Happiness and being what others call socially acceptable

[Fuelbi]

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There's something that has been bothering me for a couple of weeks. Is it bad that you're what society would deem socially unacceptable, even though you are actually quite happy with the status you're in?

See, I was talking with someone on the bus and he's quite the popular person. He regularly goes to parties each week, has like a hundred million girlfriends, and has, according to him, gotten more ***** than me. I told him calm and clearly that I really don't care about that kind of stuff much. I really don't. He told me that I had barely a life and some other stuff I didn't pay attention to much at all. I just shrugged him off and got off the bus at that point. When I got home, however, I started thinking about what he said. I thought about the life I have and tbh, I'm still pretty happy even if I haven't had a girlfriend yet or if I don't go out as much as the other people at my school do.

Growing up, my parents raised me into a calm person (even if I don't seem one on the internet). Any sort of mischievousness or rambunctiousness I ever had as a little kid was gone by the time I had 5. As a result, that also affected how I would spend my time at school. Do I hate my parents for that? Hell no, I actually thank them for it. It taught me many things about manners and being nice to others.

When I went into school, I tried to be one of the cool people and tried to be outgoing and what not, and I think I actually succeeded for a time. I noticed, however, that I wasn't as happy as I could be just staying at home and watching the TV or using the internet (lol dial-up btw) and then occasionally getting out with some friends if I was really bored. So I decided to give up at trying to be what society would call socially unacceptable at around the 3rd or 4th grade. As a result, I would start to be called things like nerd and geek and whatever else elementary kids call each other.

Throughout middle and now high school, I still kept to myself, made a couple of really good friends (to the point where one of them is literally almost like my brother out of how much we hang) and went through with my plans of being happy the way I wanted. I barely ever go to parties, I like to spend my days at home playing CoD or w/e on my console, go on the internet and spend time on FB doing small chat or spending my time here in SWF and what not.

I guess what I'm trying to say with this long post is whether or not I really should be doing anything with my life, even though I'm happy with the way I live it and I really don't plan on actually doing anything until I reach college and I start meeting people who I will actually see regularly, unlike the people I know now who I'll most likely never see again after high school.

Sorry, but I really had to get this off my back, I really need this advice.

 

[Seikend]

You shouldn't feel pressured to be more outgoing.

In terms of what you do in your free time, you don't need to go out and party. Doing what makes you happy is perfectly fine: introversion isn't a negative quality. Society often deems it as such, but what you do in your free time is up to you.

As long as you are outgoing when you need to be (job interviews, at work etc.) then just stick with what you're doing.

 

[Gatlin]

No, you're fine. That guy you met on the bus sounds like a total ***, so at least you don't act like him, right? Going out and being social isn't for everyone, myself included. I would much rather stay at home or hang out with a friend or two, rather than go to a huge gathering with 30 people. It's just how you prefer to live your life. As long as you are happy, nothing else should matter. Your life is not other people's lives, so they should stop worrying about you, and look at what's in front of them.

 

[Steel]

So you were trying to be outgoing in... 2nd grade? I mean I'm not sure how many raging parties there were when I was 7 but I thought you were about to say how you tried to be outgoing in High school.

Being a loner at heart is fine, I am sometimes myself. But you may just be staying in your comfort zone because it's what you know best; you haven't experienced the grass on the other side. You say you're parents raised you into a calm person. Does that mean you're very laid back or does it also mean you're shy in a way? People love hanging out with laid back people, you don't have to be the life of a party to have a great time and get people to like you. I'd recommend trying to put yourself out there and get more of a high school experience, but if you're chill with your current routine then stick with it. I'd highly recommend doing a 180 in college though, you won't get another experience like it (at your own pace, of course).

 

[Fuelbi]

So you were trying to be outgoing in... 2nd grade? I mean I'm not sure how many raging parties there were when I was 7 but I thought you were about to say how you tried to be outgoing in High school.

Being a loner at heart is fine, I am sometimes myself. But you may just be staying in your comfort zone because it's what you know best. You say you're parents raised you into a calm person. Does that mean you're very laid back or does it also mean you're shy in a way? People love hanging out with laid back people, you don't have to be the life of a party to have a great time and get people to like you. I'd recommend trying to put yourself out there and get more of a high school experience, but if you're chill with your current routine then stick with it. I'd highly recommend doing a 180 in college though, you won't get another experience like it (at your own pace, of course).

Birthday parties son :V

And when I said I was raised into being calm, I meant laid back, not shy (trust me, I'm as about as not shy as can be when you see me irl)

 

[Arikags]

Be who you are, enjoy life, and share the love with other people. Life doesn't have to have standards, nor a point. Just live until you die.

 

[MK26]

naw

youre cool bro

one thing you should change tho is your font colour

hard red is impossible to read on smash/classic blue

try #ff0009

/srs

 

[MTKO]

You shouldn't force yourself to be a different type of person, if you're uncomfortable with it. One of my grandparents always says it would be better if I was an extrovert instead of an introvert. He tries to joke about it, but it's more or less like he's making fun of me in order for me to somehow get upset and take pride in trying to be extroverted. It's all nonsense. He's a psychologist and never talks about anything else, but psychology, so I've learned to not give in to his constant nagging. My thoughts are: if you end up wanting to do different things later in life or want to change the way you are because you think you'll be happier that way, then go for it, but if everything is good for you right now, then keep it how it is.