Crystanium
Smash Hero
What prompted me to post this tonight was my brother's loss against me. No doubt he won against me a few times and even won against others on FG. He's been playing a lot longer than I have. I only have like three months of experience, but in these months I've improved pretty well to even hold my own against gold players on Anther's Ladder if that means anything. Even my brother was surprised as he didn't think I'd do well.
My brother, like myself, has a short temper when it comes to losing, though he didn't behave in such a manner when he went to tournaments. (I've gotten my anger problem somewhat resolved with a class I attend, so my approach on losing is now different.) This brings me to my point. When it comes to losing, it's understandable to be upset, but it shouldn't discourage you.
People like myself who have lost in the past were afraid of losing. Here's a helpful tip: You can't lose if you never play. On the other side of the same coin, you can't win, either. Losing may be understood as failure, and I'm certain looking up the word may be synonymous or will mention failure. However, the way I see it depends on how you take your loss.
Anger can cause you to push others away. It can cause you to become discouraged. Neither of these are beneficial. What's beneficial is considering why you lost and what you can do next time to avoid losing. This is known as metagaming. Losing helps you improve. It doesn't mean you're a terrible player and you'll never be good. That is a fabrication of the mind. I main Samus. I know she's low tier, but I strive to be the best.
If giving yourself a purpose for becoming the best is what you need to push yourself forward, then use that. In spite of losing and getting discouraged, I reminded myself, "No, I'm going to be the best Samus, if not one of the best." I've gotten tips from other Samus players, and although I don't consider myself an expert, I try giving tips to other players.
Remember, you cannot become good if you never lose. Losing is part of life. Accept it or grovel in your own pity. You choose. For those who lose and see it as a way to improve, take that loss, consider what your rewards and punishments are. Keep the former, remove the latter. Replace your mistakes with new methods to reduce or prevent punishments. Most importantly, believe your wins come from effort and dedication, not talent or luck.
My brother, like myself, has a short temper when it comes to losing, though he didn't behave in such a manner when he went to tournaments. (I've gotten my anger problem somewhat resolved with a class I attend, so my approach on losing is now different.) This brings me to my point. When it comes to losing, it's understandable to be upset, but it shouldn't discourage you.
People like myself who have lost in the past were afraid of losing. Here's a helpful tip: You can't lose if you never play. On the other side of the same coin, you can't win, either. Losing may be understood as failure, and I'm certain looking up the word may be synonymous or will mention failure. However, the way I see it depends on how you take your loss.
Anger can cause you to push others away. It can cause you to become discouraged. Neither of these are beneficial. What's beneficial is considering why you lost and what you can do next time to avoid losing. This is known as metagaming. Losing helps you improve. It doesn't mean you're a terrible player and you'll never be good. That is a fabrication of the mind. I main Samus. I know she's low tier, but I strive to be the best.
If giving yourself a purpose for becoming the best is what you need to push yourself forward, then use that. In spite of losing and getting discouraged, I reminded myself, "No, I'm going to be the best Samus, if not one of the best." I've gotten tips from other Samus players, and although I don't consider myself an expert, I try giving tips to other players.
Remember, you cannot become good if you never lose. Losing is part of life. Accept it or grovel in your own pity. You choose. For those who lose and see it as a way to improve, take that loss, consider what your rewards and punishments are. Keep the former, remove the latter. Replace your mistakes with new methods to reduce or prevent punishments. Most importantly, believe your wins come from effort and dedication, not talent or luck.
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