Beating Yourself Up

[StealthyGunnar]

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what do u guys think about this topic?

say ur in a sport, and u know u could have performed better, but for some odd reason u didnt. would u consider it unwise, immature, maybe even irrational for being disappointed in yourself or possibly beating yourself up over performances that do not meet ur standards?

i cant help but wonder this all the time, as i play a video game called League of Legends. it is a team-based game and performance is key. i have many games where i thought i could have performed better, but i just did not for some reason... maybe i was under the weather. maybe it just wasnt "my day."

i know that we should strive to become better at the things we love to do. like soccer. if u like soccer, wont u try to train and become better at it? but is it necessarily right to "beat yourself up" over mistakes that u have made in order to improve? (we obviously know that realizing our mistakes helps us improve.) but is "beating ourselves up" necessary?

im guessing it comes to a point of how determined u r to get better, how much more u would like to get better, etc.

post ur thoughts.

 

[Alien Vision]

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what do u guys think about this topic?

say ur in a sport, and u know u could have performed better, but for some odd reason u didnt. would u consider it unwise, immature, maybe even irrational for being disappointed in yourself or possibly beating yourself up over performances that do not meet ur standards?

i cant help but wonder this all the time, as i play a video game called League of Legends. it is a team-based game and performance is key. i have many games where i thought i could have performed better, but i just did not for some reason... maybe i was under the weather. maybe it just wasnt "my day."

i know that we should strive to become better at the things we love to do. like soccer. if u like soccer, wont u try to train and become better at it? but is it necessarily right to "beat yourself up" over mistakes that u have made in order to improve? (we obviously know that realizing our mistakes helps us improve.) but is "beating ourselves up" necessary?

im guessing it comes to a point of how determined u r to get better, how much more u would like to get better, etc.

post ur thoughts.

This one is easy. Since it's one of the basic instincts humans generate every single moment in there life. (Most prominent in our adolescant years). Basically, humans have an inferiority complex. So indeed we all want to achieve something, to define us as something significant in life. I can see how people would feel inferior while watching other people achieve what they want to achieve. It's a basic instinct for survival. To become the best, or atleast to make it to a superior level you are proud of yourself with. ^^

 

[frotaz37]

Basically, humans have an inferiority complex.

Proof?

So indeed we all want to achieve something, to define us as something significant in life.

How do you know? Do you speak for everyone?

It's a basic instinct for survival. To become the best, or atleast to make it to a superior level you are proud of yourself with. ^^

Are you an expert on the basic instincts of humans?

 

[Alien Vision]

Proof?



How do you know? Do you speak for everyone?



Are you an expert on the basic instincts of humans?

1. It's a human pattern you can see in EVERYONE. People start doing weird psychological **** when they are told they are nothing, or were raised in a particular background throughout their lives. (For an example: A girl who draws art is told by their teacher that their art is a waste of time. The girl grows up attacking other people who draw art, while still believing their art is sub-par, even though she was once an artist herself.)

2. Everyone has instincts, rather they like it or not. Even animals prove themselves.


3. Humans have patterns. It's ****ing obvious. I find it weird, how psychologists are able to pinpoint the basic foundation of a specific individual as if they grew up with them. ^^

 

[StealthyGunnar]

another question:

can we attain the same improvements by not beating ourselves up or feeling sorry for ourselves than if we constantly have high expectations and beat ourselves over any mistake?

 

[frotaz37]

1. It's a human pattern you can see in EVERYONE. People start doing weird psychological **** when they are told they are nothing, or were raised in a particular background throughout their lives. (For an example: A girl who draws art is told by their teacher that their art is a waste of time. The girl grows up attacking other people who draw art, while still believing their art is sub-par, even though she was once an artist herself.)

You can't possibly know everyone. You've probably met what...0.0001% of the population or something? So when you say it can be seen in EVERYONE, why do you think this?

3. Humans have patterns. It's ****ing obvious.

This is not an answer to my question about whether or not you're an expert on basic human instincts.

I find it weird, how psychologists are able to pinpoint the basic foundation of a specific individual as if they grew up with them. ^^

So you're basically saying that if some people fit inside the box, then everyone fits inside the box. Psychology is all about blatant stereotyping and generalization, and it's done with awful accuracy, especially in the professional world.

Psychology is the biggest bull**** science of them all. I find it so funny how religiously people swear by it, so much in fact that they claim to know intricate details about the entire population of the planet and the inner workings of the true nature of humans.

can we attain the same improvements by not beating ourselves up or feeling sorry for ourselves than if we constantly have high expectations and beat ourselves over any mistake?

