Dating

[MidnightAsaph]

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Dating in high school gets you prepared for real dating, something I realized at one point. Beforehand I thought it was kind of stupid. "Not like you're going to marry the **** person," I always thought. Most of my life, I've just flirted with girls, you know, the ones that are hot... Yeah, aren't I so shallow? Anyway, until recently, I had believed more or less that it was going to be a while before I found someone I truly thought I could date. I'm kind of picky, and honestly, I'm an outcast. You might as well call me House junior (looks at avatar). I'm not exactly an ***, I just prefer to be alone. Any girl that has ever been interested in me, I keep at a certain distance (and no, I'm not gay or confused, lol).

Anyway, I thought that at one point, I'd meet someone I absolutely couldn't let go. Hah. It's kind of a cool feeling, believing that one day I'll find someone I can't let go. Then I realized something, as some friends of mine acquired girlfriends.

Hell no.

Of my six or so closest friends, about three have girlfriends. And they're actually, kinda relatively new, like, last year, senior year.

A:"Hey, dude, you want to come over, play some Brawl. There's a tourney coming up."

"No, man, my girlfriend needs me for something." or,
"****, dude, I want to, but I gotta hang with my girlfriend."

A:"Dude, you wanna play now?"

"In a second, I have to talk to so and so. Be right back." (conversation lasts an hour)


Personally, I don't care much for their girlfriends. I knew all of them before they hooked up with my friends, and I respect them, but honest to God, if I had to deal with someone nag constantly everyday I'd rather be a naked mole rat.

So, is it just that I don't particularly like these girls, and it's reflecting in what I believe I may end up with, or am I just a huge *** that needs to pop some drugs in every five minutes and walk with a cane detailed with flames (House reference, for all the sad, unknowledgable people)?

Or maybe, and I like this one best, I'm just not the type of person to get too involved and just prefer to have a relaxed, comfortable relationship with a girl as down to Earth as I am? Cause at this point, I might just become a bachelor who lives in his empty mansion cursing the world through his obnoxiously large windows in his obnoxiously large living room.


In other news, I saw a cute, baby bunny trying to jump up a six foot high wall from me while I was mowing the lawn. I instantly thought of KawaiiBunny and lol'd.

If you actually read this, kudos to you.

And for the record, I'm going into college.

 

[Kinzer]

Down to Earth is nice.

 

[Anthony523]

I'm The Same Way, And My Friends Are The Exact Same Way as Your Friends...

Like School Is Starting In Less Than A Month And My Whole Summer Has Gone To Waste.
We Didn't Do Anything Fun Or Exciting...

Everyone Is With Their Girlfriends 24/7

 

[Delta-cod]

Personally, I don't care much for their girlfriends. I knew all of them before they hooked up with my friends, and I respect them, but honest to God, if I had to deal with someone nag constantly everyday I'd rather be a naked mole rat.

What is that? That freaky thing?

I'd just like to point out that maybe you haven't met anybody you cared to date. You could just be waiting for someone you know that won't nag you into a naked mole rat, instead of just jumping into a relationship. I doubt you're going to be a pill popper, lol. You're probably just waiting. I know I am. XD

 

[Moblin]

I saw don't worry about it. Just make sure you know the girl well enough so that you can legitimately tell whether she's a ***** or not. If you do that much, you'll find the one that's awesome to you through trial and error.

It wouldn't hurt to have a little more faith in the female gender, either. but meh, I guess it's not necessary.

 

[Hive Mind]

"In a second, I have to talk to so and so. Be right back." (conversation lasts an hour)

I HATE THAT.
Girlfriends suck.
Girls are cool.

 

[Zook]

The idea of being in a relationship terrifies me.

 

[Hive Mind]

The idea of being in a relationship terrifies me.

QFT.

Zook's always right.

 

[MidnightAsaph]

The idea of being in a relationship terrifies me.

You too? haha

I dunno. I'm too picky. My girl would have to be laid back. >_<

 

[Kewkky]

I like girls. What can I say?

I, sadly, am a sucker for "cute", not "hot". My ideal woman would have to be extremely wise and smart, knowledge about artificial things (such as laws, cooking, science...) is not really something I look out for though. She has to be realistic, know what can happen and how to fix it, and not hope for "love" to prevail. And, most of all, she DEFINITELY has to be athletic! I hate not having any athletic friends, sharing that one thing with a girl would make me super happy.

My last relationship was with a cute girl, yes, but everything else she lacked in, and I gave her a chance. After we did what a guy and a girl do, we started fdrifting apart, and I tried to save what we had, but meh, nothing happened, so I just gave up. Last I heard of her, she was back to smoking marijuana (in PR it's practically legal, people smoke it everywhere) and making out with some random guys, partying every night, probably getting drunk. Too bad, she was a real pretty oyster...

