Pre-edit: Most of this was directed at OP and random people I've seen most similar opinions, and I admit I wrote it before really reading much of the rest of the thread. Having gone through it now, I'm actually pretty pleased with responses from people to it. I had a blast watching the Apex stream, wish I coulda gone, but major props to everyone involved. I have my gripes with tournaments running behind schedule consistently, but I know it's not from a lack of effort and will by people to make it a success.
It perplexes me why anyone in the smash community wouldn't want to be closer to the fighting game community. Do you not want to be respected as a fighting game? Do you not want interest and growth in your own game? Must someone forsake all other gaming to enjoy smash? Maybe I'm just hearing the loudest people instead of the general consensus, but it sure sounds like a lot of you want this to be a fraternity that pushes out anyone who doesn't share your opinions. There were 6000+ people watching melee and brawl finals on the apex stream. For a smash tournament, that's a huge number. Part of it was from the inclusion of traditional fighters in the tournament, as even if they were there trolling up the chat with anti-smash comments, they were watching smash.
Apex did have its share of issues, from a stream viewer's standpoint, but I don't see how trying to get closer with the traditional fighting game community was one of them. How do you expect smash to survive without a constant influx of new blood? And what better source of new blood than people who already enjoy fighting games? Maybe there are legitimate answers to these questions I don't recognize.
As for the stream, jerks are going to be jerks, it's part of the internet. You get 6000+ people watching a stream, allow them to name themselves whatever they want, and you're bound to have a good number of trolls. This isn't helpful to those actually interested in what's going on on stream, I agree, but I doubt active modding would have been able to prevent much of it in a meaningful way. Banning people for anti-smash comments just makes us look like elitist pricks that can't take some jabs at our game.
With the commentary, I thought it was decent overall, but indeed lacking at points. I think that's moreso an issue with just not having many quality commentators (that I know of) for smash. I thought it was sufficient, but i can understand some criticism there.
That the tournament ran late is nothing particularly new as far as smash tournaments go. It's a trend that I really wish would stop though, and here I do agree with you. Not knocking the TOs too much, I know Alex Strife and Co. put a ton of work into preparing for this, and **** happens, but when every other major tournament is delayed, and ends up either finishing late, at another location, or forcing them to cut events, ...I don't know. Things can go wrong, but you have to expect things to go wrong and prepare for it. I don't want to say too much as I've done very little in the way of TOing and don't want to be a hypocrit, but the frequency that tournaments get delayed unsettles me.
The Isai crews thing was kinda silly, but I can understand it. The potentiality of it was hype. I was hype. If the TOs jumped in and stopped it before it could start, I'm sure a number of people would have been disappointed. I don't know if it was handled as smoothly as it could have been, but I'm not aware of it holding up anything (correct me if I'm wrong). Was just a fun little moment.
Finally, on the Melee and Brawl happening at the same time, I'm a little unclear on the point your making. If your understanding is that M2K forfeited the remainder of his Melee matches because the Brawl schedule physically conflicted with his Melee matches (so that he would have to quit one in order to complete his matches in the other), then that's not correct. After his loss to Wobbles he chose to drop the remainder of Melee so he could focus completely on Brawl and try to make money in that game. If we both understand this and you're implying that both games shouldn't be played at the same time because it's difficult to switch between the two, then I still disagree. I know you don't hold other fighting games in high regard, but at their tournaments it's common to have multiple game brackets going on simultaneously. Why? It makes tournament sense. Once TVs free up in one, start up another. This allows TVs to always be in use for progressing the tournament and making sure it doesn't run past schedule. If you enter multiple events, you do so with the understanding that this will occur.
That about sums up how I feel about Apex, and the current smash community in general. I want Melee and Brawl and Street Fighter and Marvel and everyone to get along. Cross game trashtalk is going to happen, and it's healthy at times, but vehement avoidance of eachother's communities is frankly absurd. Lets have awesome tournaments of awesome games.