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I think you just underestimate peoples' ability to emotionally regulate themselves. A story I often share is how I spent the day Geno was deconfirmed for Brawl in St. Martin's graveyard in Canterbury, England... In the rain. Extremely melodramatic in hindsight but that was part of my way of processing things. I get the concern but it's not on you and it's not your responsibility. In my experience, it's better to be available if people want help rather than insist they need it. Autonomy is important and it's a hard pill to swallow, especially for empaths like yourself.

"it's better to be available if people want help rather than insist they need it."

Maybe you are right. Maybe you are right. Still, it is kinda hard to estimate the ability for people to regulate their emotions because, well, we are on something called the internet. You know how it is. There seem to be a lot of manchildren on the internet. So many of them can't regulate their emotions. Now I am not saying Geno fans are manchildren, but with so many manchildren, it is hard to tell who can regulate their emotions and who can't. That said, knowing my faults, yeah, I did underestimate people's ability to do that. I tried helping out people in the Sonic fanbase but that did not go well, and how the results affected me kind of carried to me being with Geno fans. Now, you nor I can compare Geno fans to the manchildren, of course, but even for me, it was kinda hard to tell who was who, with how positive things were, not that it is a crime, but even the Geno fans, outside or inside the Geno threads, or just outside, whatever, has its bad apples. I was just worried, if a bit or way too much. I don't really even know everyone in the Geno thread that well. Perhaps I should get to know them better. I was also worried about the impressions from Geno fans to those outside the thread, and how outsiders think of us. Then again, us Geno fans probably would not care, so maybe it wasn't worth getting worked up about. I mean, many Geno fans do seem different from most outside the thread. Plus, I still say having too much positivity can be bad, but with the ability to regulate emotions well, well...you know the rest. I was also upset about people blindly believing in Cacomallow, but whatever.

Still, I did feel you in particular mocked me with one post. I don't know your intentions were, but...


Whatever your intention was, good or bad, I did feel mocked some by this.

Did you get my last message?

I did because, like I pointed out, the Geno fanbase is literally a fanbase that has had all four tires explode inches from the finish line... TWICE. Overcoming crushing disappointment has practically come to define the fanbase. It's who we are. Murphy's Law might as well be the name of a pub we go to for after work drinks everyday because we're so familiar with it. The Geno fanbase has already been BTFO in legendary sense twice and yet, here we are. As I often remind the thread, a lot of fanbases packed it up and never recovered after Brawl but we did and a lot of outsiders to the fanbase don't realize that disappointment just makes us stronger and more determined. We're tenacious to a fault but it's a great thing to be a part of.

Well, to be honest, I was not here for Geno in the days of Brawl, and while I was there for Smash 4's days, I did not think Geno would have a chance by then. So I rarely interacted with Geno fans and supported Geno until now. But regardless, I do understand you guys have gone through a lot, so it seems clear that I have underestimated you guys. I practically know what you have gone through in particular. Still, I think you guys might be way too positive and overconfident (and by that, I only mean one thing; believing in Cacomallow, well, in terms of some people on the Geno thread only, but all in all, you should know what I mean). Like I said before though, I can't change anything about you guys, but even then, I couldn't even make an effort to change you guys if I wanted to, even. That is just how I am. Still, I think anyone who is entirely new to the Geno thread here could still easily lose it, or those new to Geno altogether, if only a few.As I said before, I do apologize for what I did, and my behavior. That said, you wouldn't happen to be still mad at me, would you?

Come to think of it, though, even if what you said is true, I don't think we have that much control of our emotions. Remember all those times Geno fans were told to hype responsibly, and how they reacted to it? And remember how Paraspikey was rather hostile to me a few days ago when I tried to say my stance? He even left a message I left on his profile without thinking. And remember the trolls from GameFAQs attacking the Geno thread here? I may still be understanding the ability to regulate emotions here, but I think you do overestimate how much control people have over their emotions. There is a chance that could happen to at least some Geno fans if Geno is not in. Geno may have gone through a lot, but how can we not get disappointed, if we can still get angry over what others say about us and try to do to us?

I do think that it is possible that Geno fans spend their energy being positive as far as I can see. It also may be possible that much of that energy has not been focused on self-improving. To regulate one's emotions, you have to improve, or change oneself. Not everyone has control of their emotions, let alone real well, and the actions of Geno fans within the last year have shown that in response of what others tried to say and do to them.

Don't get me wrong, I am not truly doubting you, but I am still, unsure about things here to say.

To improve on what exactly? Yeah, everyone can afford to improve on something but now we're now just rocket blasting into total condescension. Why have you deemed yourself the arbiter of that? Why have you deemed it YOUR responsibility? It's a weird savior complex and perhaps why you're getting the responses you're getting. It honestly reminds me of this:

Don't get me wrong, I was just making an observation. And like I said before, I wasn't truly doubting you, and wasn't trying to condescend. I have gotten into situations where it seemed I was condescending, when I was not. It seemed that way because of the limitations of text. You can even correct me if I am wrong here. Don't compare me to that U.S. Imperialism thing, by the way.

You're essentially insisting that you're "saving us from ourselves" because you supposedly know something about our OWN THINKING that we don't and are unironically arguing that you know us better than ourselves. "You're all adults but I know what's best for you." Yeah, people are definitely going to get uppity if an internet acquittance plays that age old game of "the missionary and the wild savage."