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Hey guys, I just came back from the eye doctor so my vision is a bit blur-
>reads thread
Oh no.
Coricus said:
EVERYONE OTHER THAN ME HATES YOU.
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I don't hate him. Never did, even though I didn't treat him all that well at first.
I'm trying my best to help him improve.
 
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Professor Pumpkaboo said:
Alright alright alright

This is the only time Ill say this to you

dont you dare lump me in with the ones that legit dont care about him, understand me? That is one thing I will not stand for
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Thank you, really. :)
 
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at least i wasn't here and can focus thanks to the sweat :V

hope woomys okay, she looked like she took it harshest
 
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Probably going to skip this Killer Instinct stream and wait for the recap.

It's just a boring group of people talking.
 
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Last thing I have to say.

I think Coricus and Aurane are correct.

Coricus is right about how you all need to show more empathy toward me and to not accuse me because I do not fit in like you guys that well, but.

Aurane is right about how I need to improve myself so the drama can fade off. Though Aurane, you should not accept yourself as a bit mean.

All right, lets end this.
 
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Yep, I was ready to be a sad panda. Granted, it took me more rolls before that but it was a 5 orb and now my Niles has his Leo
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Nice, congrats :denzel:


I plan to do my last attempt to get Nephenee today as Im running out of F2P Orbs

༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ plz send good vibes
 
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Minerva's gonna be on three different banners and I'm not gonna pull her once.

Prove me wrong, FEH.
 
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Professor Pumpkaboo said:
Alright alright alright

This is the only time Ill say this to you

dont you dare lump me in with the ones that legit dont care about him, understand me? That is one thing I will not stand for
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Yellowlord said:
Maybe it's time I take a break from here...
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*sigh* I. . .

I got pretty worked up. Coming back to things after a short break, I realize I took out my frustrations on people that really didn't deserve it. That was wrong of me. That. . .I'm sorry.

That's part of why I had such a strong reaction in the first place. Because I'm still socially inept, very much so. But more than anything when I look at what Shiny says I flash back to when I was around his age. When I would feel my heart thumping for hours because I worried that something on the internet I said might be wrong. How I'd cry for an hour straight, face red tears streaming down, little red spots everywhere like freckles from all the blood vessels broken when I was right. How much I worried that everyone on the internet hated me because I said stupid things. And how much more traumatized I would have been if I'd actually been right. And the whole time, walking away for a bit to take a shower, I was shaking and my heart beating hard. Because I was flashing back to all of that all over again. I still am.

People say they can teach Shiny and then get frustrated when he doesn't instantly change. He won't. It took me years of getting older and experiencing more to get to this point, and am I fully mature in my behavior? Clearly, clearly not. It takes time. A lot of time. You can't just flip a switch and make a better Shiny, because this kind of stuff needs to bake in. He'll keep making mistakes no matter how much he's told no, because that's what I did for my entire childhood. Even if he wants to learn to be better, and I think he does, it'll take time for his judgement to beat out his impulses. And not days or weeks or even months, but years. But improvement will come.
 
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Coricus said:
*sigh* I. . .
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Coricus said:
I got pretty worked up. Coming back to things after a short break, I realize I took out my frustrations on people that really didn't deserve it. That was wrong of me. That. . .I'm sorry.

That's part of why I had such a strong reaction in the first place. Because I'm still socially inept, very much so. But more than anything when I look at what Shiny says I flash back to when I was around his age. When I would feel my heart thumping for hours because I worried that something on the internet I said might be wrong. How I'd cry for an hour straight, face red tears streaming down, little red spots everywhere like freckles from all the blood vessels broken when I was right. How much I worried that everyone on the internet hated me because I said stupid things. And how much more traumatized I would have been if I'd actually been right. And the whole time, walking away for a bit to take a shower, I was shaking and my heart beating hard. Because I was flashing back to all of that all over again. I still am.

People say they can teach Shiny and then get frustrated when he doesn't instantly change. He won't. It took me years of getting older and experiencing more to get to this point, and am I fully mature in my behavior? Clearly, clearly not. It takes time. A lot of time. You can't just flip a switch and make a better Shiny, because this kind of stuff needs to bake in. He'll keep making mistakes no matter how much he's told no, because that's what I did for my entire childhood. Even if he wants to learn to be better, and I think he does, it'll take time for his judgement to beat out his impulses. And not days or weeks or even months, but years. But improvement will come.
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Honestly... I get how you feel: I felt so alone and sad growing up because of how socially awkward I was. And seeing Shiny... I didn't want him to feel the same way I did. That's why I wanted to help him, and that's what I've been doing. I refuse to see him feel alone or afraid of not having friends or being socially awkward: I refuse to see him be like me when I was younger.

