening at all. It has no health risks or anything like that and I'm 100% nothing will harm me physically. It probably affects me mentally more than physically. My addiction is something that is morally bad

It's more of a bad habit that I've had for about 3 years and I really need to stop. My girlfriend has already confronted me about it, and though I've told her that I will stop, it's just not as easy as I thought to go cold turkey on it. My relationship is at stake as I said I will stop but have failed to for so long thus losing some of her trust over a period of time.

I'm really not comfortable to talk about this with anyone I know, so I've decided to ask people I don't know.

fap fap fap

 

[Sporkman]

fap fap fap

Hole in one, I'm with this guy.

So tell us, 3 times a day? 4 times? more?! Can't get enough of the one man rumpy pumpy. It'll pass, unless you really are obssesed. Just spend a lot of time with people. Get a hobby. And don't tell me you already have one, fapping does not count. As for having no physical effect's, some say it has rather diminishing effects. But hey, what evidence is there? I don't see any citation. Just 2 cents. Spend 'em on what you want.

 

[Shazz]

We cant answer anything without knowing what to answer mate..


Or we could just fling some more general crap at you.

Tell us the whole deal!

 

[leviathan_]

It's more of a bad habit that I've had for about 3 years and I really need to stop. My girlfriend has already confronted me about it, and though I've told her that I will stop, it's just not as easy as I thought to go cold turkey on it. My relationship is at stake as I said I will stop but have failed to for so long thus losing some of her trust over a period of time.

COLD TURKEY, huh? That implies drugs. Once you tell us what kind, then someone can put you in the right direction.

fap fap fap

Is this a Problem or a Solution? o_o

 

[CrystalMidnight]

It's a lot easier if we know what the addiction is, I can help you, I've helped many in my family and group of friends with their addicitions. Smoking, drugs, cutting, ext.But I could only help if I knew what the addiction is, but obviously if your not willing to mention what it is on here, then you most likely wont tell anyone. All I could suggest is thinking about your girlfriend. Ok so the addiciton is hard to break. but whats worse? Getting rid of the addicition or losing your gf?

 

[RyokoYaksa]

Now everyone is going to assume you watch too much porn. Or at least, that's the only thing I'm being led to believe. That's not elaboration so as much as "let's keep assuming"

 

[Varuna]

Well atleast its not a substance. Usually those are moraly wrong too. Assuming you are touching yourself, or are wathing too much porn or a particuarly naughty type I would say to keep trying cold turkey and ask your girlfriend for her support or her "support" if you know what I mean.


If she confronted you about it and has not already broken up with you then I'd bet shes a really good girlfriend, so I think you should apologize to her and ask her for help in the matter.


BTW if it is just touching yourself you should ask yourself if you really think its that wrong or dirty, I mean if its keeping you from continually coming on to women.

 

[pikachun00b7]

wat kinda adixon iz it?

is it ducks?

i liek ducks.

well u just giv it tim3 and it wil go awayy
and don tink to much about it
or ur addixon will grow

 

[Ensee]

So this means you are addicted to fap fap fapping?

Spoiler

aka - masturbation

 

[Haruno Kotetsu]

If its what me and a lot of others in this topic think, You'll need to avoid doing things like that if its an addiction.

If your relationship is at stake, you 2 should really talk about fighting an addiction, because I know how hard addictions are to fight. We ALL know how hard it is, because something so bad can seem so good to you, but you need to see what your doing to the mental image of yourself.

Its nothing we can really help, but you can help. If you started it, you can finish it, and only you can.

 

[Takalth]

I've worked with a few people with different kinds of addiction (not professionally, just personally), and it's really amazing how difficult it can be to break some habits. While any path will be hard, I can give some suggestions:

http://www.providentliving.org/content/list/0,11664,6629-1,00.html

Sponsored by the LDS church (based on the program developed by Alcoholics Anonymous) but open to anyone of any religious beliefs, this one has been extremely successful and helped a lot of people. There's no charge involved, and it covers almost all kinds of addictions.

Besides that, I would give three suggestions:
1)regular contact with an understanding individual. Knowing that you're accountable to somebody in the short term as well as the long term will give you a lot of strength.

2)Pray. People who doubt the power of prayer are those who haven't given it enough of a chance. I've had experiences that have shown to me beyond any doubt that God is there and that he answers prayers. He won't take the addiction away, but he will help you gain some strength.

3)Service. Helping people out has a powerful effect on your mentality and world view. It's a great cure for depression (which is almost always linked to addiction) and will generally give you greater self-control.


Even with these, it's going to be exceedingly hard, but every tool helps, and these are probably your three best.

Anyway, that's all I can give you without more info. Feel free to PM me if you wish.

 

[Sporkman]

If your relationship is at stake, you 2 should really talk about fighting an addiction, because I know how hard addictions are to fight. We ALL know how hard it is, because something so bad can seem so good to you, but you need to see what your doing to the mental image of yourself.

I do believe the hard part is the problem

 

[tmw_redcell]

One good way to quit things is to ease of gradually. Say if your dirty habit is drinking too much soda, say four cans a day, bring down to three cans a day for a week, then two, then one, then one every other day, then two a week, then one, then none. Or just stop at what you find is an acceptable level if it's not something you don't need to stop completely.

If you want to stop right away, people are right in saying you should try to keep occupied and be around other people as much as you can. The other people don't even have to know about your addiction, just keep you occupied. And you'll be less tempted to fap if you're hanging out at your grandma's house at a family gathering or something. Hopefully.

