Overprotective Parents? (LET THIS DIE OR GET LOCKED)

[zeldspazz]

LET THIS DIE!!

My brother thought it would funny to make me sound like a spoiled brat on the internet....
I'm gonna have to start locking my door in my room

Can a mod lock this please, I have to go beat up my brother now

 

[Big-Cat]

I think they are being overprotective. Try convcing them otherwise by saying that if they have raised you well enough, they should give you more liberties like having a cell phone (this is becoming more of a necessity anyway) or play COD5.

 

[Scott!]

Well, I think here, both sides are partly in the right. As much as I'm sure you hate hearing this, you are still pretty young. You are still their responsibility, and it sounds like they take that seriously, and care about protecting you. The PG-13 movie restriction is a bit much, but they, for whatever reason, don't think you're ready. It sounds like they need to loosen up a bit. Have you tried talking to them? Like, seriously sitting down and asking them to lighten up a bit? I had a friend whose parents were like that. He got tired of it all, but he was afraid to confront them. Instead, he wrote them a letter, explaining how he felt restricted, and needed them to let him live a bit. And they listened, and they did back off, a lot. Of course, he ended up getting in with the wrong crowd, and was an alcoholic by the time we graduated. No clue how he's doing now, actually. So, it's a tricky situation. You clearly need more breathing room than what they're giving, but at the same time, are you ready for it? I don't know you, so I can't answer that. But be careful. The best thing to do is to talk to them, and show that you're ready. And yes, you did say that you get good grades and all that, but that doesn't seem to show them enough.

As for the specific issue of video games, first off, I do have to give kudos to the parents for actually paying attention to game ratings, or at least to what their kids play. That's a bit unusual in the world today. Good for them for caring. I know that's not what you want to hear, but these games are rated M for a reason. And I know you play them anyway, and don't see the problem. But someday, you'll probably be able to look back and understand why. I was a teenage gamer who didn't think much of violence in games, but now I do think it's good to have ratings and such. No matter what they think, kids and teens are often not as ready as they think. I'm not saying you're not ready, but you might not be as unaffected by it as you think.

Dunno if that was helpful or anything, but there it is.

EDIT: For over-protective parents, I'm surprised by the cell phone thing. You'd think they'd want you to have something that could act as an emergency aid.

 

[zeldspazz]

To Kumo: I'll try (again)...but my parents are beyond stubborn when it comes to this stuff.

To Scott: I absolutely see where you're coming from, and and yes, it's not what I wanted to hear, but all feedback is excellent. I guess I should make it clear that I have talked with them numerous times, backing off a bit each time but then always going back to there original position on things. I whole heartedly understand that they care for my safety and they are excellent parents, don't misunderstand me, but as you said I need some breathing room. I feel like sometimes they need to hold my hand down the driveway.

Edit: Well, I'll be sure to never in my life let my parents read this thread

http://www.smashboards.com/showthread.php?t=216047

I can assure everyone this will NEVER happen in my house

 

[Sizzle]

I grew up with the same exact style of parents. I agree talking with them and letting them know your frustrations is the key to showing your maturity. Although if they were anything like mine (very rooted in their beliefs) then the only thing you can do is just continue to do the things you normally do. I just had to play the other games at a friends house, or watch the other movie elsewhere. I didn't get a cell phone until I was 17 either, because it wasn't a total necessity until I could drive.

I used to think the same way as you. Everything was unfair, my parents were lame, all my friends poked fun, etc. But I dealt with it and realize now they were being good parents. Sooner than later you will realize that your friends are just at an immature stage right now and you are more mature than them, if they tease you for not having things. Keep showing your maturity and your parents will start to open up small priveleges at a time. Not having a cell phone probably won't kill you. Sure it might not be what you want, but you also need to realize the cost of such things and the current economic times might not allow your parents to afford extra commodities like that. Just be happy that your parents care for you and love you, something that all kids need but many never receive.

 

[notftomearth7]

Honestly, follow these steps:

1. Quit complaining! Your parents will treat you like a baby more if you complain to them!
2. Act more mature and you should be able to do whatever by 16.

 

[Mith_]

I know how you feel. My mother was restrictive of me doing certain things, like getting a cell phone when I was 13(I didn't a cell phone until I was a senior in high school, and it was a crappy pre-paid that i never had airtime for on top of that but thats because she couldn't pay the bill every month) and doing other things. I could get rated M games though but not watch rated R movies :laugh. I dunno, its ******** how they let you do somethings but not others that you really wanna do.

Now that I look back on it I didn't need a cell phone when I was 13 and I don't know your situation but I don't really think kids need cell phones until they hit high school, maybe even not until sophomore year depending on your activities.

