Asking for Advice

[Sahfarry]

We could use this thread to ask for any advice in general, be it about life, friends. Idk we had a dating one, but I thought we needed a general one.

I'm going to start by asking for advice. So my friend had been going out with a girl for about 2 years. He considered it serious and when they recently broke up he sounded heart-broken. Not too long after that, he tried to go after the girl that my other friend liked (NOTE: this is all high school stuff). This shows that he really would do anything for a girlfriend at this point and it scares me kinda. He VERY recently sent out texts to a bunch of girls saying that he likes them, and it seems he's just trying to see who goes for it. I'm not a fan of the situation, and neither were the girls because they know what's going on. One of the girls is going out with one of his friends, which I thought weird. He's not known for making the smartest decisions, and I know he won't listen to us. We think it'd be good for him to take a break from girls and stuff, and we want to talk to him about this. What do you think is the best way to do this without hurting him in anyway.

tl;dr: my friend and his girlfriend recently broke up and he's now going after any girl he can get, but to no avail. how can we tell him that he should tone it down without hurting him?

 

[Vashimus]

Your friend is pretty much in desperation mode it seems. While it's fine to try to go on dates with multiple girls, he's doing it in a rather creepy and manipulative way.

You gotta tell him to cut the sh*t and calm his ****. Messaging girls and telling them that he has crushes on ALL of them just shows he's willing to play with their emotions just to get what he wants. He may not be that type of person, but that's what the girls are definitely thinking. It just reeks of desperation and it's not going to get him anywhere.

 

[Sahfarry]

You gotta tell him to cut the sh*t and calm his ****. Messaging girls and telling them that he has crushes on ALL of them just shows he's willing to play with their emotions just to get what he wants. He may not be that type of person, but that's what the girls are definitely thinking. It just reeks of desperation and it's not going to get him anywhere.

Yeah, ever since the breakup he has been doing a lot of things to get on people's bad sides.. I don't want to disclose every detail, but he's been really pissing people off. Me included. I really don't think he's trying to do this stuff on purpose because, knowing him, he doesn't quite understand the reality of his actions. My other friend (Say, Friend B for simplicity's sake) was planning on having some serious "intervention" of some sort, but, again knowing Friend A, he wouldn't listen to us. Friend A is slowly becoming the initiator of many eyerolls and facepalms. I don't really want to see this out of him, and my thought is that we start playing videogames with him like we always used to. Hopefully this will help him get him mind off of girls (we think he needs a break at least). Again, I don't think this will work out as well.

Do you think we should try any of the other two ways? Or should we stick with the direct approach that you described?