A Teenager-Family Issue Thingy

[urdailywater]

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Ok, I'm on vacation (sort of) for a week to kind of get away from my home and hang out around Jacksonville (with my future brother in law). That could be coming to an end soon due to one little problem though.. that is that my mom has just found out that I'm not exactly a "Christian".

Now her definition of what Christianity can do for you is this: if you are one, you go to heaven, if not, you go to hell. And that's that.

My whole family is pretty religious and especially my sister (who is evangalistic) but my mom is gonna be my main problem (maybe my stepdad too). She thinks that I could die at any time (which is true), but until the day that I lie to her and say that I'm officially Christian there is NO way she will be at rest. I'm a guy of morals when it comes to honesty and I can not really lie to her about that. And I'd be lying to myself too, which is just worse. I don't want to say I'm something I don't want to be. It doesn't feel right.
I've ran into about 4 phone calls with her since I had to originally call her (I was just calling to see if I could borrow some money for a movie). She hasn't stopped since. My guess is that she's on her way here to completely ruin this get-a-way, but whatever.

She's going to continuously hassle me though and I believe she will even if I do say that I'm a Christian/lie/whatever. I'm not sure what to do -- but it's tearing me up. I'm afraid if she'll just reject me after a while.. but there's not much I can really do about it ...

I'll like, edit this if I do end up going home / nothing happens.. but gotta jet since I shouldn't be hogging this one man computer from the whole hotel....

My edit didn't go in =/
Anyways.. for the most part I guess things are a little chill between us.. I talked to her a little more and she's calm now so it's not as much as a bother. The conversation was kind of awkward though, still...

 

[Teran]

Just get on your knees and praise the Lord until you leave the house.
Basically, when you're dependent on your parents, be perfect.

When you've left home, be yourself. It makes life sooo much easier this way.
Unless you're implying that you're bi/gay as well. Then you should be a little more inventive in your methods of finding companionship at this age, like never bringing one of them home.

 

[Amide]

So, if you tell her your a Christian, she won't believe you. And she'll continue to bug you. If you tell her the truth, she's going to give you the hell that doesn't actually exist. This may be hard, but you really have to tell your mom that you won't talk or meet with her unless she stops bugging you. If that doesn't work, block her phone number.

 

[REL38]

A christian is easily defined thusly: Someone who believes and has accepted Jesus Christ into their hearts.

That's really it.

The other characteristics of a christian; like attending church, being good to others, praying, reading the Bible, serving in ministry. These things derive from the definition of a christian, but do not make a person a christian. Someone can do good things all of their life, but if they do not accept Jesus Christ as their savior, then they are not a christian and are apparently done for.

If your mother considers herself a christian and wants you to be one too, then she is going about it all wrong. That is ultimately your decision to make. Your mother can't decide for you nor can she make you become one. That would be acknowlegding a truth that you don't find true. It's like forcing someone into a marriage. If their hearts not in it, then it's doomed to fail down the road.

Follow what you want. That's your decision. Not someone else's

 

[RyuReiatsu]

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Ok, I'm on vacation (sort of) for a week to kind of get away from my home and hang out around Jacksonville (with my future brother in law). That could be coming to an end soon due to one little problem though.. that is that my mom has just found out that I'm not exactly a "Christian".

Now her definition of what Christianity can do for you is this: if you are one, you go to heaven, if not, you go to hell. And that's that.

My whole family is pretty religious and especially my sister (who is evangalistic) but my mom is gonna be my main problem (maybe my stepdad too). She thinks that I could die at any time (which is true), but until the day that I lie to her and say that I'm officially Christian there is NO way she will be at rest. I'm a guy of morals when it comes to honesty and I can not really lie to her about that. And I'd be lying to myself too, which is just worse. I don't want to say I'm something I don't want to be. It doesn't feel right.
I've ran into about 4 phone calls with her since I had to originally call her (I was just calling to see if I could borrow some money for a movie). She hasn't stopped since. My guess is that she's on her way here to completely ruin this get-a-way, but whatever.

She's going to continuously hassle me though and I believe she will even if I do say that I'm a Christian/lie/whatever. I'm not sure what to do -- but it's tearing me up. I'm afraid if she'll just reject me after a while.. but there's not much I can really do about it ...

I'll like, edit this if I do end up going home / nothing happens.. but gotta jet since I shouldn't be hogging this one man computer from the whole hotel....

My edit didn't go in =/
Anyways.. for the most part I guess things are a little chill between us.. I talked to her a little more and she's calm now so it's not as much as a bother. The conversation was kind of awkward though, still...

Just a question. Why'd you borrow money from her if you're in a 'little getaway' ?
That's a really bad move to do. I'd rather borrow money from a friend and give it back a week later or something.

Don't you have a job? 'Cause a 'little getaway' dependent on mom's wallet isn't the best thing on earth. (I personally could not find one, despite the fact that I applied at like 11 places. So I could understand if you don't have one. Not trying to jump or you or anything. )

 

[Clownbot]

I'm a Catholic, but if you don't believe in God (or simply just aren't a Christian BY YOUR PARENTS' STANDARDS [whether or not they're standards are correct]), then they should just let you be. I don't wanna sound too hardcore Catholic or whatever, but them trying to get you to believe in God isn't a terrible thing. If everyone has already established that you're not interested, though, they should just leave you alone about it.

That's just my two cents.

 

[urdailywater]

Just a question. Why'd you borrow money from her if you're in a 'little getaway' ?
That's a really bad move to do. I'd rather borrow money from a friend and give it back a week later or something.

Don't you have a job? 'Cause a 'little getaway' dependent on mom's wallet isn't the best thing on earth. (I personally could not find one, despite the fact that I applied at like 11 places. So I could understand if you don't have one. Not trying to jump or you or anything. )

Well, I do kind of own the money in the account (I was trying to use money from our credit card account) -- I own some of the money in the account, but I still try and let her know before I spend something (since I don't do it often to begin with..) so she knows whats happening...

I also would get a job, but I'm apparently not supposed to be applying for one or something. Idk. It's really weird trying to explain when I don't even know about it.. but it's about some money that gets sent to us.


Also, she told my stepdad and that's a real heartbreaker. He was talking to me today and thought it was his fault for my beliefs - like us not going to church or whatever. I seriously don't think I could talk to him again without shedding a tear =/ I'm trying to tell him that's it's nothing to do with him -- and it doesn't. I don't want to see him down like this though considering what he does for my family. =/ I'll try and talk to him whenever though..