if you're using an alternate meaning, then why not say nigg@, the word created as the alternate meaning? i think i may have gotten ledger to see this, so i might be able to get you too. some would say that ****** can be friendly or funny. if you ask a black dude that doesn't play the gamecube competitively, i can almost assure you he would not be among these people. while you say that intention is the only thing that matters, linguistics and history beg to differ.
as an asian, how the **** did you just decide "oh, ****** can mean the same thing as nigg@". yeah i said it. i feel that those who the words are meant to offend should decide whats offensive or not. and by and large, ****** only has one meaning. if you intend to be "friendly" with it, what you really meant to say was nigg@.
words are still created with intentions. the intention of a person does not necessarily change the intention of a word. if you mean to be comical/friendly, there is a word for that. if you mean to be derogatory, there is a word for that. in black culture, there is no gray area, whether you free thinkers want to make one or not.