Guess I should've payed more attention if that oyster actually contained a pearl.

 

[Delta-cod]

I share the weakness for cute girls. I personally like them a lot better than "hot" girls. I'm quite the romantic and picky to boot, so I have yet to have a girlfriend, lol.

I'm also kind of afraid of utterly screwing up when I find someone I'd like to date, but that's part of learning. Or maybe I'll be a natural at it. =D

. . . Probably not. >_<

 

[Agile_]

Smashers in general need to be confident talking to girls and also remember to NEVER put smash before girls. :D

 

[MidnightAsaph]

>_< I think some of you misunderstand the blog. I don't put smash before everything, that's just an example for the conversations. My problem is that I can't imagine having to talk and be with one person all the time. Additionally, I can't be the romantic and caring boyfriend all the time. I'm just not that guy. And unfortunately, there aren't many girls around here that aren't complete ditzes, so I feel kind of far away from any real people.

 

[cookieM0Nster]

lol. i like cute girls.

not "hot" girls. idk y.


And I HATE IT when girls talk about love and stuff. I mean, I personally think that love in higskool is just dumb. But thats just me. lol

 

[D.B.K.]

If it cheers you up at all the girls at my school are either rednecks, racist, or a sick combination of the two.

Also I prefer cute girls to hot ones.

 

[cookieM0Nster]

If it cheers you up at all the girls at my school are either rednecks, racist, or a sick combination of the two.

Also I prefer cute girls to hot ones.

lol i live in Cali.

So the girls here are either cute, smart, or amn excellent combination of the two

 

[The Immortal Sir NZ]

>_< I think some of you misunderstand the blog. I don't put smash before everything, that's just an example for the conversations. My problem is that I can't imagine having to talk and be with one person all the time. Additionally, I can't be the romantic and caring boyfriend all the time. I'm just not that guy. And unfortunately, there aren't many girls around here that aren't complete ditzes, so I feel kind of far away from any real people.

Are you my clone? that's the way i am, I would love to have a girl, but none of them aren't really complete ditzes anyways. Except for this one chick who's way outta my league, but boo hoo.

 

[Hive Mind]

I love the kind of "Pam from 'The Office'" klnd of girls lolol.

 

[mountain_tiger]

I'm not really around girls all that often (all boys' school FTL), but when I am, I don't tend to do all that well. Whenever I talk to girls, I can never think of anything to say. It always ends up being 'Hi.' and 'How have things been?' I never was a good conversationalist. In fact, I've just been reminded of a rather funny anecdote:

Once I was walking home from school, when I saw my friend with his girlfriend (they've had so many girlfriends I forgot her name lol). I said Hi and stuff, then left. Then in private I turned to my other friend and said, 'She's quite pretty, don't you think?' So then he texted the guy saying that I said that, who then texted it to the girl, and she replied saying 'God, get that freak away from me.'

Some girls overreact to such little things, really. (Oh God, that last statement was so innuendo-ish it's untrue)

 

[Hive Mind]

they've had so many girlfriends

o_O

*facepalm*

 

[:mad:]

Just be thankful that wasn't the real KawaiiBunny trying to hop your fence.

 

[Hive Mind]

Just be thankful that wasn't the real KawaiiBunny trying to hop your fence.

That would be hot... maybe.

I need to get my flame shield.

 

[mountain_tiger]

o_O

*facepalm*

'They' as in all of my friends, not just that specific one.

 

[BOB SAGET!]

Just be thankful that wasn't the real KawaiiBunny trying to hop your fence.

Hello Straked, my question is...Do you respect Howard Sturns pen is?

 

[Hive Mind]

yeah that's what I thought MT
lol

 

[Kewkky]

That would be hot... maybe.

Don't you mean "that would be cute"?

Oh wait, I have *accidentally* mixed up two blogs.

 

[Hive Mind]

Don't you mean "that would be cute"?

Oh wait, I have *accidentally* mixed up two blogs.

Actually, both.

 

[mountain_tiger]

yeah that's what I thought MT
lol

So why the facepalm? I don't get it.

 

[Hive Mind]

So why the facepalm? I don't get it.

Just poking fun at what you said is all.

 

[mzink*]

Smashers in general need to be confident talking to girls and also remember to NEVER put smash before girls. :D

Hell hath no fury like a woman put second to video games.

It'll be easier to find what you are looking for in a woman once you get out of high school. And once you are in a relationship, she'll be likely to respect what is important to you as long as you do the same for her, (ie) she'll have respect for your time with your buddies and not be naggy for all your attention.

