Best Friends

[Merkuri]

It's a new year so I thought I'd try this thread again.

I was just wondering what was everyone thought about Best Friends? What separates them from other friends? What makes a good best friend? What does it take ruin these friendships, and what does it to take to keep these friendships strong? I've been thinking about it lately and I was just wondering what other people felt about it.

Tell me your thoughts and feel free to discuss it.

 

[Crimson King]

Best friends is an antiquated term to me. I have a circle of close friends who I do everything with (they were at our wedding in NYC). I trust and care about these people deeply. Then, there are people at work or in general who I am acquainted with, and it ends there.

As you go through life, you kind of find out first hand who really is your friend.

 

[Lythium]

I pretty much agree with what CK said.

I didn't think people used the term "best friend" beyond middle school.

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

I don't believe I have a "best friend".

I have close ones that are the only humans to ever understand my humour, but I wouldn't consider them best friends.

 

[Merkuri]

I pretty much agree with what CK said.

I didn't think people used the term "best friend" beyond middle school.

A few months ago I would have blatantly disagreed, but I think you may be right. I have a handful of friends who I'm extremely close with but I couldn't really specify any of them as single my best friend, and I haven't had as much time for them due to other obligations. And I thought I had this figured out :/

 

[Pluvia]

Well I can confidently say that I have a best friend. I have tons of incredibly close friends but I have 2 people who are what I'd consider brothers.

One of them doesn't count as being a best friend as he's my cousin, but the other has been my friend since early childhood and I'm turning 20. He's completely surpassed the friend point and is just a brother.

 

[Merkuri]

^^ Aww that's really sweet.

Everyone please feel free to use this thread to talk about anything that comes to mind about best friends or even close friendships.

 

[Claire Diviner]

Best friends is an antiquated term to me. I have a circle of close friends who I do everything with (they were at our wedding in NYC). I trust and care about these people deeply. Then, there are people at work or in general who I am acquainted with, and it ends there.

As you go through life, you kind of find out first hand who really is your friend.

^Basically this.

When it comes to "friends" by the strictest definition of the word, I only have a small handful. Everyone else are mere associates. A "friend" is someone you trust who also trusts you. You can be on the streets, and that friend will take you into his/her home for as long as you need to. Things like that - friends doing things they don't have to do, but they do it without you asking, because they simply want to out of the friendship they have with you in their hearts. Those are friends. As you can imagine, people like that tend to be few and far between, but one usually makes at least 5 friends of such calibur in a lifetime. I think I'm being verbose, so I'll end it here.

 

[MASAHIROx]

my best friend calls me at 4 am like 3 times a week just to talk.

 

[Gatlin]

I consider trust to be a main determining factor of what separates a friend from a good or best friend. If I can't trust my friend, whether it be with valuables, secrets, or anything of the sort, then I can't fully consider them to be a good friend.

Another thing is looking out for each other. An example would be drinking with some friends, and those friends making sure you don't get hurt or in trouble while drunk. Sure it would probably be funnier to watch someone get into a humorous situation while drunk, but it would be the right thing to steer them clear of it happening.

Also, good friendships should last for a lifetime. No matter if you are separated or get into a fight. I had a good friend who moved to a new city and I hadn't seen him in 3 years. When he moved back, it was like he never left.