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Smash Journeyman
Link to original post: [drupal=2451]First week at uni (shall be updated with each day)[/drupal]
Day 1
I'm staying with a host family, not halls unlike most people and felt that the whole friend making process would be daunting and almost impossible. But on the ride there I managed to build my confidence and hopes up.
I arrived at the home of the family I'm staying with and they were very friendly and nice, they had several children which I did not expect but they were quite lax about rules and so forth. My father and I had a little chat with them though my father led most of the conversation as I still had nerves and felt conscious in front of my dad. But once he left I felt a little more comfortable and soon left for the night at the bar planned for freshers with host families.
The time online said between 6-7 but once I arrive the bar lady said 7 and I had turned up about 6.15 and felt uncomfortable with the groups of people already in the bar and so walked around campus a bit texting people for company. Eventually I decided to return to the bar and wait for someone else in a host family to turn up by themselves and I'd introduce myself but no one seemed too and the only person who did then got himself integrated into a group.
I sat alone reading a newspaper and texting people when finally two guys approached me to say hello and introduced themselves. They were both quite 'laddy' but I was glad for the company and soon a third guy joined us who was less laddy, more middle class and a bit of eye candy for the ladies. Of course, women joined our group as did some other guy and I talked to them all a bit, still feeling nervous with some people but feeling a bit more comfortable and less scared. Though I still wanted to meet some potential friends.
I got myself an alcohol soon and began to feel a lot more confident and as part of the group drifted away from me more people joined who I chatted to and got on well with. Eventually, me and a guy introduced ourselves to people on a nearby table who I also liked. However, they were not the sort of group I would of got on with as our interests differed and they were becoming this 'goth' group which culture I did not get.
I excused myself to the loo and got a little lost when some people from earlier helped guide me to it. When I returned I saw another group of people which had a good mix and so excused myself to talk to them. I approached online, something I imagined I would never do but came in confidently and the people got on well with me despite them all knowing each other. A girl there asked for my phone number and they left as they were living together. Soon me and these two tall fellas (I'm 5"5) were left alone and talking when I decided to socialise a bit more.
We went over to the pool section while they played and I watched, I went off to chat to some people which I thought were freshers but soon found out were masters degree people. I went back to those people and talked to them while they finished their game. Once they did I proposed some socialising and we all went over to a group of girls were I led the group and they all seemed really good. We did a bit more socialising but soon I decided it would be best to head off as the host family might be waiting for me.
I passed the halls where there was a lot of partying and blaring music. I don't like that whole culture but felt a bit sad because I didn't feel like a part of a group truly or feel the same friendship as I did with anyone back at sixth form. But it's just the first night and I have my tickets for the party tomorrow.
Day 1
I'm staying with a host family, not halls unlike most people and felt that the whole friend making process would be daunting and almost impossible. But on the ride there I managed to build my confidence and hopes up.
I arrived at the home of the family I'm staying with and they were very friendly and nice, they had several children which I did not expect but they were quite lax about rules and so forth. My father and I had a little chat with them though my father led most of the conversation as I still had nerves and felt conscious in front of my dad. But once he left I felt a little more comfortable and soon left for the night at the bar planned for freshers with host families.
The time online said between 6-7 but once I arrive the bar lady said 7 and I had turned up about 6.15 and felt uncomfortable with the groups of people already in the bar and so walked around campus a bit texting people for company. Eventually I decided to return to the bar and wait for someone else in a host family to turn up by themselves and I'd introduce myself but no one seemed too and the only person who did then got himself integrated into a group.
I sat alone reading a newspaper and texting people when finally two guys approached me to say hello and introduced themselves. They were both quite 'laddy' but I was glad for the company and soon a third guy joined us who was less laddy, more middle class and a bit of eye candy for the ladies. Of course, women joined our group as did some other guy and I talked to them all a bit, still feeling nervous with some people but feeling a bit more comfortable and less scared. Though I still wanted to meet some potential friends.
I got myself an alcohol soon and began to feel a lot more confident and as part of the group drifted away from me more people joined who I chatted to and got on well with. Eventually, me and a guy introduced ourselves to people on a nearby table who I also liked. However, they were not the sort of group I would of got on with as our interests differed and they were becoming this 'goth' group which culture I did not get.
I excused myself to the loo and got a little lost when some people from earlier helped guide me to it. When I returned I saw another group of people which had a good mix and so excused myself to talk to them. I approached online, something I imagined I would never do but came in confidently and the people got on well with me despite them all knowing each other. A girl there asked for my phone number and they left as they were living together. Soon me and these two tall fellas (I'm 5"5) were left alone and talking when I decided to socialise a bit more.
We went over to the pool section while they played and I watched, I went off to chat to some people which I thought were freshers but soon found out were masters degree people. I went back to those people and talked to them while they finished their game. Once they did I proposed some socialising and we all went over to a group of girls were I led the group and they all seemed really good. We did a bit more socialising but soon I decided it would be best to head off as the host family might be waiting for me.
I passed the halls where there was a lot of partying and blaring music. I don't like that whole culture but felt a bit sad because I didn't feel like a part of a group truly or feel the same friendship as I did with anyone back at sixth form. But it's just the first night and I have my tickets for the party tomorrow.
