Corgi
Smash Cadet
I have very few close friends, but I'm not an introvert. I like to say I am, but I'm not. I get that it's a growing thing these days, too, what with having grown up socializing behind screens, makes the whole first-time face-to-face thing a little jarring. I say I'm an introvert, though, to justify not wanting to speak to people for really shallow/minor reasons.
I people watch like a hawk. I find observing people in their moments absurdly interesting. I make judgements based on those observations, compare them to other people I've known, and establish a theoretical "persona" of what that person would be if I came to know them very well. Often times, that persona isn't even influenced by direct interaction, but I will make a statement to myself whether or not I'm willing or even active in going out of my way to communicate/ get to know that person. I will only ever put in that effort if I judge them to be someone worth my time, who is a morally well-adjusted person, who has some degree of social tact, and who won't say/do really cringy **** that will make me immediately regret everything.
I recognize that as shallow and judgemental, and to a degree, I'm not proud of it, but it's in my nature and I can't avoid it. I figure this is a relevant topic on the notion of showing up to a tournament scene for Smash. I've gone to a handful of meetings for my college Smash club, and for the most part keep to myself or just watch sets without providing commentary for the peanut gallery.
Is it wrong or weird to do this if, up until this point, all of those judgements have been somewhat accurate? What are your thoughts, how do you go about approaching a stranger, what qualities do you look for in someone you think you could be friends with? I'm really interested to know.
I people watch like a hawk. I find observing people in their moments absurdly interesting. I make judgements based on those observations, compare them to other people I've known, and establish a theoretical "persona" of what that person would be if I came to know them very well. Often times, that persona isn't even influenced by direct interaction, but I will make a statement to myself whether or not I'm willing or even active in going out of my way to communicate/ get to know that person. I will only ever put in that effort if I judge them to be someone worth my time, who is a morally well-adjusted person, who has some degree of social tact, and who won't say/do really cringy **** that will make me immediately regret everything.
I recognize that as shallow and judgemental, and to a degree, I'm not proud of it, but it's in my nature and I can't avoid it. I figure this is a relevant topic on the notion of showing up to a tournament scene for Smash. I've gone to a handful of meetings for my college Smash club, and for the most part keep to myself or just watch sets without providing commentary for the peanut gallery.
Is it wrong or weird to do this if, up until this point, all of those judgements have been somewhat accurate? What are your thoughts, how do you go about approaching a stranger, what qualities do you look for in someone you think you could be friends with? I'm really interested to know.