And well... you have all of us now, including me, the guy that loves you. Never forget that, ok Cori?

*hugs tightly*
 
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@ShinyLegendary

I don't really participate in this thread a lot, but I don't think you're cruel, or mean, and so anything else can be worked with. You're only 15. A lot of the users here are older, like myself, I am 25, so we have that life experience to know how to conceal our social awkwardness a bit better.

The people claiming they didn't act very similar to you when they were 15, well, they're lying. Just keep your head up and remember they aren't saying it out of vitriol and spite. Life is about growing and learning, and it's times like this when you need to do that. No hard feelings.

Hope everyone else is well. I'll go back to lurking now.
 
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Coricus said:
*sigh* I. . .

I got pretty worked up. Coming back to things after a short break, I realize I took out my frustrations on people that really didn't deserve it. That was wrong of me. That. . .I'm sorry.

That's part of why I had such a strong reaction in the first place. Because I'm still socially inept, very much so. But more than anything when I look at what Shiny says I flash back to when I was around his age. When I would feel my heart thumping for hours because I worried that something on the internet I said might be wrong. How I'd cry for an hour straight, face red tears streaming down, little red spots everywhere like freckles from all the blood vessels broken when I was right. How much I worried that everyone on the internet hated me because I said stupid things. And how much more traumatized I would have been if I'd actually been right. And the whole time, walking away for a bit to take a shower, I was shaking and my heart beating hard. Because I was flashing back to all of that all over again. I still am.

People say they can teach Shiny and then get frustrated when he doesn't instantly change. He won't. It took me years of getting older and experiencing more to get to this point, and am I fully mature in my behavior? Clearly, clearly not. It takes time. A lot of time. You can't just flip a switch and make a better Shiny, because this kind of stuff needs to bake in. He'll keep making mistakes no matter how much he's told no, because that's what I did for my entire childhood. Even if he wants to learn to be better, and I think he does, it'll take time for his judgement to beat out his impulses. And not days or weeks or even months, but years. But improvement will come.
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This. THIS.
This is honestly the best post I have seen today.

You all are rushing me to improve. I hear all of your complaints, you guys are not the only ones who are telling me about how I need to fix myself. I have been trying. The thing is, you guys are doing it too fast. I am sure I will improve, it is just going to take some time like what Coricus said. I do not like making myself look bad in public where unfamiliar people are, so I try to act my best behavior.

Situations will come when I get angry and look bad. That does not mean you all should give up on me. I was doing good with avoiding drama until all of this happened. I will continue to try to avoid drama.

Sure Aurane, maybe I do need to improve and to stop this nonsense. You are right, just everyone needs to show me more empathy.

Like when Swamp Sensei caused drama, you all were showing him empathy. Can the same happen to me please?
 
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Cutie Gwen said:
Jesus christ it's 32 degrees out here. For those using Farenheit instead of Celsius, that's 89.6. How the **** can anyone deny global warming when that happens?
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Where I'm from anything between 0-95 Farenheit is perfectly normal depending on the time of year. The seasons have started tilting oddly but I don't get to make temp cracks until it regularly hits the triple digits.

Thank goodness for central heating and air conditioning. Those box fans don't do squat.
 
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Minerva's gonna be on three different banners and I'm not gonna pull her once.

Prove me wrong, FEH.
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I still didn't pull a single summer unit this season. Though it could be to blame that i'm a little burnt out on Heroes and only been using the daily logins.
 
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Oh yeah and I finally upgraded Caeda's Wing Sword. And I did a five orb random summon a few days ago and got Summer Adult Tiki, so that was neat.
 
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Hey Shiny? Is it ok if we continue this topic in a private PM? I feel it's better to get your frustrations out privately at this point.
 