I really do think you should talk to them about it though. Sometimes you have to make them listen to you and think about what you are saying and respond reasonably instead of them just saying nonono.

If push comes to shove, Mindgames.

Kid: Mom can I not have CoD5 please.
Parent: No.
Kid: Mindgames, son.
Parent: Doh.

 

[slave1]

1. you dont need a cell phone. your only 12 turning 13. who are you going to call. from personal experience, cell phones kick you in the nuts when it comes to grades. especially when you get addicted to them.

2. i just played CoD 5 Last night for the first time. yippty flippen doo. it was fun but nothing to get angry over. if you want to play it. play it at a friends.

3. honestly i hate seeing little kids (sorry your still in that category wait a few years) playing games like these. go have fun out side or something.

4. the movie thing is ridiculous. but PG-13 movies have steadily become worse and worse. but if your parents are not letting you watch lord of the rings. that calls for a sad face fantastic show.

honestly it sucks being young but it will get better.

but have fun with what you have. keep on your parents good side. for all thats good on this earth, it will make your life easy easy easy easy easy if you do that. I promise you that.

 

[Grunt]

who are you going to call.

 

[Nintendevil]

lolcellphones. The mall is boring as **** anyways though unless you like spending money on....... stuff.

Your parents have problems, I'll admit though. When you hear crap in the news about kids having trouble because of video games, it's because some ******* parent bought GTA for a 4 year old (yes I knew a four year old that played GTA). Apparently your parents think differently, it's anyone under 17. Use their game against them. If you've got great grades and you do nothing wrong, tell them you deserve a game. I personally don't have any M games just because of a lack of interest in any [Nintendo platformed] M games, but my guess is that 13 is still kinda early. There will ALWAYS be some hot shooter out by the time your get to buying one.

 

[Mazaloth]

Light House. Go now!

 

[zeldspazz]

Ok, wow didn't expect this many people just over dinner.

Anyway thanks to every and a few points I want to make:

1: honestly, the cellphone was just an example. I'm not going to cry over it, but you know it would be nice, plus my siser got one when she was younger than I am atm.

2: Most of these are actually just examples, I guess I was just kinda venting a bit to be honest. It's just that, where I live, everything is centered around popularity and video games. If you don't have good games, and your not popular (I'm kinda mid level on popularity, I have friends, but I'm not "all the rage") your pretty much screwed where I live. It's sad, I wish it wasn't like that, but life is life here =\

Thanks you for the honest answers!

Changing title so it doesn't look like its all about the things I'd recieve, but more about a protective parent thing.

 

[mentosman8]

I can definitely see where your parents are coming from. They may be a bit too strict, but really it's because they care about you and don't want to see something bad happen to you. Is COD going to do damage to your psyche? Who knows. But at the same time, ratings are there for a reason(and yes, I hated them when I was too young to buy games for myself too), and I have to give kudos to your parents for trying to keep you with age appropriate games.

Like some other people said, you really don't need a cell phone at your age, and for your parents to take on the bill for a phone(which can be quite a pain, trust me) for someone your age isn't a very strong financial decision. Remember, money is a huge factor in life, and honestly before you're able to drive a cell phone is a luxury, and then it becomes a necessity(from a parents standpoint, in reality until you have a job that needs one cell phones are pretty much ALWAYS a luxury) simply so they can get a hold of you.

The movie thing is kind of a bit much, I'll admit, but once again, they're simply trying to stick with the ratings, so you can't be too mad at them for trying to be responsible.

Finally, your comment about Monster, I am 100% behind them on that. You're very young. Not only do you have more than enough energy just from that, but Monster is NOT good for you. The last thing you need to do is build up a dependence on caffeine when you've got a lot of energy to begin with. It makes perfect sense to keep little kids(as slave said, you're still in that category for a couple years) away from drinks like that, and you've got no reason to complain there.

 

[Jimnymebob]

I ain't 'fraid of no ghosts!

Yeah, if they're being protective, then they probably care about you.

Most of the things that you want are material possessions though, and I'm sure your parents grew up fine without mobile phones/ playing Call of Duty 5.

 

[Mith_]

well obviously this guy rolled us lol.

 

[slave1]

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Finally, your comment about Monster, I am 100% behind them on that. You're very young. Not only do you have more than enough energy just from that, but Monster is NOT good for you. The last thing you need to do is build up a dependence on caffeine when you've got a lot of energy to begin with. It makes perfect sense to keep little kids(as slave said, you're still in that category for a couple years) away from drinks like that, and you've got no reason to complain there.

true that. energy drinks drain your adrenal system. (you probably dont know what that is) but it will seriously screw with you body as you are growing

 

[Azua]

Locking by request.