 

[JustNoOne]

Girlfriends and dating?

I can never understand girl as well, having girls in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is just something I feel I can't do since well... Like you, I'm not that type of guy to do that. But what I believe is that if you do love someone very dearly, you can live your life together very closely.

But what is my opinion worth? I've seen people in my school become boyfriend and girlfriend and them breaking up. Maybe right now in high school it's hard to see people be together and getting married because you have the same girls going to the same school, so maybe that's why sometimes people cnt' see them marrying the girl they love and staying them with till marriage.

Love is messed right now in high school, that's all I know.

 

[Pakman]

In my experience college girls are infinitely different then high school girls. So there is a good chance that you will have more success finding an adequate girl in college then in High School.

As far as finding the right girl goes, I guess I can share my relationship story and advice.

Towards the end of college, I went out with a girl who I felt was a lot hotter then the girls I should be picking up. At first I was stoked to be with a really attractive girl, but shortly after we started going out, I realized we both had conflicting uncompromisable criteria for the relationship to go all the way. I kept telling myself she will change or I will learn to accept these things, and we ended up dating for 3 years, but there was always this ominous sense of future incompatibility. And that ominous feeling ended up ruining us. Although I learned a lot from the relationship, it was doomed from the start.

My point is don't compromise your personal criteria for a relationship ever and you ALWAYS have to ask something from the other person. College is full of cute intelligent girls. Many girls in high school are there because they have to be. Most girls in college (especially juniors and seniors) are there because they want to be. And when you find the girl you are looking for, making the decision between girl and smash will be a no brainer.

 

[mzink*]

Girlfriends and dating?

I can never understand girl as well, having girls in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is just something I feel I can't do since well... Like you, I'm not that type of guy to do that. But what I believe is that if you do love someone very dearly, you can live your life together very closely.

This is true, my husband and I didn't really formally date. To everyone else we were just friends hangin out, not really a complicated relationship. Our bond just kinda grew and grew and one day he just asked me to marry him. I thought about it for a few days and realized I'd be very happy being married to him. Nearly 3 years later and we get closer every day.

 

[gm jack]

Stop caring about it, and let it happen. Be yourself, and (unless you really are) don't try and be some Casanova. Unless you have a serious gift at talking to people and asking them out with a half decent success rate, pushing the matter does not work.

You can find love in the weirdest places if you don't look for it, but let it come. I "met" my current gf at this new years, blind drunk and got off with her. In the morning, thought she wasn't bad at all and we exchanged numbers. Working out pretty well so far.

 

[TwentyTwo]

It sounds to me that you're just looking for someone you're familiar with. When you jump into relationships, you find a lot of unexpected things, that usually can't be changed and lead to breaking up. My current girlfriend we've been technically dating for only two months, but I've known this girl for 3 years, and the story of us getting together is an interesting one, and I might even write a user blog about it, but that's not the point. The point is she's supportive of my competitive smash hobby, she's smart, and she's also pretty. Actually quite honestly, I think she's out of my league and I'm a lucky guy.

To summarize, not all girls are crazy, you'll find one that you're comfortable with, and whether it's you picking to smash and her not having a problem with it, or you passing up smashing with your friends to be with her, things will make a lot more sense when you find someone you care about and are comfortable with already.

 

[DarkLouis331]

I feel the same way. I don't think I'm quite ready to be in a relationship yet, even though there's a girl I like right now. I'm confident that I can approach any girl I want, but there's alot of crap I still haven't experienced yet and I don't need another person telling me what to do. I've been on the short end of the stick (pretty much as short as it gets) in high school relationships and I've always kept my distance. I even rejected this girl who claimed to "love" me...she "loved" me for over a year too. She was alright, but I was temporarily asexual during my senior year of high school and I didn't want any girls to f*** that up. haha.

 

[Alessandra]

Just wait it out, you'll find her. Laid back girls who don't expect you to be a hopeless romantic at all times, and even girls who'll play smash with you and not nag if you decide to hang with friends instead do exist.

They are just rare to come by.

 

[Ishiey]

Or maybe, and I like this one best, I'm just not the type of person to get too involved and just prefer to have a relaxed, comfortable relationship with a girl as down to Earth as I am?

This one. I may be a year below you, but trust me, just wait for someone who's chill. Don't change your standards for someone else, with a little bit of luck you will find a girl that wants the same things as you.

That being said, you might have to wait a while. A long while. And girls that require such high maintenance like the ones your friends have aren't worth it, personally. Really, didn't it ever occur to them that we have our own lives, and that they have their own lives as well? >_>

Save yourself the trouble until you know you really care, but if you just want practice (of any sort...) you can always try stuff out for a little bit.