I can give you plenty of verses that say not only why its wrong, but why you can't understand. People like to use the Old Testament as a basis for arguing it, but forget that it's also shown to be wrong in the New Testament as while.
I would invite you to quote relevant verses in support of your stance. It would at least serve the purpose of posterity.
What people seem to miss is that Christians don't hate gay people, on the contrary, we love all and want all to end up in the eternal paradise, not eternal punishment.
What an absurd state of affairs. 8/
A person once asked God why things are set up along an axis of eternal reward/eternal punishment, to which God only shrugged and said, "Don't hate the Player, my child -- hate the Game."
In other words, I've always wondered why Heaven-Hell, reward-punishment, sin-salvation, and not some other state of affairs. We have no say in the game we're playing; we either have to play, or tough it out. But I digress.
The more relevant curiosity is why homosexuality is even considered deplorable in the first place, metaphysically-speaking. Does God shudder and/or shake his proverbial fist whenever someone puts their mouth/hands/genitals/etc. where he doesn't like them to go? Or even when two same-sex individuals express love for one another, and all that this love entails?
Is it because it's a violation of the Natural Order? Well, a great many species engage in sexed reproduction. If God desires the proliferation of species, then it's no surprise God would want to encourage heterosex.
But it's not like homosexuality risks causing extinction or any population crisis. Only a minority portion of the human population is non-heterosexual. So if extinction prevention is not the reason God encourages procreation, why else? Does God have a surplus of souls he needs to have incarnated? Does the birth of every child fill God with gleeful gratification? Does God want to bolster our numbers so we stand a chance when the Rovers of the Hyades descend upon the Earth to ravage all?
Seems so utterly arbitrary, to get upset over who does what with whom consensually -- for humans, let alone for That Which Created All Things. I guess one could be upset if one is playing this MMO we call The Salvation Project -- Christians are dismayed that homosexuals are not playing the game a certain way, thus minimizing the total end score -- but it's not like one
needs to play a game a certain way (for video games as it is for In Real Life).
Also, I don't buy that homosexuality is a choice***, any more than bisexuality or transexuality or asexuality is a choice. Because why would anyone choose to go down those paths if they could help it? Either a bunch of people are jumping on the rainbow lifestyle bandwagon jUsT tO SiN, or it was never a choice to begin with.
***Also, homosexuality (in the form of pair-bonding, same-sex mating, child-rearing, and sexual assault) has been observed in a frankly astonishing number of species, from mammals to birds to reptiles and more. I doubt they chose to do engage in such practices, since I doubt generally that they choose to do anything.
Technically, churches are both public and private, and the pastor retains the right to refuse marriage to a heterosexual couple too, and I've seen it happen. They act as if it is some sort of hate crime to say no.
You know what is a hate crime? Suing for $135,000 because two bakers said they wouldn't bake your wedding cake, like a lesbian couple did in Oregon, then having the government silence you and say you can't say why you refused in public. That's hate.
Dunno about how the particulars of American law, but I would think there are clauses disallowing undue discrimination against a given class or category of people.
People often equate same-sex and interracial marriage, and not without reason. One cannot help having been born with a certain skin colour, much as one can't help having the sex/gender/class/eye colour/etc. they were born with. Can one be held morally accountable for skin colour? People eventually realized that you can't really, and so interracial marriage was allowed (so I would assume for America, anyway).
So too for homosexuality***. You mentioned earlier that it's a choice. So tomorrow, I could just
decide to start being attracted to other guys. Seems like that could be both fun and useful. I would basically double the candidate pool of potential romantic/sexual partners overnight!
Attraction doesn't work that way, though. Like skin colour and height and other things, attraction is not something you can help. Further, it cannot affect anyone in any negative way. Neither the partners involved (assuming it's consensual all around), nor the populace at large -- unless there are people who would lament every single union that doesn't end up leading to procreation and proliferation.
Point being that there doesn't seem to be a good rationale for not serving same-sex couples, beyond religious ones. I expect people were upset in that scenario you mention because they are a business offering public goods and services to the public (and so is in the State's domain), and there
should be a separation of Church and State as per the US Constitution, yet that business is denying service to a segment of the populace on religious grounds. I don't know the particulars of that case (certainly not enough to know whether suing the business was warranted), but I can see why people got upset.
It also doesn't make sense from a business perspective -- you are willingly capping your maximal revenue by shutting out a segment of your consumer base -- but that's beside the point.
Lastly, I doubt that whole shebang could qualify as a hate
crime. Again, dunno how it's framed in American law, but I would think hate crimes are defined as undue discrimination against any given group -- be they potential or actual threats of violence and abuse, preferential treatment towards other groups at their expense on the sole basis of group trait X, unjustified vandalizing/defamation/ etc. Government censorship is not palatable, I agree, but in this case, there may be (and I would venture, are) legal precedents in play that forced the government's hand. That's not so much
hate as it is following established legal conduct.
***You might say there is a difference, in that unlike race, orientation is not just about innate traits, but actions people take -- and it is action that has moral value. So, being gay may not be at issue, but acting upon one's gayitude is the question of moral scrutiny. So is engaging in homosexual love and/or acts morally impermissible? As I noted before, one wonders why that would be, since it at the very least benefits no one except the parties directly involved, and certainly does no real or lasting harm to anyone.
Need I remind some people that some religions around the world kill homosexuals? I'd be pretty content if refusal of marriage was the only thing they did as opposed to murdering me, wouldn't you?
This is framed like a
Lesser of Two Evils dichotomy.
We can all agree that wanton killings are not desirable. But does this mean that, in face of that disagreement, we
must accept the alternative (in this case, refusal to perform same-sex marriage within religious institutions)?
There is, also, a third alternative -- namely, actually allowing same-sex marriage across the board. Why accept either of those two former options when this third one is available as well?
Note that my contention here is more with the framing of the argument. My actual stance, which I think I might have outlined earlier in this thread, is that it doesn't matter how churches and other religious institutions choose to conduct marriage (since, again, the State ought be and is separate from the Church). It's the civil and social aspect of marriage, and all of its entailed privileges and statutes, that are essential, and the government shouldn't deny this privilege to a segment of the population on the pure basis of who loves who (and who does what consensually with who).
Which is why I'm pleased the US has legalized same-sex marriage at the federal level. Here in Canada, it's been that way since the mid-2000s, and things have been unfolding swimmingly on the social and cultural front in the time since, so far as I can see.