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My girlfriend and I have been together for a little while now and she's always talking about her dad. Now before you make any wild accusations here, read on.
Her mother has what's called borderline personality disorder. For those of you that know what this is, you can skip this section. The Borderline Personality is basically the "I Hate You -- Don't leave Me!" concept. If you've ever known someone like this, they probably have this problem as well. Basically her mom was so insane that she started to force the insanity unto her daughter (my girlfriend) and cause her to become abnormally stressed, resulting in a few mental issues that were solved after her mother left.
Now, for the sake of her, I'm leaving names out (Her dad will be referred to as Bob, and her step-mom will be Jane). Bob and Jane have been together for a few years, though not Bob and Jane are not married, Jane is still like a step-mom to my girlfriend. Bob, is verbally abusive to my girlfriend, while treating her more like a wife than a daughter. He forces her to do all of the laundry, wash dishes, cook, clean the house, and whatever else he decides for her to do while he messes around with his horse all day: EVERY DAY! Add all of this on to being a junior in high school and participating in the cross country team and you've got one heck of a load of work. Now that may not seem like too much to some of you, you may even do the same; however, when she messes anything up (in his standards) he completely loses it and goes berserk, yelling and fussing.
A few examples:
EX1. a few days ago, she went to feed her dogs. She feeds two dogs with one bowl and the other dogs with a separate bowl. Bob feels it's necessary to scream and yell that she needs to feed them all separately because the one that already is fed separately is losing weight... And to add on, he said he was going to take the dogs away.
EX2. As a joke, she updated her facebook to married to some guy (inside joke going on here :D). Someone email her dad today asking why they hadn't received an invitation. Now her dad flips **** and tells her she's being ridiculous and that he's going to take her computer away if she pulls anymore of "this bull****." Jane comes in and tells her that she ******* ******** and is being an immature *****, and saying that her dad is right and they should have to deal with a worthless daughter like the one they have.
EX3. A few moths ago, their house was vandalized. A hose was chopped into a million peices, obviously making it her fault. He was gone that day so it couldn't have been his fault, and since she was home for a few hours, she was supposed to check outside on the side of the house with no windows to make sure no one was chopping up the random hose... (Make sense to anyone else)
Now i could go on with ******** examples of crap he says to her, but I think you understand the picture. I'd also like to say, he gets mad at her for doing homework before doing the house work...
Now she has a regular counselor she sees for check up appointments for what her mom did, so her next one is in 4 weeks. She wants to talk to her about it to see what to do, or what she can do...
So my question for everyone here is, what does she do for the next 4 weeks? He pulls this kind of crap everyday and it's stressing her to no end. She can't leave the house because she can't support herself right now (medical expenses, housing, etc.) and she can't stop doing what he asks because he'll just pull her off of everything (she's 18) and take all of her 'privileges' away. She can't talk to him because he's ALWAYS yelling at her or 'busy' with the horse...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a little while now and she's always talking about her dad. Now before you make any wild accusations here, read on.
Her mother has what's called borderline personality disorder. For those of you that know what this is, you can skip this section. The Borderline Personality is basically the "I Hate You -- Don't leave Me!" concept. If you've ever known someone like this, they probably have this problem as well. Basically her mom was so insane that she started to force the insanity unto her daughter (my girlfriend) and cause her to become abnormally stressed, resulting in a few mental issues that were solved after her mother left.
Now, for the sake of her, I'm leaving names out (Her dad will be referred to as Bob, and her step-mom will be Jane). Bob and Jane have been together for a few years, though not Bob and Jane are not married, Jane is still like a step-mom to my girlfriend. Bob, is verbally abusive to my girlfriend, while treating her more like a wife than a daughter. He forces her to do all of the laundry, wash dishes, cook, clean the house, and whatever else he decides for her to do while he messes around with his horse all day: EVERY DAY! Add all of this on to being a junior in high school and participating in the cross country team and you've got one heck of a load of work. Now that may not seem like too much to some of you, you may even do the same; however, when she messes anything up (in his standards) he completely loses it and goes berserk, yelling and fussing.
A few examples:
EX1. a few days ago, she went to feed her dogs. She feeds two dogs with one bowl and the other dogs with a separate bowl. Bob feels it's necessary to scream and yell that she needs to feed them all separately because the one that already is fed separately is losing weight... And to add on, he said he was going to take the dogs away.
EX2. As a joke, she updated her facebook to married to some guy (inside joke going on here :D). Someone email her dad today asking why they hadn't received an invitation. Now her dad flips **** and tells her she's being ridiculous and that he's going to take her computer away if she pulls anymore of "this bull****." Jane comes in and tells her that she ******* ******** and is being an immature *****, and saying that her dad is right and they should have to deal with a worthless daughter like the one they have.
EX3. A few moths ago, their house was vandalized. A hose was chopped into a million peices, obviously making it her fault. He was gone that day so it couldn't have been his fault, and since she was home for a few hours, she was supposed to check outside on the side of the house with no windows to make sure no one was chopping up the random hose... (Make sense to anyone else)
Now i could go on with ******** examples of crap he says to her, but I think you understand the picture. I'd also like to say, he gets mad at her for doing homework before doing the house work...
Now she has a regular counselor she sees for check up appointments for what her mom did, so her next one is in 4 weeks. She wants to talk to her about it to see what to do, or what she can do...
So my question for everyone here is, what does she do for the next 4 weeks? He pulls this kind of crap everyday and it's stressing her to no end. She can't leave the house because she can't support herself right now (medical expenses, housing, etc.) and she can't stop doing what he asks because he'll just pull her off of everything (she's 18) and take all of her 'privileges' away. She can't talk to him because he's ALWAYS yelling at her or 'busy' with the horse...