 

[GoldShadow]

I do believe the hard part is the problem

Perfect, haha.

Anyway, I'm with tmw in that you should do it gradually, though in this case it's just because it's easier and not because of health risks (ie, drug or alcohol withdrawal, which can have harmful or even fatal physiological effects).

 

[QUIVO]

Anyone ever watch 3rd Rock From the Sun? This reminded me of when Harry went to AAA thinking it was AA and said he was an alcoholic but all they gave him was a map.

Anyway, just go take a cold shower or something. And don't do it when you wake up.

 

[psicicle]

2)Pray. People who doubt the power of prayer are those who haven't given it enough of a chance. I've had experiences that have shown to me beyond any doubt that God is there and that he answers prayers. He won't take the addiction away, but he will help you gain some strength.

I don't want to start a flame war or anything... but I take issue with this because numerous scientific studies have shown that prayer had no effect when you were say, praying for someone else. A placebo effect may do something if you pray for yourself.

I'm not bashing religion!

 

[Bedi Vegeta]

You are a teenage boy. Your hormones are going crazy. In time, you'll get over it.

 

[Sporkman]

Just make sure you don't over do it son, you don't want to end up with

Faptastic.

 

[Takalth]

I don't want to start a flame war or anything... but I take issue with this because numerous scientific studies have shown that prayer had no effect when you were say, praying for someone else. A placebo effect may do something if you pray for yourself.

I'm not bashing religion!

While I have read about multiple scientific studies which have shown positive effects from prayer when those being prayed for didn't know it was happening. It just shows that absolute trust in "experts" is unwarranted (and believe me, trying to attach the placebo label to a couple of my own experiences would be like attaching the label of "puddle" to the Pacific Ocean).

 

[Haruno Kotetsu]

Cockburns dofl wtf

Yeah, hormones are crazy, it'll probably pass, but if it dosent you really need to get that worked out with your girlfriend and all that stuff

 

[GoldShadow]

While I have read about multiple scientific studies which have shown positive effects from prayer when those being prayed for didn't know it was happening. It just shows that absolute trust in "experts" is unwarranted (and believe me, trying to attach the placebo label to a couple of my own experiences would be like attaching the label of "puddle" to the Pacific Ocean).

Out of curiosity, I'd like to see those scientific studies.

 

[psicicle]

While I have read about multiple scientific studies which have shown positive effects from prayer when those being prayed for didn't know it was happening. It just shows that absolute trust in "experts" is unwarranted (and believe me, trying to attach the placebo label to a couple of my own experiences would be like attaching the label of "puddle" to the Pacific Ocean).

I believe that there is one, which has been shown to have been biased.

http://www.whywontgodhealamputees.com/superstition.htm

Links here are from the above site.

http://www.boston.com/news/globe/health_science/articles/2005/07/25/a_prayer_for_health/

"A national survey conducted by the federal government and published last year, found that 43 percent of Americans prayed for their own health and 24 percent reported that others were praying for their health. Prayer for health dwarfed all other practices the survey researchers considered ''alternative or complementary medicine." Nineteen percent of people said they used natural products, for example. The survey did not ask whether people prayed for others' health."

"In the Duke University study, the researchers studied 748 patients who were undergoing heart procedures such as angioplasty or cardiac catheterization."

"Over a six-month period, the study found no difference in serious side effects, death rate, or readmissions between the patients who had received prayers and those who did not."



http://www.livescience.com/strangenews/ap_060330_prayer.html

"The study looked for any complications within 30 days of the surgery. Results showed no effect of prayer on complication-free recovery. But 59 percent of the patients who knew they were being prayed for developed a complication, versus 52 percent of those who were told it was just a possibility."


http://www.csicop.org/si/2004-09/miracle-study.html

Is this your study?

"The Columbia University 'Miracle' Study: Flawed and Fraud"

 

[commonyoshi]

"How Should One Handle An Addiction?"

Oho. Good one, topic creator.

 

[Wuss]

"How Should One Handle An Addiction?"

Oho. Good one, topic creator.

lol, wow, sick mind man...

 

[Crimson King]

What a ******** topic.

I'll give him 24 hours to reply or I'm shutting this down.

 

[Arkengate]

hahaha why would your gf care if your wackin the one headed snake?
Unless shes a nympho, she shouldnt care. lol...

Otherwise, if its drugs, just tell her that whenever u 'need a rush' to come over and make out or have sex. Itll only last a month, then you'll be addicted to sex instead. Much better, i would say ^_^

 

[capncone]

There's a great radio program called loveline. It's fun to listen to, and you can call in with your own problems. It might not be on any of your radio stations though. It starts at 10 pm, and ends at 12. You can probably find it online.

 

[Eternal phoenix Fire]

If it's masturbation, don't be ashamed.


If you're in a deep relationship with her, then get her "assistance".

Can anyone here say that they haven't done it or atleast had thoughts of doing it once?

 

[Blackadder]

If it's masturbation, don't be ashamed.


If you're in a deep relationship with her, then get her "assistance".

Can anyone here say that they haven't done it or atleast had thoughts of doing it once?

Yeah, don't be ashamed.
And yeah, if it is, it's a normal and healty thing.

lol,"assistance". Note Phoenix, this guy could be 12, lulz.
But yeah, it's all cool if it is ****ing.
And trust me kiddo, nearly EVERYONE does it. Or has done it.
Guess which half I'm on!

 

[Devilkoopa]

1. Sever all ties to it.

2. Find something else to fill up your time.


Works for me at least...