It depends on what fuels you. Some people thrive on beating themselves up and it makes them perform better. The key is finding what works for you...cause again, what may be true for some may not be true for others.

 

[StealthyGunnar]

what do psychologists say about people "beating themselves up"?

any observations about the differences of improvements and/or motivation to make such improvements between light(er) "beatings" than higher expectations and hard(er), constant "beatings"?

 

[Alien Vision]

You can't possibly know everyone. You've probably met what...0.0001% of the population or something? So when you say it can be seen in EVERYONE, why do you think this?



This is not an answer to my question about whether or not you're an expert on basic human instincts.



So you're basically saying that if some people fit inside the box, then everyone fits inside the box. Psychology is all about blatant stereotyping and generalization, and it's done with awful accuracy, especially in the professional world.

Psychology is the biggest bull**** science of them all. I find it so funny how religiously people swear by it, so much in fact that they claim to know intricate details about the entire population of the planet and the inner workings of the true nature of humans.



It depends on what fuels you. Some people thrive on beating themselves up and it makes them perform better. The key is finding what works for you...cause again, what may be true for some may not be true for others.

I find it amusing how you try to defeat my perspectives with hypocrasy.

@ CA5H - I believe that people beat themselves up because it's instinct to stay clear from inferiority. This is why we have a thing called an ego. It's our drive to make us do things to better ourselves. Even though alot of people don't seem to understand how to use their ego properly, (Like how they belittle those around them) our ego stills seems to get them to where they want to be regardless.

Example: A man will not climb a mountain, or make a daring jump unless people were watching.. >:D So when we fail at something, we get angry because we feel like we could've done better. Yet, it didn't work in our favor so we were unable to prove ourselves when we know that we could. When we KNOW we could've done it.

I can see how that would make somebody angry. It's like when people try to show their friends a trick that they did when nobody was looking. They keep messing up, and they get angry. I have done this before. I know how it feels, and I have studied it. This is my idea :3 Atleast take it into consideration. Froto fails at understanding the unknown.

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

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what do u guys think about this topic?

say ur in a sport, and u know u could have performed better, but for some odd reason u didnt. would u consider it unwise, immature, maybe even irrational for being disappointed in yourself or possibly beating yourself up over performances that do not meet ur standards?

i cant help but wonder this all the time, as i play a video game called League of Legends. it is a team-based game and performance is key. i have many games where i thought i could have performed better, but i just did not for some reason... maybe i was under the weather. maybe it just wasnt "my day."

i know that we should strive to become better at the things we love to do. like soccer. if u like soccer, wont u try to train and become better at it? but is it necessarily right to "beat yourself up" over mistakes that u have made in order to improve? (we obviously know that realizing our mistakes helps us improve.) but is "beating ourselves up" necessary?

im guessing it comes to a point of how determined u r to get better, how much more u would like to get better, etc.

post ur thoughts.

Okay, if you didn't bloody type "u" instead of "you", "ur" instead of "your" and "u r" instead of "you are", then I might have responded.

 

[Sephiroths Masamune]

No you wouldn't have.

 

[StealthyGunnar]

Okay, if you didn't bloody type "u" instead of "you", "ur" instead of "your" and "u r" instead of "you are", then I might have responded.

1. U just responded.

2. This is the user blogs - not grammar nazi central.

3. Please go troll safehaven or something.

 

[§witch]

1. U just responded.

2. This is the user blogs - not grammar nazi central.

3. Please go troll safehaven or something.

He's irritated by it. He has every right to tell you about it. Just as you have every right to continue doing it.

He's not trolling. He's just a ****.

 

[Teran]

The obvious joke to be made is...



Why u mad tho?

 

[#HBC | Laundry]

another question:

can we attain the same improvements by not beating ourselves up or feeling sorry for ourselves than if we constantly have high expectations and beat ourselves over any mistake?

Wouldn't the better argument be: "Is beating yourself up (read: different from being merely disappointed in yourself) causing actual improvement?"

 

[Omnicron's Baklava Enterprises]

1. U just responded.

2. This is the user blogs - not grammar nazi central.

3. Please go troll safehaven or something.

Because I read "u" as "oo" and "ur" as "urrr", it makes you sound ********.

Just because I notify you of something that irks me it doesn't mean I'm trolling.

Damn people don't even know what trolling is any more.

 

[StealthyGunnar]

Because I read "u" as "oo" and "ur" as "urrr", it makes you sound ********.

Just because I notify you of something that irks me it doesn't mean I'm trolling.

Damn people don't even know what trolling is any more.

"In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory[citation needed], extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion."

I ain't mad. And i dont know for sure if improvement is even attained by beating of one's self.