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The thing is some people just have a limit on their patience and tolerance for behavior they don't care for, so if people want to ignore him rather than interact with him, period, then that's their decision. I would say trying to help someone grow or offer advice in a time of need is the right thing to do, and it is; you have to be careful about how you treat younger folk, because not everyone is as mature as others might've been at their age, and treating them badly can affect them later in life, not just in that very moment; especially if they're already dealing with some issues in life. Not to mention lacking the patience and morality to ever be civil and rational and with them at all is not a good thing. Neither is getting angry with or insulting kids just because they're kids or lack awareness or maturity. I've seen those kinds of attitudes from people many times before, and it's awful. But for the most part this thread hasn't come near to crossing that line. At least I don't think it has. People have their limits. I get that.

I really want to see Shiny mature, myself, I'm more than willing to believe he really is just a kid that simply needs to grow up a little. I was very awkward when I was around his age, and in some regards I'd even say I was a bit similar to him. So I understand his position. But a few others have mentioned that this is essentially a cycle that constantly repeats itself, and as a matter of fact, that cycle just did repeat itself. Shiny does something a few people might find questionable (justified, unjustified, or otherwise) people get upset about it, Shiny feels hurt, other people get upset with each other as a result, Shiny gets offered advice, sometimes a moderator has to step in, the thread calms down, then the thread moves on, and then this cycle repeats itself later on. I can definitely see why people have gotten tired of it by now.

I'm not even necessarily putting Shiny at fault for this. But so little has changed from us, strangers on the Internet, trying to help another stranger, a young teen, mature and learn, that I can't see us continuing to do so making any kind of real difference in a relatively short amount of time. Many of us have said it before; Shiny needs help, but it shouldn't be from us. Certainly not most of it. All we can do at this point is be friendly, supportive and patient with him. Because I haven't seen the many attempts from numerous users here to offer sage advice to him make a significant difference. Largely, it's more aided to the process of starting the same loop that's already occurred again and again that has made a lot of people lose their patience. And frankly, not all of us are as mature as we probably want Shiny to be, either. I know I'm not. That's only one reason out of many that we are far from the ideal place for kids and teens to regularly seek serious life advice. That doesn't mean we should ignore or get angry with them, not at all. We should still tolerate Shiny as necessary and I think that can be said about pretty much everyone on this site. I gotta admit, I do think being on this site has helped me mature, but I rarely learned just because people directly told me what I "needed" to do. I learned and grew my own way, at my own pace.

It can't be said for certain how Shiny will learn and grow, but I think what has been happening in this thread for the past few months hasn't made a major difference for him. At least not that the grand majority of us can see. So, if nothing else, keeping it short, Shiny simply needs the time to grow. And until then, we would do best to simply treat him well, and reasonably. Offering advice isn't a bad thing, so we don't just need to refrain from doing that. But no one here should expect to immediately see growth and change because of what any of us say someone else "should" do. Everyone is different, everyone can be different from others were at the same age, and everyone learns and grows differently, because of specific reasons that just so happen to be helping their growth. That's it. Shiny is gonna grow up. Both now and even after he's greatly matured, we should treat him reasonably in accordance to his actions and behavior, and how sensitive any issue of his at hand truly is, just as we should with everyone else.

I know this is a bit late for me to say, but I wanted to say my piece on the matter and writing it all out took a little while. Just don't think less of yourself for any time someone gets upset with you, Shiny, alright? You're a good kid. Nothing you've done has changed that.
 
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@ShinyLegendary

I don't really participate in this thread a lot, but I don't think you're cruel, or mean, and so anything else can be worked with. You're only 15. A lot of the users here are older, like myself, I am 25, so we have that life experience to know how to conceal our social awkwardness a bit better.

The people claiming they didn't act very similar to you when they were 15, well, they're lying. Just keep your head up and remember they aren't saying it out of vitriol and spite. Life is about growing and learning, and it's times like this when you need to do that. No hard feelings.

Hope everyone else is well. I'll go back to lurking now.
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This is also a good post, you are 100% correct.
In a few years I will get out of the awkward teen state. :p
 
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I definitely acted like Shiny when I was his age at times, even here. The only difference is that I was just much more withdrawn while Shiny tries to contribute to every conversation (a trait that I admire at times, honestly).
I've come a long way since, but everyone grows in their own pace, so it's understandable if Shiny doesn't change in a moment's notice.
 
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14-15 year old me would constantly be ranting about how no one loves him and spouting self-righteous bull****.

...yeah I'm glad I didn't join Smashboards in 2009/2010
 
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